| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 3/29/2006 7:46:24 AM | friends with the x...that is a tough one. i am friends with all myx's except one and the reason i can't be friends with him is because i slept with him and was and parts of me is still in love with him. the thing that would bother me here is that i could not chance seeing him with another...  | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/13/2006 3:25:00 PM | | Interessant !! vraiment, next time you meet a new man ask him franchement that you are still freinds with yur ex boyfriend or ex husbend and if it ok, parfait, it's not ok at least you are honest about it. I think its healthy to be franc | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:40:18 PM |
I am still civilized to most of my ex's and on the surface we get along great, but we are by no means really friends anymore
Call me an a$$hole, or whatever, but the type of relationship you've mentioned with your ex's is why I've just become a bridge burner. I just have no desire to go thru that whole song and dance anymore.
Anyway, if it was a truly mutual breakup then it could work. If it wasn't then the odds are probably against you. | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:42:39 PM | Nope..all bridges are burned.
When it's over, it's all over. | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:52:05 PM | | Ya Know I have come to find out there was a reason I broke up with my Ex's they weren't my friends anymore!!! Hence the reason to break up......but I have to tell ya its kind of amusing meeting thier new boyfriends/Husbands......Case in point I met my exwife's husband a time back and we were left alone to get the feel of each other ya know what I mean sniffing each other to see who's the bigger "alpha" male.....so to break the ice I asked him flat out if she still made sounds like a retarded Chipmunk in the Bedroom.....well to say the least he turned red and went running for his wife for protection.....what a wuss anyhow the point is being "Civil" is the best you can do talking smack about each other isn't gonna fix the past and yeah it can hurt to know they are saying and doing the intimate things you used to do so to make it simple.....anytime you're invited over to be "Civil"....bring a Hooker with ya and have some fun at the dinner table.....these are just my opinions but what do I know. | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:52:40 PM | | I think it is grat to be friends with your ex. I have several that just call me to ask me what i think . I would never try to hurt them just because we did not make it does not mean that they can't be happy . I look at it like this one of these day's i may need a friend just to talk to . Been there done that ! cuddley kitten | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:21:51 PM | ok... friends with the ex sometimes work as long as you guys can agree not to have feelings past a friendship level what so ever... also, both of you need to be able not to get jelious when another one finds another person
but if either of you cant get over it... then it will never work out because one or the other will be hindered by this looming detail.
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:25:43 PM | Actually, I am very good friends with my ex. We have two children together, how can we be anything less? We did separate because we fought alot, but now that we're apart, and not getting on each other's nerves so much, we can get along quite well.
Don't get me wrong. It wasn't like that at first. He was very angry and bitter when I left. Actually, he was like that before I left lol. After he calmed down (took about 2 months which amazed me...I expected it to last a lot longer), we sat down, talked, and he finally admitted to me that we would be better off being friends rather than enemies.
Although it's confusing at times for our girls, in the long run, we believe it will work out so much better than for them to see us still fighting with each other. They will have learned that even though a relationship doesn't work out, there is no reason for people to hate each other and be enemies.
We spend holidays, and the girls' birthdays together with my family. He has always been much closer to my family than his own--probably because his family is totally off the deep end lol.
We do things for each other...he's been at my place quite a bit in the last few weeks because he's not working and can't afford to pay his child support. Instead, we've worked out an arrangement where he's doing a lot of minor repairs around my house. I get things done that need to be repaired, and he doesn't feel so guilty about not paying me. The minute he does go back to work, the child support will resume no questions asked.
I had a boyfriend, that I thought understood the situation, but I guess not, because he's now not speaking to me...and uh...won't tell me why. Oh well, c'est la vie! I was totally honest to him from the beginning about my situation with the ex, but I guess the trust that should have been there wasn't.
Sorry, I got a little off topic, but yes, you can be friends with your ex, but it does take time to work things out, and it's better for the children (if there are any) if you can be.  | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 4/20/2006 12:25:48 AM | | Well I'm still best friends with my ex. We were together for three years and were even engaged. I think that if you really want to make a friendship work with this person than you can. I mean you obviously cared enough about this person to be in a relationship with them physically or wotherwise so why should it be so hard to remain friends? Suppose it depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up. | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 5/24/2006 6:55:57 AM | | There is being friends with your ex and then there is being to good of friends with your ex. When you do not see your b/f for 2 weeks and he comes home from a trip to find you at his house 2 hours out of town and the next day you make no atempt to call or come home to see him. Your b/f may come to the conclusion that your don't care as much for him as you should. I hope this does not happen with your next b/f. | |
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| Friends with the ex?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:12:45 AM | I believe if your still friends with the ex, when their are no kids involved. Their is something their and you could not give all in a relationship to your next mate. In my 1st relationship I came 2nd to an ex, even on my own birthday. I believe it also creates communication problems in the relationship. Becaue the person is talking to the ex about the relationship, instead of the mate the person is with. I will not date some one who is friends with the ex, if their are no kids involved. It creates to many problems in the relationship. | |
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