| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/17/2007 11:22:18 AM | No offense to you Jed, but I think the reason so many people have not gotten married is due to the fact that they will live together.
Why would a man or woman marry ,when they are on the fence about it anyway, when
they can get the cow or the stud for free. We are just jipping ourselves out of great relationships doin this.
First of all, you should get to know the person you are with first before marrying them. People rush into the relationship way to fast. Alot of them I see are living together the first month to 6 months. This is soooooo shallow to me. It is not even a real relationship. Its a game, like playing house. Not a serious relationship at all. Maybe that is good enough for thouse of you who want to live that way. Whatever floats your boat.
But I believe you are missing out on something so wonderful and good. There is a special bonding between people when they commit and have a family. If you have never done this, you just don't know. I am glad I did this even though my marriage ended in divorce. The man I married wasn't right for me, but when I was young, there were no teachings on how to find a compatible person to spend the rest of my life with. This generation should be able to accomplish this with no problem. There is so much info out there.
I think marriage is the ultimate way to live life. Children are just awesome .There is a much deeper love than when you live together in my opinion. I have done both. So I know how my experience went.
If you want to be married. Don't live with anyone. Keep your door open to meet people that want what you want. They are out there. Just be patient. It will be worth it.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/17/2007 12:36:57 PM | ^^^ I agree 100% with the above poster. Living together short circuits the idea of getting married. I won't live with a man until we've exchanged marriage vows.
I'm not a religious person, but I do see the logic in having a legal commitment (marriage) before moving in together. Also in the US (I don't know about other countries), live-ins don't have the same inheritance, hospital visitation or other rights as do married people.
By not living together before marriage, this slows things down and allows the couple to get to know one another before living together.
This posting is NOT to condemn people who choose to live together before marriage or to not marry but remain live-ins. We are all adults, and we have that right to choose to be live-ins or wait until getting married to live together. Each couple must decide what is right for them. | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/17/2007 1:40:56 PM | Men and woman alike who are in the forties and have never been married in my eyes have either absorbed themselves in their occupations or have just never found that special person to want to settle down with.
Really there is nothing wrong with not settling and if more people did there would be a lost less divorce now a days!!!!!!!,.......And that is advice that I have learned the hard way....LOL | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/18/2007 3:32:28 AM | Im 43 and never been married or even shacked up with a guy in my life. People sometimes ask me why, and I can only reply that Ive never met anyone who i would want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes I think that there really must be something wrong with me but there are fatter/thinner/lazier/uglier/prettier/etc out there who have found someone to share their life with.
On the flip side, many of my friends are into their second or third marriages, and others are not happy yet chose to stay miserable for reasons beyond my comprehension. When I these people question my single-ness I usually reply that I have no desire to happy as they are in thier marriages:) | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/18/2007 5:35:19 AM | Never even owned a red flag
Not married and just reached 40
Between raising a daughter and working ... havent really slowed down long enough to find my equal
But Im in the mood for love and yes I would like to get married..... | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/19/2007 7:05:46 AM | I ,myself, ohh the shame,am over forty and never married,during the so-called excellent years i had a job that kept me on the road six days a week,then i started training racehorses and working anotherjob also,I stay busy,I also live in a very rural part of the country and its very hard to meet people because theres no place less than an hours drive to socialize.Is there something wrong with me other than i can't type?
Only thing I find is apparently i make a good friend and a great lover but since i'm not in to nine to five occupations and I dont like laying around on the couch gettin fat i'm just not into someone enough. Yea right,I always though a great relationship was a meeting in the middle not you have to change to be with me or I have to change to be with you but meeting somewhere in the middle.And for all thesze so called ladies with their red-flags and their he not into you books,I met a gal like you once all take and no give,and if thats the kind of person you are,you should stay single.
For myself,I'm not thrilled about still being single but theres bound to be a woman out there who' i have enough in common with that we can get along without trying to con or manipulate each other into being something besides what we are,and besides it's a lot of fun looking,even if it does rack up the miles on my old truck. Above all,be safe and happy fishing.  | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 8/19/2007 10:10:55 AM | By the time we have reached our forties, we ought to have learned to evaluate potential partners on an individual basis, rather than using stereotypes and broad generalizations, to sort them out.
Other things being equal, we might have a personal preference, for either never married or previously married partners. Enforcing this preference could lead to excluding a great partner, though.
Why not burn the flags, and consider character and personality, instead? | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 1/20/2008 4:47:54 AM | Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl
"Will you marry me?"
The girl said, "NO!"
And the girl lived happily ever after and went shopping,
dancing, camping, drank martinis, always had a clean house,
never had to cook, had sex with whomever she pleased...
did whatever the hell she wanted, never argued, never got fat,
traveled more, had many boyfriends, didn't
save money, and had all the hot water to herself.
She went to the theater, never watched football,
never wore fricken lacy lingerie that went up her
ass, had high self esteem, never cried or yelled,
felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants, and burped,
swore, and farted all the time.
THE END
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 1/20/2008 7:19:50 AM | i wouldnt say being over 30 and still single is a red flag, i find married men more of a red flag.
I would maybe wonder if there was something wrong with them, why they have not married, and maybe question if they were scared of commitment, but most dont these days.
I dont think it matters wherher your single or divorced, questions will always be asked. | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 4/5/2008 8:30:32 PM |
I don't find it to be a red flag if a guy is never married and over 40. Many professional men devoted their 20s and 30s to schooling and careers.
This is true, at least in the circles I move in. It seems people aren't ready for marriage until 35, and aren't getting married or having kids until late 30s and early 40s. | |
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:14:18 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories. It is just miserable as they are.
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Posted: 10/15/2008 9:14:26 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories. It is just miserable as they are.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:14:34 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories. It is just miserable as they are.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:18:03 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories. It is just miserable as they are.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:18:11 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories. It is just miserable as they are.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:19:11 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:19:19 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:19:49 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:20:15 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:20:59 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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| over 40 and never married...is this a RED FLAG!
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:33:14 PM | It is a a high probability that a man is having other priorities than stick to one woman and have serious relationship/ a family with her, if he recently did not:
-completed or still continuing his Advanced /Professional education
-separated from common law
-taking care of ill or old family member, poor health himself or unfertile
- returned from serving Forces or another services/ job with liabilities
- ended his working contract and relocated to another geographic area /immigration
-lost secure job/ housing/ assets/ hope/ soul mate
-raised in restricted environment- religion/custom
- live in gender disproportional population areas
- have a low sex drive/tired
-still waiting for consideration of real woman of his desire or "come- back” girlfriend
There can be something we can not know, as women, why a male can not stop at a particular available person. Why they imitate inability to take a decision and responsibility covering it up into "I am picky" or "Did not meet Right woman” categories.
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