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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/9/2009 10:10:24 PM | | I've heard that you should take a month for every year you were together with someone, but I think that's retarded. You just never know, it's different for eveyone I guess. | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/10/2009 12:35:37 AM | Cant remember who said we are born Tabula rasa (Latin: blank slate) refers to the epistemological thesis that individual human beings are born with no built-in mental content, in a word, "blank", and that their entire resource of knowledge is built up gradually from their experiences and sensory perceptions of the outside
The arguement that we somehow have built in instinct to reconcile fails to understand the socialisation process of human society | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/10/2009 11:22:30 AM | Actually you can only report people when they break the site rules.
That’s an interesting comment coming from you, and the reason why you were often chastised by management. I used to read the links that identified prominent ‘reporters’.
That's why all your mates who used to report me several times a day for personal reasons didn't get anywhere.
Oh grow up. When I used to read these same links (and the comments therein) I never saw any of the more mature company I kept EVER contributing to them. ‘The foul stench of dobber’ is really not my (or their) style. What on earth makes you think people are interested enough in you to ‘report you several times a day' anyway?
If someone like you doesn't think well of me etc. etc.
Oh stop being so petulant. I never said I don’t think well of you. What I said was pretty straight forward: OP starts a thread. It gets diverted by some community members seemingly more interested in playing amongst themselves than giving the thread or the OP the respect they deserve. Most contributors walked away from the monkey bits and other members complained about them. I was the most vocal and told you (and others), you were ego tripping. Ms ‘always right’ didn’t like it. We had a bun fight. End of story. Funnily enough I didn’t feel that Scholar (glad to see he’s still about) was ‘tripping’ and also said that somewhere else in here.
your stories about how often you get laid.
If anyone cares to search any old ToldYouSo threads they’ll note that I OP’d many threads on this, and other related subjects. All of ‘these’ were about the emphasis I personally place on ’quality of the person’ as opposed to ‘quantity of the sex’. Anyone got an egg scraper?
To make up for my lack and to accommodate the needy: I’ve just returned from a proverbial dirty weekend, which turned into most of a week. Had a medical emergency. These old hips just ain’t what they used to be. Lucky I took my walker.
…. so as to present yourself as popular
Now there's a truly appalling thought.
Adieu guys, don't want to be accused of doing (nicking and tripping) what I've accused others of doing. No more contributions from me on this thread. | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/10/2009 12:26:11 PM |
^^^ Your obsession is showing.
How long is long enough? As far as some people are concerned, the end of time would be too soon.
No more contributions from me on this thread.
What do you mean "more contributions"? You haven't made any.
Just off topic rambling commentaries, as was pointed out to you in message 67. And (surprise surprise) you've just spewed out another one.
If anyone cares to search any old ToldYouSo threads...
That seems an unlikely scenario hahahaa I doubt the humour was intentional, but I enjoyed the joke none the less!
Had a medical emergency.These old hips just ain’t what they used to be.
Clearly, old chap, your personal deterioration started at the top. It appears your hips are merely following the path your intellect took quite some time ago.
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/10/2009 7:06:15 PM | ^^^ Absolutely right. Best just to catch 'em, tag 'em for easy identification later, and release 'em.  | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/17/2009 10:03:47 AM | so did we come up with a verdict?
Personally Its a question i specifically searched for in the forum. Something I thought I might get some clues from.
I noted the ABS data, remarried in 3 years, that makes sense, 1 year off, 6 months looking, 18 months honeymoon, then married again, bugger.
Like Hilly i live in a zoo area, around here the 3 years would be, 6 months binge drinking and griping about the ex, 12 months for assault on some random in the pub who was chatting the ex up, 12 months honeymoon with a new relationship & 6 more months organising the wedding because your having a baby. Survival of the species at its finest;)
I also noted a lack of definition as to what the points where that we were discussing time between. Is it when the relationship goes sour and you cant stand them in the bed beside you? when one of you finally moves out, or when you stop seeing each other in some vague hope there is something there worth relighting?.
The other end of the piece of string is also unclear, is it when you alter your status on facebook as single?, when u start listing yourself/reactivating profiles on the dating sites?, when u actually start going out and or having sex with others or when u cofine your vision to looking for your soul mate only?
So on the serious side, I'm thinkin' I'll wait till the hurting stops and see where i go from there, in the meantime I'll make myself available and just see what comes up, with great caution not to jump into a binding relationship just because I miss the cuddles etc. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 12:01:45 PM | Yes title was deliberate i like that. no it has nothing to do with my physical attributes
One other question is and don't think has been answered is it easier if you are the dumper or the dumpee
I personally think it is easier if you are the dumper | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/17/2009 6:05:21 PM | One other question is and don't think has been answered is it easier if you are the dumper or the dumpee
I think you are right by definition rather than stating an option with which I happen to agree.
People will by definition only enter and stay in a relationship if they believe that they are better off than they would otherwise be.
If you write down the necessary condition for success Mm > Sm & Mw > Sw were Mm is how well off the man believes he is in the marriage and Sm is how well he believes he would be, becoming or staying, single and Mw and Sw are similarly defined for the women.
It is obvious that one person will only leave if their M < S ; the value to them of being in the relationship isn’t worth its cost or there is another M, M2 another relationship that they could enter into were M2 > M1 the relationship they are in now.
These are the only two possibilities and both of them leave the other person, the dumpee, single in spite of the fact that by definition, having not left themselves, they must believe that they would still be better off in the relationship, that their M > S but they end up S, single whether that like it or not.
Q. E. D. it is easier if you are the dumper than the dumpee
I will spare you the other five equations though sadly even if both people care about the other person as much as they do about themselves Mm=Mw, the love equality, not even that is enough to guarantee success. | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 3/17/2009 6:31:11 PM | | Depends on the depth of love felt by one party really.If you break up with a chick that you truly loved it hurts and you are probably not ready for a DAM for a longtime.Probably when you heart is replanted after it was ripped out.How long?.Who knows. | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 5/19/2009 9:36:11 PM | how long is a piece of string?
grieving and dealing with loss/breakup issues differs from person to person, relationship to relationship. how can you put an arbitrary time limit on it? why would you want to? | |
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| How long is long enough
Posted: 5/19/2009 10:41:27 PM | even if you do the dumping it can be difficult,you are after all leaving something that you invested your heart in
you leave because the relationship is somehow detrimental to you as a person,that in itself causes pain,so i feel the dumper can bejust as devastated as the dumpee
every one is different you need time to make your heart whole,for some it is easier and takes less time,i think they are the ones who'se self esteem kicks in earlier | |
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