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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 9:59:28 AM | | ^^ Thank you. For the person who said my pictures of me and my fiance are teasing pics. I would love to know how that is a tease. Any guy with half a brain should know that if I have pics of me and my fiance kissing and that I have not looking as my status and also engaged as my title then they should know I am serious about being in love with my fiance. If I only had pics of myself on my profile or had pics of me looking all sexed up then I'd say I'm teasing | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 10:04:08 AM | | smileforgzus, I looked at your profile again but I don't see any pics. I wasn't saying having pics of you and your boyfriend is a tease, it was the graphic nature of one of them that IMO was unnecessary and too graphic for me. It was nothing more than just my opinion, not meant to insult or bash you, so I'm sorry if you took it that way. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 2:24:23 PM | The "smileforgzus" profile is what led me to this thread. It confused me. I am sure she posted the makeout one to prove she was serious about being with him and to mitigate against dudes contacting her.
So...I just learned a few minutes ago of this subculture/community of people who use the site for just the forum purposes. You people have to admit you are NOT the NORM for the site. A small percentage really. Most people are looking on the site to meet people in person, generally, in hopes of a romantic interest.
I know the original intent of the site was to just be a dating site. The NEW listings of "Not Looking" was only an adaptation because of individuals of this subculture perverting the original idea of the site. The developers correctly decided to adapt to fit your needs as opposed to having you leave and go elsewhere and lose the traffic.
I would care to wager that the VAST MAJORITY of this subculture did NOT START on the site for the FORUMS...but grew a liking to them even after their relationship status changed. True, people are FREE to do whatever they want. But, the backlash you receive is not 100% make believe and without warrant as you want to bash and say.
Some want to protect the original intent of the site so that it still holds that integrity. If EVERYONE changed to being in a relationship but just wanted to use the forum then the single people would need to find a new home. It's akin to THREAD HIJAKING. You guys are web site hijacking!
Other than that...I guess they could argue a bunch of other points like cheating and such. The whole..."my profile obviously says I am not interested and I am happy in my relationship" holds as much weight as saying "i would not cheat on my husband/wife because I have a ring on my finger"....similar form of advertising. Now you tell me...do you think people could still cheat even if they have a ring on their finger? (The answer is Yes by the way) | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 3:00:37 PM | | I agree with James. Just about anybody would cheat at anytime if they know they could get away with it, including myself. Example: I am out and about and this sexy hot woman says I have a room next door at the hotel, if you want to join me, or vice versa for women. I am not sure of the percentage, haven't thought about it, but I bet more than half of people would go for it. JMO | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 3:59:30 PM |
(Msg 231) So...I just learned a few minutes ago of this subculture/community of people who use the site for just the forum purposes. You people have to admit you are NOT the NORM for the site. A small percentage really. Most people are looking on the site to meet people in person, generally, in hopes of a romantic interest.
If you go to almost any site offering something there are usually testimonials. People who have met here and post pictures/maintain profiles are showing others the site works because there is no lack of "nobody answers my AD" posts. 
Some want to protect the original intent of the site so that it still holds that integrity. If EVERYONE changed to being in a relationship but just wanted to use the forum then the single people would need to find a new home. It's akin to THREAD HIJAKING. You guys are web site hijacking!
As far as I can ascertain the original intent of the forums was to assist others in the dating process. That's why the threads remain for years. Who better to offer pointers than someone who has found their mate and are happy?
As someone noted in another thread it's hilarious watching one guy who continually strikes out attempting to offer counsel to another guy who continually strikes out. 
Perhaps people should be a little more appreciative of those who have found a mate and are sharing their experience. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/8/2009 4:15:03 PM | Dave 1234: Dang, excellent post!!
Bluebelt: It's really okay to "talk" to other people on a forum when you are with another and happy.
You are correct in stating that the site is for meeting "the one". But there's a tad bit more...
The forums are a different animal, so to speak. Sure, there may be the lurkers scouting
for a Friday night date but there are people in the forums with different lifestyles, opinions,
ideas, parenting, pain . I am as guilty as the next at first wondering one's intentions but not all are bad.
Keep smiling... | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:36:33 AM | Yes.
I started out on this site as a single person. While here i got into the forums.
Them i got back together with an ex girlfriend from when i was much younger, and thus no longer single.
Yet i still want to be able to post on the forums form time to time so i kept my profile.
However i have taken steps to discourage interest.
Including mentioning in a couple of places that i am taken, that i am not looking for anyone at the moment as well has having my profile hidden so it doesn't show up on searches.
I also have it set so it is not shown if i view another profile.
My girlfriend also does know about my account here and is able to check on it as she chooses, as i am not hiding anything from her.
If it were to come to pass that we were to break up then i would go back to having an open and visible profile after my heard has healed form the breakup.
For now i just read and occasionally post on the forums, it is these forums why i am still even here . :) | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/9/2009 1:15:29 PM | I can't believe that this thread is still active after 10 pages.
I think it is kind of ridiculous.
Yes, it is a free dating site. However, one of the main features of this site is the forums. And the forums are well kept and fun.
My wife knows I"m on here and what I do, and she has no problem with that. If your relationship is so fragile that one of you is out here trying to cheat, or you don't trust your significant other to be here just for the forum, then your relationship is pretty much worth a crap anyway. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/11/2009 10:08:47 AM | ^^^^^^ I completely agree with you that it is silly.
As I said though I do believe that most would if the right opportunity knocked at their door. Yes it is sad, but that does include myself.
I picture myself bowling league or a tournament and this gorgeous brunette give me this wonderfuly proposal. It's would be pretty hard to turn down.
That's also why I like stay single. I can "date" who I want. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 4/12/2009 3:28:44 AM | As I said though I do believe that most would if the right opportunity knocked at their door. Yes it is sad, but that does include myself.
As I say, it is very easy to be in position to cheat. The belief of more than half of people must be cheating at all time is silly.
Your fantasy of attractive person giveing proposal is reality to others. Only because you are type who can never turn this down is not good evidents of how other react. | |
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