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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:05:49 PM | I wouldn't cheat on my fiance even if I knew I wouldn't get caught.
I actually met my fiance on this site and he knows that I am stilll a member
I'm not just a club member I'm the president.
Were you single when you signed up for an account on POF, or were you in a relationship when you signed up for a free online dating site?
(very weird, if you ask me)
Well Mr Sherlock Holmes we actually met on another site and then came here.......LOL!!! | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:22:02 PM | I am in a relationship with someone I met here. Its been less than 6 months. He knows I'm on here and I have offered to give him my password, but he refused to accept it. He can read everything I post regardless.
I would take my profile down if he asked me to. But he knows I like reading the forums and you need a profile to post.
My profile is hidden from searches; you can only see it if you link into it from the Forums. .... Where you will find that I say more than once that I am in a relationship and am not single/not looking.
The man I am dating decided to take down his profile because he is tired of internet dating, having been on the sites longer than I have. Perhaps someday I will feel the same way. But for now, I learn so much about people from reading here, and I am enjoying the non-dating type forums, such as the ones sharing recipes, the Quotes threads, the discussions on dieting, religion, politics and current events, things that concern us all, single and not single.
I also think that people in relationships can have a lot to share with people who are still looking. As for cheating, that is not what I mean by sharing.
I agree that relationships are fragile, and need attention and care. We see each other a lot, and I am very open about everything. I read somewhere that people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing, so I am very transparent about my life with him.
I have never been cheated on, and neither have I cheated on anybody. I feel if you want loyalty and to trust someone, you have to be loyal and trustworthy yourself. I guess this means that I am not super-worried about it since it hasn't ever happened to me. I really am sorry that some people have had their trust betrayed by others. I hope that everyone here is careful about who they put their trust in, and that they have good instincts and good internet dating practices to keep them out of harm's way.
I hope that my simply having a profile doesn't offend anyone. I read that the Forums are only looked at by a relatively small number of PoF people, and so I hope that my participation here will be unlikely to mislead anyone who is seriously looking.
If someday I am single again, I might come back here as a single, since this site did help me to meet several people I have liked and dated for more than a few months each.
I really was distracted myself by many married people here, and by those who are in relationships but are here looking for another...
So in case that's the issue, I would like to state that I am not looking for another person to be in a relationship with. I am only here for friends and forums, and by friends, I don't mean friends with benefits. All true friends have benefits, but the kind that don't include sex are what I am referring to.
I really don't want to be the one to cause another woman pain or problems. We should all be considerate of the other people we might be affecting in our choices about dating.
As for the relationship, so far its been great. I am cautiously optimistic that I won't be needing to date anyone else for a long time. I think presuming that everything is going to work out forever is putting a lot of pressure on things this early.
But I have decided to put this out there to say that even the seemingly hopeless can have hope...I thought no one would be right for me with all that I have in my life...and yet, I found someone -- a good person -- I would never have met in a million years if it hadn't been for this site, because of the search engines. So thank you PoF. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:34:20 AM | I'm on here for the forums,and I'm pretty sure my profile explains that. Maybe somebody could let me know if it doesn't? I originally found POF when my girlfriend and I had broken up for a while. We got back together,but I'd found the forums by then so I stayed for them. My girlfriend has my password so she can see what I'm doing anytime she wants.
I do enjoy looking at profiles once in a while,and I like making new friends. I don't usually mail anyone else,but often people mail me looking for chat partners. For example last year a lady from Thailand mailed me hoping I'd be interested in chatting with her. We talk frequently on MSN. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:01:47 AM | Yes, really! I've had a profile on here since 2004. I have been in and out of relationships since then, and change my profile accordingly.
If you will notice, there is a forum specifically for relationship issues. It is very helpful to go there when you are in a relationship and having problems.
And peole DO make friends here. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:15:43 PM | Mmmmmm ....... sorry .........I do tend to flit in and out/comment here and there - without having read the previous - forgive me. I guess 'this' might be considered a 'public declaration' ......... but why the necessity - among people you have never 'met'/have no binding affinity with ......... though this is very much a subjective view.
Best wishes. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 7/24/2009 12:37:54 PM | Very possible because of the diversity of the site with the forums.
I have a shortcut in my favorites that take me straight to the forums and there are periods that I never even see a profile or notice an email. That's even while single and available.
Now, I am not comfortable logging on while I am dating someone even though my intentions on the forums are completely innocent. I do think that you have to consider what the primary focus of the site is and how much you respect who you are seeing.
While dating, perhaps it's even best to not be on the internet at all except to check for movie times, recipes, or ideas for something do via google and not participate in any forums or chat rooms because you need the time to either accomplish your tasks such as bill paying, house cleaning/home improvement, and daydreaming of your romantic interest when you're not with her. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:34:35 PM | OP, I started on this site at work reading the forums. My friend was on and I used to get her banned. One day she told me if I wanted to stay in the forums I had to sign up myself.
So I did. Plain and simple.....I have been on here since 07, I've made friends with some on the forum. I have actually met one person face to face from here. Trust is thing that seems to be lacking in your world, I sincerely hope you meet some one to change that for you. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 10/22/2009 1:56:00 PM | There are tons of online forums out there. Seems at least a little bit, ahhh, "fishy" for a person in a relationship to be a member of a DATING site.
Now, maybe it's entirely innocent. Wouldn't be the first time. But personally, I would be a little more concerned with how it appeared to my woman, and how it might make her appear in the eyes of others, ie. like a chump.
I mean, considering I could get the same internet conversation from a non-dating site forum, it's not a big deal to switch it up. But if one doesn't mind leaving themselves open to criticism like that, it's not my honour in question. | |
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