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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 7:39:40 PM | Why should we have to get a hobby? I am so sorry if this unnerves some of you.
But truly I am here just to chat with all of the people I have met in the two years I have been on this site. As I mentioned before, my guy and I love to post and are somewhat addicted to these forums.
My "mate" and I respect the hell out of each other, and in the same vein,, we also TRUST each other. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 7:57:01 PM | I've noticed quite a few of you say you have boyfriends/girlfriends, yet you have a profile on a singles site....and you claim you're here just for the threads? I've also seen some girls' profiles and they say they have a boyfriend but they're looking for friends....really?
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Yeah really, stick around a while newbie and learn. Oh, and save your self a lot of embarassment, and learn to do a thread search. Or do women find your freshman humor desirable? | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:19:08 PM |
"Yep, if you're not single you really shouldn't be here."
I thought this way for the first few months... but then, I discovered so many here who have been here a while, met someone, and stayed on. They are guides, gadflies, humorists, perspective-takers, philosophers, and best of all, they are in relationships--some of the better people to offer advice....
Think of it this way. If you are single, how often are you in places with ONLY single people? Most of the time, you are in a mix of people. Even in high school, parties had people who came as couples, and some who came as friends, and some who came alone. The mall, the park, the museum, the beach, bars (ugh), and everywhere else people socialize people who are in relationships are not excluded.
There is an advantage to this for singles. You can meet people who know other people you might like. You can also listen in on conversations here with all kinds of people--not just singles--and occasionally see a single participating you might like.
Another advantage is that people in relationships or who are not looking at all, feel much freer to speak their mind in these conversations. This happened to me. When I was first on here, I was constantly editing everything I said to avoid putting potential suitors off. As I began to date more, I decided to participate more freely here, not less. And this makes the forums more interesting for everyone--even singles. Witness how other dating sites can get very boring because everyone is on their "best behavior" and all the profiles seem to say the same thing... | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:25:27 PM | | I have seen some profiles where the women say that they are here for the forums only. But i have also seen profiles that have married women and women that have boy friends that are looking for intimate encounters, casual dating and long term relationships. And i have also been messaged by women that are offering sex for money.....i mean really why would i want to pay for a std. If anyone is offering sex for money they most likely have a std. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:30:51 PM | Yep, it's possible. I am in a relationship, but I come here for the forums.
As stated on my profile, I joined here a few years ago, while single, made a few friends, and really enjoyed reading and participating in the forums. I recently found myself with some time on my hands, and bored with tv, chatrooms (ugh, they are horrible, have yet to find one where the actual topic of the chatroom is being discussed), etc...and decided to check out the forums again.
I don't see a problem with it. I'm not looking for a date, or for casual sex, just some entertainment and to pass some time. I've actually learned a few things here on the forums, and I have no intention of giving them up any time soon.
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 8:30:52 PM |
"i have also been messaged by women that are offering sex for money"
Please report anyone who is selling something on this site.
Go here:
http://www.plentyoffish.com/faq.aspx#23
Here's a quote from this thread:
"Plentyoffish.com works hard to make sure scammers are deleted from the database. If anyone asks for money it is likely a scam. There are numerous incidents on all types of dating sites where someone asks for money, gets the money from another user, and then disappears. Don’t be fooled by such scams, and be sure to do an official legitimacy check on a person before you send any money.
What Should I Do If I Suspect Someone Is A Scammer / Spammer?
Please contact us immediately if you feel you've come across a scam artist or a spammer. You can click on the Help button to send us a message or click HERE." | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 9:40:33 PM | Yes, REALLY. Why do you care? And why on earth do you think we CARE if you believe what any of our motives are for being here? My profile is hidden from searches, you can only find it if you are on the forums.
No one looking at my profile would think for a second that I was here for anything but these forums and anyone who does is an IDIOT.
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 10:04:59 PM |
Look up at the logo. It says Free Dating Site. Right. A "date" is an arrangement to meet. There's no reason why coupled people can't make arrangements to meet other people, single or not available, at PoF functions. So that, besides the forums, represents another reason for "relationship" people to have PoF profiles. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 11:17:16 PM | I've noticed quite a few of you say you have boyfriends/girlfriends, yet you have a profile on a singles site....and you claim you're here just for the threads?
Yes. I browse several forums when I'm bored and have a little down time. I haven't made use of my actual profile on this website for the purpose of contacting other users (for any reason) in quite a while.
I've also seen some girls' profiles and they say they have a boyfriend but they're looking for friends....really?
"Not looking" isn't an available option in the "looking for" section of the profile, even if you can set it as your "Marital Status." | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/17/2009 11:19:45 PM |
Yeah they say they aren't looking, then they ask you out. You're all a bunch of bullshitters if you think that you are just here for the forums.
It warms the c.ockles of my heart when the veteran poster of a whole 19 days presumes to not only judge but to know what everyone is thinking.
Even when waxing poetic the dirty word police try to intervene.
What a lovely turn of phrase you have. I assume from your comment that you don't have the ability to be faithful whilst you are in a relationship unless you are on a desert island with no means of outside communication.
Such a shame and I am sorry for you but please, don't tar us all with the same brush...some of us fully understand the meaning of a committed, trusting relationship.
Rockchick, that ditty rocked.
You know, something occurred to me when someone mentioned that the forums were enriching and people can learn from them. A while back there was a thread about God knows what but one person made a sardonic comment about people asking relationship advice from people that are here because of unsuccessful relationships.
OP, do you not see any benefit to interacting with folks that at least at the present time, are in successful relationships? One would suspect that they might have some nuggets of wisdom for making this work. Or, we could keep listening to the people you think SHOULD be on here because they aren't in relationships, successful or not.
Look up at the logo. It says Free Dating Site.
Right. A "date" is an arrangement to meet. There's no reason why coupled people can't make arrangements to meet other people, single or not available, at PoF functions. So that, besides the forums, represents another reason for "relationship" people to have PoF profiles.
Also a valid point I had forgotten, I spent the last pof party I attended sitting at a table with a bunch of local guys I chat with but have never dated, what am I up to?
This topic has been done to death. People either get it and realize that there is no reason to find another site and that this site is preferable to many in terms of the way the forums function among other things, that they are here for the forums and maintaining friendships in the easiest way with people they met here considering I have only successfully made the transfer from here to regular e-mail with about one other person. Otherwise it is like people from old jobs, you lose touch when you don't see them every day.
Or they don't and never will and think people should delete their profiles five minutes after meeting someone.
This seems to be one of those issues like abortion, people are polarized and no matter how many times this is discussed and the same responses are given just different usernames and faces, no one's opinion is really going to change. Particularly those that require el desert island to shore up their faithful tendencies. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 5:37:59 AM |
I've also seen some girls' profiles and they say they have a boyfriend but they're looking for friends....really?
The only trouble I've found is the men who contact you think, "hmmm, you must be looking for something more if you're on a dating site." Well, I have not a boyfriend per se, but I met a man that has captured my attention, therefore I am not interested in meeting anyone new at this time. Yes really!!! Now if more men/women would accept this status, without questioning motives, there may be a lot less confusion. Honestly I don't see what's so difficult to understand about not single/not looking or friends only . Believe it or not some men/women are actually honest/faithful. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 5:54:24 AM |
This subject is obviously an emotional hot button for those that have found someone but are still here posting on a singles forum.
I have to question why you get so emotional about it. Like you said it's no big deal.
For myself, it is no big deal. However for those who get heated over the threads like this I think it's plain to see why. First-there are men/women who continue to try to persuade women/men to betray their mates. Second-they are often challenged as to their motives for being on a dating site while involved, they are not being taken seriously! Third-when their motives are stated they are still questioned, they're viewed with a skeptical/judgemental eye. Finally-those who have found someone but choose to remain on any social network have a lot of work to do in order to make certain it is clearly understood they are here for friends only. The latter can be overwhelming at times. This must be proven the countless people who either choose to ignore their status or just don't believe it. With all of these things taken into consideration it really is easy to see why people become quite defensive when being asked such questions as this thread addresses. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 6:00:53 AM |
(Msg 30) Yeah they say they aren't looking, then they ask you out. You're all a bunch of bullshitters if you think that you are just here for the forums.
I've received a few emails over the years expressing similar sentiments. 
As for partnered people being here perhaps others can benefit from them. How did they establish a relationship and what are their views on specific things?
I'd think single people would appreciate attached folks being here and seeing their comments. | |
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