| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 6:07:08 AM | OP...
I'm not in a relationship--have had a few dates--but yes I really am here for the forums.
Believe me...after having 1 date from POF in almost a year...why else would I stick around? Sure, there's a chance someone interesting and close will come along but I'm not counting on that. The forums are at times hilarious, sad, weird, and just down right ODD. Which makes life soooooooooooo much more worthwhile some days 
Besides...the entertainment factor I get here I would have to usually pay for!!! | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 7:12:49 AM | You are right, Against All Oddz, it's not that big a deal, it just gets OLD having to keep explaining it over and over because someone is too dumb to do a thread search...and because certain idiots presume to know what someone else is thinking, when they have no clue what they are talking about.
Again, if someone has a question about why I'm still here, they are free to go to the bottom of my profile and ask the guy in the testimonial there. I'm sure he'll happily fill you in. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/18/2009 8:52:00 AM | Now what is the difficult part to understand? That people may be capable of talking to people of the opposite or same sex without there being the ulterior motive of sex? -- During my childhood, I used to love to read National Geographic magazines (my parents had an extensive collection), and I remember thinking to myself, "Why doesn't that alligator eat that bird that's standing there pecking food from it's teeth (whilst it sun-bathes with its mouth wide-open)?"
I'm sure it's happened on more-than-one occassions (just not captured conveniently on film). So, you're in a relationship, and think that there's no possibly way of an association with a male-friend going awry -- just make damn sure that alligator's plump and full before you go pecking around in its mouth!   | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:44:35 AM | | wow sounds like my boyfriend, i recently disovered him on here telling a sob story about how he was only here with me to raise our son. I'm here to tell you that is not the story he gave me. I do only talk to people for friendship and I also recently starting paying attetion to what he is saying. I am trying to decide do i stay or do I go. I think women should not give themselves up so easily ...... if he seems to good to be true .... he probably is. Mine guy recently changed his status to single .......... funny! I guess he thinks I can't do better .... guess what I can and may do just that. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 3:24:15 PM | The thing I love about POF is that it feels more like a social networking site than a pure dating site; it has much less of a meat-market vibe than other sites I've been on. I have several friends - male and female - that are on here, and we're always asking each other to check profile changes or to ask, "Have you encountered so-and-so; should I go on a date?"
I've met some of my best friends through POF; I responded to a forum post, we started chatting, and found we have a lot in common but aren't each others' dating type for whatever reason.
To answer the original question, perhaps a person in a relationship could change his/her status to hidden. This would keep forum options open without the appearance of being still on the market, so to speak. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 3:31:20 PM | That would be my-space dear, or yahoo profiles, msn, facebook etc etc.
OP this is SIMPLE:
If your mate still has a profile up JUST for the forums...
THEN...
They wouldn't mind letting you have their password and having a look right?
If they have nothing to hide, then do it right away, without giving them time to delete their inbox full of BS infidelity. My infamous roomate found his lady hadn't given up on stray POF C0ck this way.
Of course the first thing out of their mouth would be
"YOU DONT TRUST ME" or "That's it it's over."
If they freak refuse, and or break up with you, then THERE is your answer...
a person with nothing to hide, has nothing to hide.
And as far as trust goes, THAT is something to be earned over time, not a couple of months of dating a person from here!
Again, the key is to not ask them until they are right in front of the computer.
With you there.
Of course there are those of you who in a desperate attempt to avoid the truth, will call them and let them know in advance, to give them ample time to delete all of the messages, just to preserve your imaginary wonderland, however my question to you is, why both asking at all if that is the case. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 3:36:04 PM |
To answer the original question, perhaps a person in a relationship could change his/her status to hidden. This would keep forum options open without the appearance of being still on the market, so to speak.
That can help, but your profile is still visible in the forums. I've still had people ignore the "Not Single/Not Looking" anyway. Go figure! I suppose there are some people who think "Keep Out" means everyone BUT them. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:33:22 PM | Well, what is wrong with the Forums? Tell you the truth, maybe I'd have been gone from POF long time ago without the Fora. My profile says I am looking for friends. Really! Something wrong with that? With me, everything starts with friendship.
I suppose there are some people who think "Keep Out" means everyone BUT them. ~~~ TallWillow
So very true! And when you ask if they read your profile, they would say, "Yes, so?"
 So now I have removed the part about not meeting immediately after saying hi. Because when I did; practically every day or so, in IM and PM, someone said, "Hi, you want to meet this Saturday?" Or something to that effect.   | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:01:17 PM | Meh, I still say ask for the password, people are shifty and shady.
My grandma says to never trust people who whisper when they aren't in the library. (Or in a place that requires you to be quiet.)
I mean the only reason you should whisper is if you don't want people to know things, which if you have things to hide in the first place, that is a red flag....
wait what were we talking about again, oh yeah!
Ask for the PASSWORD. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:25:30 PM | YES REALLY!!! there are some of us that just want friends and do not look at the man as a potential playmate! I know ... hard to believe but it's true!
Now lol if you flipped that around to the other sex... and it was HIM that was saying I have a girlfriend but I'm only here for the forums and to make friends?
I'd say Ya Right!
lol  | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:27:34 PM |
Yeah they say they aren't looking, then they ask you out. You're all a bunch of bullshitters if you think that you are just here for the forums.
Are you implying that these people don't know their own minds? Maybe a person who lists themselves as "not looking" is in fact single and has a legit reason for preferring to categorize themselves as "not looking".
But if you want to imply that anyone here who is in a relationship, or prefers to identify themselves as "not looking" is a bullshitting cheater on the prowl, your arrogance and distrust will be shining beacons warning others away.
Cindy O | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:40:13 PM | Like any group of people, a certain percentage will be lying when they say they are here only for forums. Yes, some people are shady. The profiles that say here for furums...just scroll down and see if they actually post regularly. That tells the tale. I see many that say this, and they have made like 6 posts in 2 years.
The actual regulars here in forums, I tend to believe they are here for forums. | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 9:48:31 PM | Today i realized its necesary to define whats a relationship.
and i think unless you have a ring on your finger and all your pockets full of trust loyalty (wich is an organic thing) its not defined.
when you love somebody and like this person nothing will get your attention away from that special one, there is always gonna be a thing called the next big thing compare to you guy or girl...Is the thread worth it?
maybe this is the way to find out
heads up people!
choose wisely and dont hurt anyone  | |
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| You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really?
Posted: 2/23/2009 9:53:44 PM |
I've noticed quite a few of you say you have boyfriends/girlfriends, yet you have a profile on a singles site....and you claim you're here just for the threads? I've also seen some girls' profiles and they say they have a boyfriend but they're looking for friends....really?
~OP~ Not all people think in terms of "cheating." I'm here and only here for forums and I'm not even in a relationship. When I was with my former, we "shared" my profile. I'd post, he'd read. If I were looking, it wouldn't be here on POF ~ and if I were fortunately enough to find Mr. Right For Me, this profile stays. JMO  | |
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