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 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 26
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She's probably a tranny. Enjoy! Love, Titus
 ~Pedro Sanchez~
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 27
Lesbian?
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:03:57 PM

That's my main concern I don't want to be the "test guy."

Look, what's wrong with being the test guy? You're also testing her....and she could be awesome! If I was you, I'd corner her in some public place, kiss her then grab her leg, wrap it around me, mess up her hair. Worse thing to happen ackkk...sorry dude, I don't bat that way or a left uppercut followed by a right hook. I mean really...what's there to lose, except some dignity. But who's counting.


But like what happend here was this lebian sex or mom friend just wanting to see what mom looked like naked.
Ahahaha...your mum is a lesbo! Awww, now you are scarred.... poor little pipi.
 FrodoB
Joined: 11/25/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:44:51 PM
Most lesbians are not actually gay. The majority of them, would totally have sex with the right guy. I've had 4 lesbian roommates in the past year and I have a lot of gay friends. They all agree... I say go for it. She's making it obvious that she wants you.
 kjacks31
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:16:05 PM
Go for it. But set limits for yourself and the two of you. You may not feel the need to voice these limits to her, but when you set them you need to keep to them. Speed of the relationship, not sleeping together right off (if this is a concern), being clear on what each of you intends and wants, etc are all good ideas.

Especially being ont he rebound you should take things slow. But don't close yourself off. By her 'I need a man' comment, though, she may be looking mostly for sex. Think about that and continue as you see fit.
 jamesless
Joined: 10/11/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:51:34 PM
I say I'd be the lab rat or just stay Lez be frends.. or as the Beatles sing.. Let it Be. Shag 'em or bag 'em.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:40:16 AM
Thanks for all the recent responses.

Just a update, me and the girl tapered off we've not been in contact in quite a while. I decided she was too immature for me. I was looking for what ever then now I've gotten back on course and looking for something a little more substantial.

Age had some of her immaturity but there are instances where age does not matter. I've seen men and women act like big babies if they don't get what they want. Oh well best of luck to everyone
 Cicciolina
Joined: 7/4/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:28:55 PM
Yes, I would go for it. The lines of sexuality are blurred these days. You obviously enjoy each others company.
 Modela47
Joined: 8/31/2008
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:34:50 PM
Stay away from her if she is underage. If she is over 18, then give her time and space to think about and grow up with a decision that she feel she won't regret later and a move that would not hurt you later. Good luck!
 ZenBeth
Joined: 2/23/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:50:10 PM
Frodob wrote: Most lesbians are not actually gay.


Since gay denotes male homosexual you are correct. Its why we say gay and lesbian when we speak of both male and female homosexuals.

Now it is true that some younger women who experiment with same sex sex see themselves as lesbian, but when questioned they may say they are evolving. Yet there are women who have known from an early age that they simply are not attracted to men, sexually.

Most women over the age of 35 who say they are lesbian, are according to studies published in various non gay/lesbian medical and psychological publications, lesbian and will never want sex with males.

~Beth~
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:20:14 PM
me thinks the recent trend of bi sexuality/homosexuality especially in women is a lot to do with popularity ... of late same sex relations among women has become trendy ...true homosexuality is a part of the person in question .. I call the recent trend situational homosexuality ... many lesbian and Bi women will find themselves and find that they are truly heterosexual.... when they mature ... I just dont believe that all the women that are leading a bi or same sex lifestyle are truly wired that way ....maybe when they come out of the closet they will find that they are heterosexual...denial can go both ways ...just because she has kissed a few girls dont mean that nature dont have different plans for her ...we will all eventually face who/what we are sexually ... there is no shame in either persuasion .... but my observations are that many of the alternative sexual persuasion people are just not yet come to their true persuasion ...and thats ok too...but social/peer influence ..is as much an injustice as homophobia ... I know a group of five young women friends who when they were teens were as boy crazy as any have ever been ... then one of them decided she was a lesbian... and then the whole group decided they were bi ...in their early twenties after school they went separate ways .. and now they are all married to men and have kids ...the one that led the bi sexual craze has three ...and seams to be happily married ... I have no idea if bisexuality is a part of any of their lives now ...but if it is they have went back into the closet ..one of them is a niece of mine who I can speak frankly with...next time I see her...probably thanksgiving I will inquire on her view ... all I know is from her communication with us she gives no hint of being bi ... in the college years she openly professed to be exclusive lesbian




Most women over the age of 35 who say they are lesbian, are according to studies published in various non gay/lesbian medical and psychological publications, lesbian and will never want sex with males.



this may have been true ...but due to the popularity of women being Bi among men ..I see much more of what I term as situational bisexuality ..occurring in a older group of women ...many women are being coerced into trying homosexual acts by both their men and the social acceptance of bi sexuality ... many present themselves as bi to attract interest from men ...dont believe me just visit a bar ... I see many women presenting bisexuality with the motive of enticing men ... I know and see this a lot as part of my profession is security in bars ..both vanilla bars and swinger clubs ...seems overnight every woman in these places is now bi sexual ...I just dont believe sexual persuasion changed that quickly on this scale


look at Hillery Clinton in college she claimed to be lesbian ...Ok bad example...!!
 vanaheim
Joined: 6/6/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:57:44 PM
Homosexuality describes sexual preference. No homosexual gene has ever been identified (trust me not for lack of looking) and all behavioural studies thus far suggest behaviour is entirely elective but may be situational and circumstantial (ie. nature plus nurture, neither exclusively). Homosexuality is a behavioural descript.

It may very well be that the incidence of sexual experimentation in youth has not increased so much as has become more widely reported or socially acceptable with the decline of religious dogma within developed nations. Anecdotally on some popular US based date sites roughly half the female membership lists themselves as bisexual and only a relative minority as gay.

for the zen woman above, gay is used to describe female or male homosexuality within the gay community (which includes transgendered and bisexuals). Gay however is often considered ambiguous with regards to women as women who call themselves gay may often be presumed to be bisexual among the general public. There maybe some cultural conservatism in this. Frequently therefore gay women will specify whether they are lesbian (exclusively by inferrence) or bisexual. Even so many women who state clearly they are exclusively lesbian will still be approached by males with bisexual fantasies about women on women threesomes.

In any case being that sexuality describes a behavioural preference, it is always subject to change at the whim of the individual, for any reason they care to have. Contrary to ignorant opinion it is neither a medical illness nor a medical disability. It is thus not a physiological aberrance of any kind and appears to have no direct bearing upon psychological health in general.

There are interesting studies within the animal kingdom of homosexual behaviour, either as a form of sexual competition or actual physical adaptation to a disproportion of population between the sexes (some species are capable of actually switching sexes for reproductive purposes and species survival).
In this light homosexual behaviour was never an unlikely conclusion among humans who've long practised various politicised forms of aristocracy and reduced demographics of mate selection (social class imposition). Put in layman terms a relatively small population demographic have sex a whole lot whilst the majority have far fewer mating opportunities, which may artificially simulate a disproportion of sexes for individuals where actual population of the sexes remains either fairly even or tends to favour females (ie. men should be really swimming in sexual opportunities with nobody not getting laid if it was just a numbers thing).
There are equal authorities which argue either side of the genetic/behavioural equation wrt homosexuality, however the driving conclusion is that no homosexual gene has been identified, thus demonstrable physical evidence clearly states at this time, that it is wholly behavioural in nature. That does not mean homosexuals should learn to control themselves in order to observe conservative religious dogma in any democratic society, it means that personal behaviour is a matter of freedom and a right given by any democratic society, failing any criminal intent.
 adamcon
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/13/2009 4:49:57 AM
Its 8:30 our time here in NovaScotia and its early in the morning here too.

Blueberrywaffles nice name NO YOUR RIGHT
Being lesbian dose not happen accidentally BUT it can be pressured on another ?

But with out reading what went on I can't really say for sure.
But this women could have been trying to pressure his mother into lesbian sex.

Its prolbey was first timer for his mother and this women was weighting for the right time [being respectfull were she had kids]

But I think it probley was just the giving his mother the hint none the less.

But NO my god don't ask your mother this.
 stephanie_m_s
Joined: 4/22/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/1/2012 10:06:18 AM
Sounds like she was never a lesbian but bisexual. I would go for it if I were you. Sexuality is not something that you can change. But some do repress feelings and then all of a sudden one day they think they are this or that.
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 1/1/2012 10:58:42 AM
Darn, there goes the chance to cross "turn a lesbian straight" off the bucket list.
 Womac911
Joined: 8/15/2009
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Posted: 1/1/2012 1:29:41 PM
Just one man's thoughts...

I have had three relationships since 1998. Up till that time, all of the previous relationships have been bisexual. All of those were happy, good relationships.
I found that the Bisexual women were the most communicative, happy, sincere, well adjusted women with good attitudes, The three straight women I have had relationships with since 1998 were the most miserable, maladjusted, self-depreciating or self-absorbed, inattentive, and sexually uptight people.
Perhaps it was just them.
 MsBeave
Joined: 11/8/2010
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Posted: 1/1/2012 1:45:13 PM
I could have an affair with a woman but never be in a relationship with a woman. Women are ejoyable but can't fullfill me long term. It could be the opposite for her. Or you are test guy.

I strongly doubt it's a ruse, likely more a fickle personality combined with frustration.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/1/2012 2:22:10 PM
too bad u didn't go 4 it...she sounds like she was an open minded person who at the very least could have ended up a friend after being lovers
 GSXR-Chris
Joined: 6/22/2011
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Posted: 1/1/2012 2:38:31 PM
wouldn't have bothered me at all. If anything tell her that her sister/mother was better and hold on tight :D
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 44
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Posted: 1/1/2012 2:46:31 PM
I'm going to guess, as this thread is over two years old, that our thoughts are redundant and the situation has been addressed. Just going out on a limb here.
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 1/1/2012 4:30:38 PM

I'm going to guess, as this thread is over two years old, that our thoughts are redundant and the situation has been addressed. Just going out on a limb here.


^^^Yep...........

Gotta love it when someone digs up years old threads..........I wish they'd clean out old threads.................
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 1/1/2012 5:42:39 PM
He missed his chance for a medal.
 ml235
Joined: 7/3/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2012 3:00:59 AM
For the most part I think you lost your chance with her, only because you didn't react when you had the chance. But I could be wrong. Normally when things like that happen it's a once in a life time thing. Like the saying goes, if your slow you blow. LOL! In other words you just missed a window of opportunity.
 ml235
Joined: 7/3/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2012 3:02:12 AM
I agree with you statemachine500
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/2/2012 7:18:35 AM
"She was telling the friend "I'm so fed up with women, everyone I get is crazy, I want a MAN.""
Thats funny shiate right there, I don't care who you are.
Welcome to the boat girly, we have been saying it for years.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 50
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Posted: 1/2/2012 8:10:01 AM

I'm going to guess, as this thread is over two years old, that our thoughts are redundant and the situation has been addressed. Just going out on a limb here.


This thread was started by me now close to 3 years ago. My username has even changed and it's not on mythreads lol.

My new question is can anyone give advice without bashing the OP? Most people come here to get advice and if people just bash the OP and give no advice what help is that? Now I've been known to give a strong swift kick towards reality or even oppose the words but not the actual poster. SOME people still take it personal though.

I about forgot about this one, and yes I did miss my chance with her but hindsight is 20/20 and she didn't turn out too well, since then. Might have been different being with a more mature man (me or another) but that's a what if not what happened.

Best of luck to everyone
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