| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 7:34:44 PM | Love itself is not hard work but rather life that can be hard and it takes the strength and endurance of two commited people to come out on the other end of things.
Love is love but there are different types of love between husband/wife, parent/child, people and other people in general. It's easy to love yet it takes a lot of work at times to see people through life. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 7:58:38 PM | Whomever you love, may it be a friend or more, it is not always a bed of roses. There is some effort and willingness to work through tough times and the benefit is a closer relationship with that person, a more deeply intimate relationship (emotional intimacy not physical intimacy) and a deeper understanding of the other person and of yourself.
We are not perfect, we all have "flaws" and to expect any relationship to be perfect is truly delusional. Love requires compassion and the desire to compromise at times for the greater good of the relationship. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:19:38 PM |
Love itself is not hard work but rather life that can be hard and it takes the strength and endurance of two commited people to come out on the other end of things.
Love is love but there are different types of love between husband/wife, parent/child, people and other people in general. It's easy to love yet it takes a lot of work at times to see people through life.  good post | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:24:34 PM | | I don't believe love is work. A relationship is very hard work, if it's going to work anyway. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:05:53 PM |
In my opinion LOVE is NOT hard work. Love is rediculously easy and incredibly right. Try fighting against real love - it's a solid rock that is MASSIVE and immobile.
But relationships and unconditional acceptance? Takes patience.
I totally agree with you here. Feeling love, and being in love is easy as anything ( even though I sometimes fight against it); but being in a relationship is hard as hell. Staying in it takes effort, patience, and a huge commitment to continue to be with someone even in those moments when you don't feel love for them -- just the opposite. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:17:54 PM | No... relationships CAN be hard work, love requires no work, as it's not effort based. You can't 'choose' to love someone... although you can do things to try and put yourself in position to have love grow I guess.
But I think if you have to -always- work HARD to make a relationship work -- you're doomed. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/27/2009 12:46:42 AM | I am reading Michelle Obama's book right now and what she says about her relationship fits this forum.. she states that alot of people see the magic between her and Barack as effortless ... but she says that it is through a great deal of work that they are bonded... she says that they are very close but it is from working together that they are close. They begin each day working out together .. (sexy) and they are in constant communication.. he considers her needs which is the ingredient of success as he respects her opinion above all, he says she is far more capable of running the country than he is ..... actions of endearment which are expressions of love create great love so .. anyone that has great love has worked vehemently to achieve their depth and their growth as a couple. What we see is the connection from a great deal of effort.
He calls her .. his rock an unusual term but one that makes her feel very "needed" .... and loved..
Watching what is goin on between those two .. I would say is pretty intense.. and if that is what hard work can do .. I would love to have some of that.. oh yah.. okay even if he isn't hard after the workout.. hah.. !!! | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/27/2009 2:10:20 AM | Love is not work. It is giving of yourself. To some people, most of whom are self-absorbed, giving IS work, so when they enter into a relationship expecting to take much and give little in return, it becomes work when they find out many people expect to be treated with respect. It seems like anymore "love" is just a fashionable statement, more often than not used to lay a quilt trip on someone so they can be manipulated easier. "If you loved me..."
If your car won't start on a cold morning and your man/woman crawls out of a cozy bed to give you a jump or drive you to where ever you need to be, that isn't work, it's love. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:17:02 AM |  MMMMMMMMMMMM LOVE !! No Love is Not Hard Work !! It is Very Easy to Love!! It is Just Most People Make it Hard to Keep Love,, and to Have Love for Them,, Love is The Greatest Feeling Anyone Could Ever Have.. | |
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| Is love hard work?
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:23:37 AM | BDJ covered this quite well.
Love, true love, is not work. Most often it is one of the truest pleasures in life.
Having said that, relationships do take nurturing, caring and patience. Just like any living thing, the more care you put in, the better it will be. | |
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