| | One more last chance?Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | im with silkenfire on this. She is just as much a victim of this as you are only you get to call yourself a martyr, whilst she's seen as a user. You set this up just as much as she did by giving without owning your motives. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2009 5:11:01 AM | Ann Landers famously said, "others take advantage of us, with our permission."
Do ya really think she oversleeps by accident? You've given her a last chance, many chances ago. You are just like the women who get beat, with this, "oh, but when its good, its great" routine. You are being just as abused as they are. and you stick with it, b/c you are getting something out of it you need. Otherwise, you could be WITH ANYONE and have a good time. that's not hard to find in the least.
Yes, you need to work on your issues. they are keeping you in a relationship where you are being used and abused, even tho there are no bruises on the outside of you. she knows a sucker when she sees one, and brother, you are the sucker. she is responsible for whatever she does to herself, not you. You are not responsible for her actions, I'm sorry, you just aren't that important that you have to carry that burden. Take care of your own actions, and let her deal with the impact of her own actions.
You ask to break up, she gives you what you ask for, and then you stick around anyway. Figure out why, figure out what it is you get out of this, and you'll figure out how to get out--by stopping the trying to get this thing. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2009 5:11:15 AM | WOW, she is very unstable. She needs help which you are not qualified to provide. Unless you want to continue to care for her / be her crutch, you need to leave NOW. Listen to the other posters, they all provided excellent advise. Please, leave her ASAP. She will end up destroying you in the long run.
Please keep us posted. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2009 5:35:44 AM | For Southern Lady,
What did you have for breakfast these last days....bunch of bitter food??
Profiles are not fake in the percentage you assume. I have met bunch of people here. Did not meet one fake profile....except one that put separated and was not, that was about as fake as I found.
People here are NOT BASHING the OP for the most part. They are telling him to leave because its obviously the best take under the circumstances he described to us.
Threads are close when Posters start as pity troll...THIS Thread is not. Maybe this is why it didn't get deleted???? DUHHHHH
Also sex threads are those about SEX and they can get as graphic as needed since they are started under that category SEX. So if your eyes hurt for their graphic nature. You need not to go there.
I wonder what makes you say all these sites are all a joke. It has never been to me and maybe it is you that attracts JOKERS!!! Is it possible you are a lady clown?????
I also don't understand if you think so low of this type of site and the people in here, why do you join??? Are you a masochist???
Just wondering.... and in fact I think you post s/be deleting because it is screaming ATTENTION NEEDED. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2009 6:17:11 AM | | OP it's time to step up and be a man here. First off, your unhappy. You've only been dating for 7 months and you've been unhappy for a couple?! What's taking you so long? It's not like your married! Cut the cord, no more "last" chances. If I was in your shoes, the second she gave me an ultimatum I would be out the door | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 5:59:23 PM | | Well, maybe I am being a door mat, but I'm trying to be reasonable here. I agreed to giving the relationship another try on the condition that she gives me a week (5 days now) to myself. I think that maybe if she can do this, than yes, she can change. And if she can't, well, then, I gave the chance. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 7:51:39 PM | | He 's just a good hearted person that likes a woman that pulls on his heart strings. I think when this post is done, he'll know what to do and quickly. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 9:33:01 PM | This is a passive-aggressive nightmare of an imaginary relationship.
Sorry Dude, but you aren't in a relationship.
She's using you, and freaks when you realize you're not happy being used.
She's talking the talk and you're a whipped puppy.
You tell us - what are you going to do?
My guess? You aren't strong enough to leave.
After all - you've tried this how many times now?
Have someone with some balls haul your ass away and kidnap you until the lingering "but I love her!"'s are all over and done with...maybe 4-6 months.
And she's threatening to cut herself? Let her. Walk away, without hesitation. I've got $50 says she doesn't do it. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 9:43:12 PM |
You already know the answer to this one sweetheart. Painful as it is, sometimes you just have to let go.
Basically..its hard to admit, but you already know what you have to do..i know its hard but thats how it is sometimes. ...just gotta let go bro.. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 10:07:17 PM | You're being much more than reasonable~
You think if she can go 7 days without you, that means she has changed? Um... probably not. But maybe in that time she'll learn how to use public transportation!
Seriously, move on. Cut this girl out of your life. If she threatens to harm herself, tell her you're calling and ambulance or call her family and have them deal with her. You are not responsible for her. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 1:20:34 AM | She's already shown you she'll promise anything but won't do it.
She won't change because she doesn't have to. You always go back.
If someone doesn't get out of your truck you either call the police or walk around, open the door and drag her out. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 2:30:12 AM | She shows she needs you - but does she want you?
You want her - but do you need her on the terms she is offering?
Your call - but I think by asking the question in the first place you already know the answer and all the other posters here have confirmed it for you.
Move on and find someone who can share in a mutual want. Be happy on your terms. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 3:13:47 AM | | She's taking advantage of you and you condone and almost encourage it but not standing by what you say. "Last chance" means the LAST one, there aren't anymore. If you break it off and she gives you a sob story or threatens you and then you cave and take her back you are teaching her that you are weak and she can totally work you over everytime. Don't let her do it, she used up her last chance the last time, she doesn't get another one. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 7:51:35 AM | | If she's whacked out enough to harm herself if you leave she's got alot more issues then you know. How'd you get stuck taking her to work and her kid to school? That's not your responsability anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 8:30:57 AM | I agree with contacting one of her friends or family members to "babysit" her through this. You have to love yourself to be happy, and if you are letting someone take advantage of your good nature........you're not loving yourself. A good rule of dating is the 3 month deal. Don't get involved with anyone seriously for that amount of time. Go out, hang, heck, I will hang with ya. But don't try to get connected until the time is right. Once you are away from this, it will sting, hurt, you'll feel like a shumck for a bit, but be much better in the long run. All my best to you.
Happiness,
Rebecca | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:22:24 PM | | if you had any respect for me you would have never put this up...just so you know. I should not have to defend myself on the ****ing internet to strangers, and you never did mention all that you did to cause all the problems in the relationship, which doesnt seem to make much of a differnce to either one of use now but you dont like being reminded of your mistakes so you shouldnt be able to plaster mine all of the net, and now what 3 months later and were still together you should have thought about my feelings maybe not then but at leats now and taken this down! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:37:47 PM | | And now "The Rest of the Story". I don't think you're going to have to worry about leaving now! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2009 12:49:17 PM | It sounds to me like she has some very serious issues and should seek help. Being in a relationship where she is controlling you, which she is, is just another form of mental abuse. Next, she'll be threatening to kill herself if you leave when her other tactics don't work. It's going to progressively get worse. What you wrote strikes me as someone with an obsessive/dependent personality.
Tell her to get help, stay away from her. You can't help her when you give in and come back, and you can't help yourself, either. The best for both of you, is to end it, no matter how hard it may seem right now. You'll look back and feel better for doing it. | |
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