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| | Cumming vs.Orgasm Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | I have to agree 100% with post 23
The real turn on for me is the feedback from my actions.It can be anything from tears of joy to being kicked off the bed from ringing the door bell too many times. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 4:08:56 AM | We can cum soooo many different ways. I don't quite get your friends' definition though OP. To me, they are all orgasms. If you reach climax in any fashion, thats the ticket.
Keep in mind we can get off all these ways:
1. gspot
2. clitorally
3. vaginal
4. anal
5. erogonous (kissing, stroking, teasing)
6. a combination of any of these
and this is just really scratching the surface. We are wonderful creatures with the capacity of so much pleasure but the key is to know thy self. Take the time, explore and when you find the right partner that pushes all your buttons, make sure that you expand on that chemistry. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 4:16:36 AM | I am with butterflie 100%!
I see them as the same thing, just called different things depending on the moment/mood????? Too much bullshit conversation these days, nobody knows anything anymore!!! | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 4:42:48 AM | I think it's the same act just different words used to describe it. Orgasm is a more elegant word and cumming is more crude and commonly used.
Also, to me it would be hilarious to hear my hubby shout "I'm orgasming" instead of "I'm cumming"  | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 5:24:54 AM | Since I'm a guy, we only have one form of orgasim, that's, small, medium and large. My fiancee, however, has told me that she has several different kinds of orgasims. There is the small kind that comes from penetration which is similar to how you describbed it. There is also the clitoral orgasim which comes from licking on her clit for a long time in just the right way. I have to eat her out for a long time but when she does cum, it's a huge orgasim and then can easily trigger other large orgasims from penetration, eating out, etc. I can also use my fingers after awhile of playing with her to cause her to squirt wave after wave of body trembling orgasims. So, yea, I'd say your friends are right.
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Posted: 2/28/2009 5:58:40 AM | | Some orgasms are more intense, there is a wide range even for me as a man. Sometimes it does not feel much different from peeing. Other times WOW! | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 6:20:59 AM | | Guys need to know WHAT SHE WANTS! Communication is crucial in all intimate encounters which is after all is said and done what we are striving for. Sure it's easy and great to get off, but AFTER what happens? | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 6:44:32 AM |  C vs O? my gal says its all good. we both say feedback is key in sex.  if im doing something she likes she lets me know. if she wants something dif she lets me know. and i do the same for her. somethime verbal response is needed and sometimes physical response is enough. we both agree that if u care bout the other u will listen to wat they say and both will have happy endings | |
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Posted: 2/28/2009 9:07:32 AM | I guess after reading the post that kthg posted it is nice to know there are women who have multiple orgasms besides me. I squirt too so it looks like you are putting squirting into its own little category. Which is cool but to me if I can get to the point where I squirt I am having some great sex anyway. My best friend and I were talking about that one day too and I was amazed when she said she never had squirted. I told her I am sorry. I guess I am naive but all thought all women squirted. But I guess not and for all of those of you who don't I am sorry you are missing out and so is the man your with. I have only had one boyfriend that didn't like it. All the rest of them have loved so cumming orgasm I agree as long as it feels good that is the point. I am also happy to see women on here discussing women stuff that is so cool. I miss having a lot of female friends like I did when I was younger. They all get married off and forget about their girlfriends.lol
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Posted: 3/2/2009 9:23:15 AM |
if you do orgasm that often congrats but I know I fit in with most the girls when I saw its not often .. I cum but I know I don't get off
what tattoedndperky just stated is exactly what my friends say. "I cum but I don't get off." They believe getting off{orgasm} and cumming are not the same thing. It just boggles my mind. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 9:27:50 AM | i agree with KUGrad that squirting is such a joy and pleasure to have and experience by a male partner as my GF squirts and its like a fountain sometimes..i love the feel all over me and my body that i even had a few gulpfuls more than afew times and its nothing to squirm about. If you are with the one that makes you feel that way like we are with each other..why even stop there..sex is just sex if nothing is explored or ventured by one or the two..
Furthermore ..i have experienced before my eyes when my GF used a vibrator on another lady [we had a 4some] who claimed she coulndt and never had squirted befor..the end result after careful and attentive probing and titilating by my gal..she actually sprayed on her palm and its was wave after wave or mini orgasms felt throughout her whole body that she actually came out of it afetr about 15 minutes and she was out of breath and just amazed and thankful that she did...so i somewhat disagree on the notion that 'not all women can have female ejaculations'..but my Gf and i think any women CAN! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 6:21:02 PM | I know the difference in my orgasms....
but I still say "I'm cumming" no matter which type I'm having!
I truly don't understand how one "gets off".....but doesn't think they have cum??? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 6:33:10 PM |
yes, we're all responsible ultimately for our own orgasms
Okay, I look at this way. You can't expect the person to know right away what brings you to that wave of pleasure (cumming/orgasm). Tell them what you like, what works and they should feel free enough to do the same. Over time, the time shared together will keep getting better and better as you learn about one another's bodies. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2009 3:38:06 AM | Ok, I obsessed again...aka. to make a short story long...
an orgasm is only when you reach full body spasms and you can't breath. And cumming is when your G-spot is hit and a lil bit comes out; whatever that's supposed to mean... Mmmmmm…no, an orgasm is an orgasm. The sexual response cycle consists of four stages: arousal, plateau, orgasm, and resolution; and if you go through these stages, you have indeed experienced an orgasm. Some resources will list five stages starting with desire. For multiple orgasms a woman skips the resolution stage, and returns directly to the plateau stage. Yes, there are many different flavors of orgasm; some far more intense than others; but they are all orgasms. “Betty Dodson, well known expert on orgasms and an author of two books on the subject, ‘Orgasms for Two’, and ‘Sex for One’, has categorized seven distinct types of orgasms. Pressure orgasms, tension orgasms, combination orgasms, multiple orgasms, relaxation orgasms, fantasy orgasms, G spot orgasms…” (turned off the link before I copied it, sorry) I have heard the slang cum used to refer to a woman who can ejaculate, or squirt; but that is from a G-spot orgasm and is intense.
For those of you into Eastern philosophy; their belief is that the female orgasm consists of nine stages; and we in the West, stopping at stage 4 deprive our women of their full orgasmic potential. I’ll let you be the Judge. “In the East, as described in the Chinese Tao of sex, the female orgasm is far more categorized, and is said to have 9 stages. Most men (from the East and West) who are not aware of the 9 stages often stop at stage 4, thus depriving the woman of the ultimate pleasure available to her. The 9 stages of female orgasm: 1.The lung stage, where the woman sighs, breathes very heavily and salivates. 2.The heart stage where the woman is kissing her man often extending her tongue out to him. 3.The spleen, pancreas, and stomach stage where the womans muscles become tense, and she grasps her man tightly. 4.The kidney and bladder stage where the woman experiences a series of vaginal spasms, and she will have much vaginal secretion simultaneously. The untrained man believes this is the climax. 5.The bone stage, where the womans joints loosen and she will bite her partner. 6.The liver and nerve stage, where the woman moves like a snake under or over her man, and she will wrap her arms and legs around him. 7.The blood stage, where the womans blood feels like it is boiling and she is grasping her man everywhere. 8.The muscle stage, where the womans muscles totally relax, but she is known to grasp even more and bite the mans nipples. 9.The complete body stage, where the woman finally collapse, and feels what is known as the little death.” Also in Eastern philosophy multiple orgasms in women are taken for granted, and viewed as “…just part of the process.” http://xoomag.com/articles/sexuality/female-orgasm-understanding-it-and-making-it-happen.html
tattooednperky20...I disagree with you kyhyq ... unless your extremely sensitive i dont see how you could orgasm multiple times on a frequent basis ... its one of those things if you find the right guy who knows what hes doing it will happen but even he doesnt know exactly what it was that got you off your body changes daily and so does your sensitivity level is based off your hormones. *shaking my head* How can you possibly disagree with someone else’s orgasms, or ability to orgasm? What are you defining as multiple? And what do you mean by frequent? FYI, yes women’s bodies change daily; but what YOUR body does, and how it reacts, is entirely different from other women’s bodies.
I’m a believer that once they relax, and figure themselves out, ALL women can have multiple orgasms; I believed this before I had heard anything about the Eastern philosophy. There is simply no physical/biological reason they can’t. Yes, I KNOW I’m NOT a woman; and I KNOW you know YOUR body. But I will counter that with, “Just because you know what you have done in the past DOES NOT mean you know what you are capable of.”
I’ve known many women who thought for years that they could only have one orgasm; but I’ve never met one who wasn’t eventually able to have multiples; even if that only means 3, in a night. My bet is that if you asked them, most, if not all, of these women who are multiorgasmic had been sexually active for a while, if not years, before they discovered how to have numerous orgasms in a night.
What you will find is that the first orgasm may take a while to get to; but after that, if your lover knows what he’s doing, and you know what you’re after, subsequent orgasms get much easier; and once you know how, routine multiple orgasms is not that big of a deal. There is also a phenomenon known as "an orgasm cloud"; where a womans orgasms come so frequently, and last long enough, that it feels like one long continuous orgasm.
There are absolutely women who are capable of having several orgasms a night, every night, with regularity. I’ve known women who could have 30-50 orgasms in a night; and YES these are actual complete orgasms. Are they capable of having that many several nights in a row? To be totally honest, I have no idea. I know that as a lover, I wouldn’t have the energy to put that much effort into it several nights in a row; but I’m not going to presume for a second that I know what they are capable of given some free time, a glass of wine, and a new set of batteries. Now, are these all toe curling, sheet pulling, wall scratching, reality altering 20-30 minute orgasms? No. But, are they all full, legitimate orgasms? You bet they are.
While probably only 1-2% of women can have 30-50+ orgasms, it’s still a very real occurrence. Personally, like I said, I believe all women are capable of at least 3 or more orgasms in a night; and I also believe a very significant percentage are capable of at least 5-10 in a night. The magic comes in learning their phisiolobical responses; knowing when she is headed into the resolution stage so she can cut that off and get straight back into the plateau stage. Once she knows what she's looking for, and where she's going...multiple orgasms can be routine.
matchlight It's just that I notice that you, like a lot of women, seem to believe your partner's skill determines how much you get out of sex. But what about "Take responsibility for your own orgasm”…I know I'm kind of a radical on this, but I've found things usually go better for both partners if neither one has to worry about how much they're exciting the other one. I'll take “I missed the f*cking boat completely” for $200 Alex. "Taking responsibility for your own orgasm" doesn't mean giving yourself an orgasm per se; it means letting your partner know what you like, and what you need; as opposed to laying there silent and hope they figure it out. Dude, if you don’t get off on giving your partner pleasure; and aren’t willing to do something for her that rocks her world, even if it does nothing for you, you are a sh!tty lover; and if you aren’t willing to put up with a little discomfort or even muscle cramps to make sure she gets there, go home and rent a video.
You bet you’re a$$ that your partner’s skill determines how much you get out of sex! Especially for women since their sexual response is so much more involved than guys; and their orgasmic potential is so much higher. I'll tell you what, you get together with your SO and play with each other; maybe she even has an orgasm or two; then some guy steps in the next night who knows what he’s doing; and spends a few hours building her up and giving her a dozen or so orgasms; or maybe he’s only able to give her two; but he makes her the center of his world for a few hours; whose number do you think she’s going to remember the next day? She may not remember her own number, but I’ll bet she remembers his. The next week, you call her up, and she’ll be too busy getting a manicure; if he calls her up, she’ll fly back into town; or fly him out to meet her. You take your “radical” theory, and sell it to as many guys as you can; because for every guy that believes that sh!t, my chances of having a date Friday go way up.
For guys it may not be as pronounced since our sexual arousal is so much simpler; and we’re only good for, at my age, 1 orgasm a night (or 2 on a good night). However, even so, I get MUCH more enjoyment out of it if I know she is loving what she is doing; even if her skill level isn’t the best. I don’t need sex bad enough to put up with a selfish, or unenthusiastic partner; besides, my reality has been that if I put out a little effort, show a little sensitivity, and a demonstrate little skill; she'll get much more enthusiastic. | |
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