Landra
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 2/28/2009 2:20:00 PM |
I know women don't like men who believe in Jesus Christ . my, that's a "Christian" thing to say about women, isn't it? You "know" this for a fact, do you?
I suggest you go around to your church and volunteer your services there. | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 2/28/2009 4:02:43 PM | ~OP~ I think it's great. Don't pay attention to the negativity. Sign of the times I suppose. Dating has turned into meet/greets ~ he does this, she shouldn't do that ~ blah blah blah. Do what you are comfortable with. Some of us appreciated niceties.  | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:51:20 PM |
~OP~ I think it's great. Don't pay attention to the negativity. Sign of the times I suppose. Dating has turned into meet/greets ~ he does this, she shouldn't do that ~ blah blah blah. Do what you are comfortable with. Some of us appreciated niceties.
And yet... I hold out hope of meeting someone who will love me for me... Rather than mainly for my well-appointed tool kit!
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/1/2009 8:58:13 AM | Update on this:
This idea has been a great learning experience for me personally. I have found a way to enjoy my date with working around the house. Now for those who think I'm nuts. I'm a handyman not a electrician or major tradesmen. I'm not a contractor but a man that knows the minor problems of a household. Hanging pictures, painting, replacing old wood with new. Fix minor plumbing, hanging hooks and racks.. Moving heavy furniture. The house is going to be a great place to live. An when others don't believe in me I believe in myself in doing the best I can for this lovely lady without any strings attached. I'm finding a friend that I feel comfortable with. I never felt so good in helping a woman in her life without pressure and no reward is needed but a hug,akiss, and squeese. There are still men with good intentions instead of the normal people getting tit or tat. Just believe and love your neighbor with dignity and pride and never let anyone fail . | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:25:48 AM | OP - for me, I wouldn't mind, provided there are no strings attached. Remember though, it is her house, so you may have to do some things her way or be constructive in your suggestions when the need arises. Too, if it comes breakup time, don't throw into a woman's face "I did this, and I did that - now you owe me".
You and GF can always have paint parties; garden parties; carwash parties, etc. | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/1/2009 5:34:19 PM | I think by broadcasting this, you are setting yourself up for a bunch of users contacting you. I have been involved in various fields of construction for over 20 years. I will not even give a DISCOUNT unless I've been dating them for more than six months.
...HEY! Wait a minute. This isn't a, "Look how nice a guy I am!" thread, is it?  | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:19:49 AM |
There are still men with good intentions instead of the normal people getting tit or tat.
Yes...there are. But the 2nd date? No. And you didn't answer the question that someone else posed and that I want to know:
What happens to these nice women after you finish being tool time guy? If things were that great, why would you be here? Hell, if a man is going to do all that for me I'd consider dating him long term.
So...what happens after all of the home improvements are done? | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/2/2009 4:43:12 AM | If your on the up and up, then good for you. It's always nice to do nice things. Especially if they are constructive and I hope for the best. Just remember you said you are doing these with no ulterior motive. Otherwise...well other posters have expressed their views.
I only hope that she holds a similarly view and is on the straight and narrow and not just seeing you for free labor.
Regards
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/2/2009 6:17:20 AM | | Ok here the answer to all those say when the job done. All of the women become my friends. I do not always find the lady I want to marry or have a long term ralationship with. But as a christian man I do it in the Name of Jesus Christ and now that is lent even more goes into my work. The dating is apart of it but I feel better I did something for my fellow man. I'm a very deeply religiuous man and my faith has a lot to do with my personallity. Maybe you think there walking over me or taking advantage of. I look at it that I did sometime not just for the lady but Jesus Christ. When the project over Jesus says to my heart thank you my faithful servent for doing that in my name. If you don't understand my religion That ok . But I feel I was put on this earth to serve not be serve and I always feel good I help someone throughout my life. Medical research says when we do things for someone else we get a benefit to our hearts which means less heart disease and more life. And for those thinking of a reward my reward will be in heaven with Jesus Christ my only goal on this earth. | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 3/2/2009 7:24:43 AM | As just-for-forums said:
It can be a good test of how your communication styles mesh.
I'll agree with this. Not sure you should be offering after the second date, but it seems that you enjoy being appreciated, to which there is nothing wrong with that, but there is a fine line between being appreciated and being used. I think 2 months into a relationship where that woman is no longer just a "date" would be a better timeline for investing yourself into such endeavors.
I love doing my own home-remodeling and other tasks too, and working with a partner is definitely a good way to see if you two are compatible. There are some men who just want to take over and do it themselves, and others that are easy to work with and accept your ideas and suggestions. Goes both ways too, as they can see how you work with -them-.
But after the second date? Naw, too soon. As "work in progress" said, consider Habitat for Humanity.
And, if you know how to remove a supporting wall and install a header, shoot me a quote. :) I'd be happy to pay for your services and I don't live too far from you.
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:24:41 PM | You know what? I like to think of my way in and my way out... Do I meet a stranger for the first time in my house? HELL NO!
Safety issues aside, what if he is an absolute wanker?
What do I do then?
I would prefer the boring meet-in-the-park, or a simple drink in a public place. If this is not "fun" enough for him, we can go to an amusement park, a museum, an art gallery, a basketball playground where we kick some ball, whatever..... but not my place! | |
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| After the second date would you start to work on a women house.
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:37:53 PM | | Why not lay a welcome logo on your shirt so they can wipe thier feet on it. I would definely not take on such responsabilities long down the road, unless you can leave your clothing, dirty dishes,ect on her front porch so she can mend and hem and clean. Wake up, we each are responsable for our own stuff, only till the honeymoon stage wears off and Im still with her will I fix her pipes. | |
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