| | Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?Page 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I lived alone in a remote area of Kentucky miles from the city and no neighbors within sight.
A stray hound dog, bone tired and ravaged by the rocky creek bed out of the mountains led her approach to my cabin. She was skin and bone, ears torn and ribs showing. I reckon she had been a coon dog that had "run a deer" too far from home and was now paying the ultimate price. Lost and alone.
I really did not want to feed this hound. Knowing that she would then adopt this place and me as her new home and master. After a couple days of chasing her off the porch I relented. I could not bear to look her in the eye and not help her. She looked as if she were suffering for me; because I was not willing to help a creature in such pitiful condition.
After three weeks she was sitting with me on the sofa inside the cabin. | |
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:11:25 AM | I AGREE 100% WAY TOO MANY MEN TRY TO GET YOU IN THE SACK RIGHT AWAY FROM DAY ONE AND SAY WELL IF WE ARE NOT COMPATIBLE WITH SEX IT WONT WORK,,,HOW ABOUT GETTING TO KNOW EACHOTHER FIRST SEE IF YOU CLICK WITH EACHOTHER AND IF ITS A FOR SURE OR HES JUST WANTING TO GET INTO YOUR PANTS,,,WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO HONEST MEN WHO JUST POINT BLANK SAYS LETS HAVE SEX NOT LIE AND TELL US WHY NOT BE BOOTY CALLS AND SEE WHERE IT GOES,,I HAVE GOTTIN TO THE POINT IM SCARED TO PUT OUT DUE TO THERES WAY TO MANY GAMES BEING PLAYED OUT IN THIS WORLD ITS LIKE A BARGENING TOOL HAVE SEX WITH ME AND SEE IF I WANT YOU OR NOT HOW SAD IS THAT,,?SO MANY MEN THINK I HATE SEX DUE TO THE WAY I STAND MY GROUND BUT I DONT ,,I JUST DONT WANT TO BE SOME ONE BLOW UP DOLL,,HAVE THEIR FUN WITH ME AND IM NOT SUPOSE TO CARE THAT IM JUST A FLING NOTHING MORE,,,,,I DONT KNOW WHO TO TRUST ANY MORE NOW A DAYS,,VERY SAD,,,I'M SURE MANY WOMEN WILL AGREE TO WHAT IM SAYING,,,SO GOOD LUCK WITH THE RELATIONSHIP IF IT IS ONE ,,,WHO KNOWS LOL !!!!! MEN ARE SOOO HARD TO FIGURE OUT NOW A DAYS ,,,,,, | |
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cat 72
| | Joined: 12/30/2007
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 12:54:52 PM | How long did you know each other before you hooked up? It doesn't sound like there is much communication. Do you hook-up everytime you see him and how many times in a month have you met?
If you've only known this guy 4 weeks, you haven't given him near enough time to decide if he wants a monogamous relationship with you or anyone else! Don't rush it.
If you want to know if you're only his FWB then just ask him. But I think you'd be pushing things by even asking that based on what you've described.
You know the old saying "If it looks like a duck...." If you feel like you're being used then go with your gut feelings. But, it sounds like you want more from this guy than he's ready to give you and I think your best bet would be to go on your month long trip as if he never existed. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! | |
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Shui7
| | Joined: 4/26/2009
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 1:57:18 PM | Listen to Rosiaq Good advice!
Don't freak out on him or demand answers...Just keep rockn it in your own world.
Maybe you'll meet someone commitment ready this month while your out of town? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 2:04:34 PM | Ron9...
Spot On!!! Couldn't have said it better.
Love it when guys say their part. It comes straight goods.
OP...you call the rules in how a guy treats you. I would have a heart to heart with him about what you actually do want from a man in your life and see if he sticks.
Don't tell him you love him and all that. You don't. It's too new.
Good Luck!! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 2:39:56 PM | | OP sounds like its more friends with benifits. Tell him you like everything you two do together, but you'd be happier if this could develop into something more meaningful then see what he says. | |
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 2:47:03 PM | | Ok the rule is if sounds too good to be true then it is. The question is do you consider yourself to be just a booty call? you already answered that yess!! If you think that some how you will get into that guys mind and make him thing or act how you want that be my guest. I have a hunch that this will not work. His fine with the booty call you're not. If the sex and cuddling and whatever else is that great just pretend like you don't mind being a cooty call. I wouldn't!!!! | |
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 2:53:21 PM | OP -- In essence, a true booty call would be just that...a call, then some booty. In your case, it sounds more like FWB or f*ck buddies. There's still an air of "doing something" besides f*cking. So the notion you're just a booty call is void more or less. A call followed by the booty is what I understand a booty call to represent. No "before" play, just the f*cking.
So assuming he sees you as a FWB, I wouldn't bet that this will change anytime soon. Face it, you gave up the p*ssy before any notion of romance or dating or a relationship was breached...so he figures there's now no need for any such triviality now because you are both getting what you want outta the deal. Why would he pursue a relationship with someone who was so willing to just give it up without any effort? That seems kinda pointless.
He's attracted to you enough to sleep with you, but if he wanted a relationship out of it, you'd already be there. You can wish all you want that he'll "change" or that there's some magic trick you can use to "change" his disposition about it...but you're just kidding yourself. You gave it up with no effort or communication about the ground rules...you're BOTH enjoying it or you'd only have done it once (see: so this isn't just a HIM thing)...so expecting it to evolve naturally or forcefully into a relationship is just ill thinking.
Won't happen.
If it's a relationship you're really after, don't be so quick to just give it up, and be sure to discuss your intentions before that ever does happen so that you both know the ground rules. Expecting a FWB situation to morph into a relationship is foolish.
JMO. | |
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| Booty Call - The Exception or the Rule?
Posted: 6/10/2009 3:24:54 PM | Hi Rosie,you sound very sweet and you like this guy a lot.You yourself have described your relationship as hooking up. Thats very telling, I think you know deep down the score with this guy.
He shows no interest in your life apart from when you are free for sex.His interest in you is sexual only.You are filling the gap before Miss right.
He is obviously physically attracted to you, but there is no emotional connection for him.This could be because your relationship became sexual before it became emotional.if you were not sleeping together, he would be gone.
Why jump in the sack so fast,it sounds like you slept together right away, before you knew him properly.Take your time getting naughty,get to know the person and see if you like them as people.Sex blinds people and emotionally connects women to unsuitable men.
Will he commit to you now, hardly .You are a FWB only, handy when he is horny and dinner assuages his conscience as do the cuddles.Get out before you get hurt or accept the status quo without complaint.I would never accept FWB, its just not me, I feel your the same.Find yourself a nice guy, who is committed to you.This one is a waste of your time. | |
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