| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 3/13/2009 7:59:27 AM | This is a long post, sorry, I skipped a few pages of replies...
I think a lot of the posters got off on a tangent about who should pay, etc., but I don't see that as the question here! And it's certainly not about "owing" anyone anything! If ANYONE, male or female, on a date or just in the same place at the same time, does something for me, I say thank you. It's all about manners, common courtesy (which is awfully uncommon anymore) and upbringing. If you buy me a coffee, I say thank you. If you hold open a door - I say thank you. If you push me out of the way of a speeding car and save my life - I say thank you.
After dinner every night - my son THANKS me for cooking for him...imagine that! Upbringing! | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 3/14/2009 12:08:38 AM | | You know..it would be a sign of quality. It's respect and manners...but only if you deserve it. I mean...maybe you were a complete jerk off. Seriously though...if she doesn't it could be a sign you will be taken for granted. Since I don't know you..I couldn't say. | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:32:46 PM | Everyone grows up in a slightly different culture.
For example, I'd find it weird for a girl to say "Thankyou" because I buy her food.
Its just money.
However, if I pick her up from somewhere in the middle of the night because she calls me.
That is a more personal effort and deserves a "thankyou".
On a last note though, if you go on a huge date.
At the end of the night, "Thankyou for a wonderful night." would make sense to me. | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:33:55 AM | You annoyance is your feeling. You are allowed to have whatever feelings you choose to have. It is common courtesy to tell someone thank you after they purchase something for you. Maybe they don't teach manners in school any longer and that is why the gals you choose to date are not using this simple gesture of gratitude. I would think that if basic manners is what you expect from someone you are "dating" then a girl that doesn't use the most basic of manners would not be someone you continue to see. This would cut down on the feelings of annoyance.
Now, I have been guilty of forgetting to say thank you to a date for the evening we shared at the time we part. When I remember though I will usually text, call or email them a thank you. I have my ditzy days what can I say! | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/2/2009 6:52:21 AM | | absolutely YES a thank you is important. I was asked to Dutch treat last night which was fine. After the meal he paid. I was not expecting him to. I asked him how much my portion was he said no he covered it. I thanked him. He said it was his pleasure as it was a great meal and conversation was enlightening and appreciated. | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/3/2009 3:18:48 PM | | I always go on a date prepared to pay my way, and I offer. As soon as I get a "No, don't worry about it, I got it..." I promptly say thank you. Whether it's a cup of coffee or dinner, movie tickets...whatever. It's only right to say thanks...It's shows good manners. And at least being prepared to pay or contribute is nice so the guy doesn't feel like he's constantly being taken advantage of. A nice girl will use manners. | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/3/2009 10:23:15 PM | Overwhelmingly, those with less are more thankful than those with more. To the entitled you can give nohting they will ever appreciate..
I didnt even agree to pay for a breakfast and a woman didnt thank me and was off to the next date already checking her cell for the next message, and I wish to god Id stood her up. And she was overwhelmingly enthusiastic about meeting me..But during the whole meal trying to get my assent to the validity of her dislike of the last guy she had met..saying she liked me better, and yet...
Women do it because men let them. After we parted I sent her a message clarifying how I felt. Just the price of taking a chance on what appears to be real..
I wish people knew that those they had met could compare notes on them, maybe behavior would be more respectful and considerate and self examined..maybe..
Much cheaper than that eventual divorce! | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:26:34 AM | The answer to your question is a definite yes, yet you dont want to be the type of person who holds the door for everybody and basically waits for someone not to say thank you and sarcastically says" you are welcome " cause they didnt say thanks. its counterproudctive to put yourself in a lousy mood over it.
From my experience in life in any type of relationship wether it be romantic,friends,family or in the workplace the biggest vent is people not feeling appreciated. | |
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| Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.?
Posted: 5/4/2009 7:27:09 AM | | Manners are a big thing for me. I'm assuming you work hard for your money. I don't understand why a woman (who you barely know) thinks she deserves you spending it on her. If you buy someone you hardly know, dinner, she should thank you. You should expect a thank you just as she expects you to pay for dinner. Everything is give and take. If she is take, take, take on the first date, it's going nowhere fast. | |
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