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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/19/2009 2:59:24 PM |
Fact of Dating Life: Actions speak much louder than words so pay less attention to what he (or she) says and close attention to what he (or she) does. If a man (or woman) is interested in you, they will call on a regular basis and will take/make the time to see you. If this isn't happening, then it isn't going to.
Good point. I think that's true most of the time. Some people though just have a low need for dating and relationships, so you could be the most important person to them romantically and they'd still only be mildly interested in talking to you every third day. | |
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lauire
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Joined: 2/24/2009
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:01:38 PM | ^^^^^So MrChemistryMajorMan....how do you propose that a girl weed out the shaft from the good....(Given the understaznding that bonking is different for man's physiological make-up than it is for girl...[understanding that])....
does she sleep with all potenials because hormones seem to be creating something that resembles something true (or has the potenial for something true?) --
"True"........i.e. both parties are equally bestow ing to a friendship ....
Or should she bonk them all in hopes that the bait sticks & enjoy herself -- then cut her losses if nothing caught......? --
sidebar: -- too bad I am not closer to TX -- for events that you are into Sir -- it is so refreshing to read so much truth.....Laurie | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:28:44 AM | There's an excellent book out there called "He's Just Not That Into You'... It's short, funny and REALLY good... Basically, if he's not treating you the way you expect and want to be treated, he's just not that into you. He'll keep you around as an option (and maybe cause he doesn't wanna look like the "bad guy") but when he does meet that woman that really turns his crank, you'll be on the curb fast enough to make your head spin. The author (a very funny comedian with extensive TV and move credits) says that even the "doggiest dog in the doghouse" will change his ways for the woman that captures his fancy. So stop making excuses and let it go. Let HIM go. And mooooove on.
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:53:27 PM | To EJones....dang girl, I am considerably older than you, but at your age, we could have been twin sisters. Other weird things...I do have a twin sister, I am a virgo and you live in my mothers home town, she just left there recently and I spent a few years growing up there GO MAROON AND GREY!! YEA LIONS!! I still think they have the best looking colors of all HS teams. You fish at Lake Bardwell? My grandfather was one of the guys that dug that lake. I remember spending weekends being shown around when it was nowhere near built. I have A LOT of family there, you probably know some. I had a great aunt there that I think lived to be older than any other person in that town...my grandfather and great grandfather laid the brinks on Main St...I have an uncle that once served as mayor...I have one that was once police chief...I could go on and on. I bet you know a lot of my relatives.
The guy...do you really want one that works off-shore?
To In-the-Sticks...man she has/wants another guy. You are a person she just doesn't have time for right now, but she isn't sure if this other guy wants her, so she wants to leave the door open a crack with you. If I were you, I would just be clear, don't be there for her to play with. Tell her either she wants to go on a real date with you or don't write back again. Since she stood you up, if she wants to go on a real date, make her come to you. If she does, then be the nice guy you are. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:04:02 AM | Oh my goodness EJones....I have also worked in healthcare my entire life, plus catering, architectural design and management consulting, but all of those were in addition to healthcare.
My mom called me up a few years ago and said my twin was working in a doctors office in Waxahachie....could that have been you??
She said it made her have cold chills because she thought it was me and asked her, "What are you doing here?" She said the girl sounded like me and looked like me so much that she really thought it was me.
eerrie... | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:27:51 AM | I feel your pain. I dated a guy from this site (local person) for two months. Everything was (it seemed) going well, daily phone calls, texts....you know. He was moving to a new apartment, purchasing furniture, asking my opinion, etc. Then, all of a sudden, things change. I'm not getting calls, he's cancelling dates, etc. A woman's intuition is strong and my girlfriend and I set up a little sting. See, when I started seeing him regularly, I suggested we both get off POF to see where the relationship was going. He dodged the question/suggestion, and that should have been my warning. I got off POF, he didn't. Anyway, my girlfriend who is younger and very cute, set up a profile and approached him....well you know what happened...he took the bait. What is incredible is this....I left him a voice mail saying it looked like we didn't want the same thing out of the relationship, I knew he was active on POF still, and it was only fair to tell him that I was re-activating my profile on POF as well and have a nice life. He sends me this long email with lots of excuses, telling me that if I was patient, we'd work through this, yada, yada. All the while, he's pursuing my girlfriend by email. What a dog. My advice to you is this...cut this guy off. Carve him out of your heart and move on. He's playing you and this stuff is happening all over this site, day in and day out.
Focus on the few real men who are willing and mature enough to have a relationship. This stuff is taking a toll on women emotionally, and it can sap your strength. Tell him to take his bs elsewhere, you are not interested. Set boundaries very clearly in your profile on what you expect out of a friend's behavior and what your life goals are with regard to a relationship. It will help weed out the riffraff. Good luck! | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 9/14/2009 1:44:56 PM | OP and others,
I wish to add my two cents on this thought as it is a hard thing being a good guy these days. So many women will do whatever they can to make you into something less simply because you do not take what is offered and respond according to their desires. FACT!
I cite an example from my own life:
I met a person some time ago and she and I attempted to get to know one another. We spoke and text daily. Some times for hours we would text back and forth...something I am not really fond of doing, but hey!
This goes on for a few days and finally I am in town long enough to set a time to meet her. We meet and at a local Country bar. She said she had no friends and that she was new to Austin. We spoke and she immediately started attacking my life before her. Of course I felt there was nothing I needed to defend about my life. And our first official date the following nite was GREAT! It has been forever at this point since I met a person I just felt this connected with. We play pool, tease each other, drink, laugh, and powder each other with chalk. Head out back to her place and she invites me up and we talk over wine and I am thinking what a GREAT connection. No kissing at this point! Nothing else at this point. Just hanging out at her apt. We walk her dog, laugh some more and then she mentions going to change into something more comfortable. BUT warns me not to get any thoughts on this.
NOW here is where we run into problems. I am sitting there waiting for her to go do what she has to do and I had just offered to leave so she could rest... SEVERAL times actually. And she kept sitting there and offered more wine. Eventually I stood up to leave and she starts kissing me.
Then out of no where attacks me verbally. LITERALLY picks a fight with me in her living room.
From a great evening to a full out fight with no cause. I even tried to be civil in discussing it with her, but I see later now that she was intent on picking a fight with me. My later guess was that she did this to de-humanize me in some way!
Now, I have stated as accurately as I can what the events of the night are and were. And where in there did I deserve her behavior? What caused her to be nasty the next day when I asked her about it and she attacked me again over the phone. Told me that I could not be loyal to her because I had a life before her as justification for her behavior.
MY POINT OP!
People do things for reasons only truly known to them! We can take it as something we did, or that they are just CRAZY! Either way, in time, you have to decide to move on with your life and love. And look forward to the next great person you will definitely meet!
-CowboyEnuff
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