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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 2:18:30 PM |
By this time in your life you should have some idea of what you are looking for out of life while taking into concideration as well as the fact that your life could change in a heartbeat.
One word sums up what I've experienced and want to continue to experience during my life. I want to maintain the PASSION I have, to live life. I call it my "get up and go".
Unfortunately some people, as they age, lose their "get up and go".........In other words, they're feeling beaten down and their passion to live life, has gotten up and went.
Oh....I see the signs of aging, physically slowing down. I know I'm doing that, somewhat. But, I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about my interior essence, my motivation to feel fully and experience each moment of my life, as it comes. To allow myself to experience profound moments of joy, as well as periods of grief, with passion.
OP: I don't think there are any right or wrong answers to your question. Probably the answers you get will be as diverse, as the people who respond.
But, in addition to living life passionately, I'm liking Rusty's "bucket list" especially
A peaceful place and person to snuggle up to on a cold winters night... | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 2:23:30 PM | Peace works for me.... to achieve peace would mean i have my togethers-together sufficiently well enough to meet whatever life throws at me with equanimity.
Do I know EXACTLY what I want? Nah, life is too dynamic... I love the current trajectory tho' | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:23:30 PM | | I have to say the question is a sound one.. but I have to ask in return. Why have you waited until now to ask yourself this? I know I have always wanted to be happy healthy and able to fend for myself..and that was in my late teens. I assure you that if I live to my 80's or 90's I doubt that will change . Its not flippant to not put alot of emphasis on the rest of lifes trials and such but I have always been one to think on my feet as it were. So the challenges in life are what makes it worth living. I personally dont believe in making a wish list or a bucket list. Thats not to say there arent things I wish for but there is no set list for such things. Life isnt always about where your going but rather how you get there. Yes you need to have a destination and a basic plan but the rest ( and I know alot of folks hate this term) "It is what it is ". I firmly believe your life can be what you make of it but not everything will happen the way you want it to. God forbid but I could walk out the door tonight and have it all end in an accident. If you waste to much time planing and listing you have missed out on all the things you could have been doing. I seriously doubt I will make it to 90 as most of my family dont make it that long ( with my maternal grandmother as one exception..God bless and rest her wonderful soul). Life is a precious gift.. live it. Get out and smell the roses because in your 90's they may not let you out to do so on your own if your able. Just my take on the topic. Best of luck to you all. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 7:04:43 PM | From the OP:
What is it that you're trying to achieve for the balance of your life?
That would be balance in my life. As everything is in a constant flux of change, my goal is to try to remain upright as I hit the bumps and drops. Beyond my basic needs, I don't try to plan for anything but the unexpected, because that is what will happen 99% of the time. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:38:41 AM | Do I know what I want? Sure but that is subject to change. Right now a soul mate would be nice and I do want one but I think I will wait till I get to where I want to be living first. Then once that drama is over we will scout the sky and see whats on the horizon and pick the next goal. I think we as a people often have a hard time finding a balance between goals and journeys. i have goals but i am on a journey called life. when the path presents two choices i am going to take the one that looks best at the time. i may later wish, at least a little, that i chose the other (relationship wise i have more than few of those) but hey. today is the present. and yesterday is over my shoulder so i cant look back for too long. keep the faith, live day by day but journey towards your dreams. i still want to sky dive and play steel drums . still want to sail on a sailing ship that goes to that one particular harbor. its all good, all possible and if you keep moving it might just happen. (or at least you can have fun along the way with the ones you meet today) | |
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Posted: 3/7/2009 5:47:26 PM | To take a free ride on the Peace train to
destinations not seen but longed for only
in dreams of the wild, the kind and the
heavenly.
To lie down in meadows green, to know
that I am safe from falling skies above me.
To rise up and stand among those thought
to be great and to ask questions that made
me wonder if there were truly great answers
and to have them make me understand
fully.
To fly into the depths of the universe and
to find myself standing on planets too far
to reach by other means and to speak to
those raised there and to ask questions
and find answers that we failed to even think of
before.
To fly by using only my mind and to reach the heart of
the one that I seek.
To reach through the veil of life and to see those that passed
before me and to hear their songs and have them sung to me
once again.
To speak music and to hear the poetry of life and happiness.
To know the wind and to understand from where it came and
to where it blows.
and
to stand at the rainbow's end. | |
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| I now know exactly what I want from life
Posted: 3/7/2009 6:08:41 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^....................................
Happiness and good health. Love.. would be nice.
I have the happiness.. could use some better helath.. and love.. seems illusive to me. Hmmmmm......... ? But.. I'm still looking...................... | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:41:16 PM | yep, i know exactly what i want from life these days and for the rest of my life BUT, i doubt i'll get it.
the older i get, i become more set in what i want.
i've become selfish because all of my life i was always so unselfish.
i've become less tolerant with some things and more tolerant with others.
i have no tolerance or desire to be around children anymore so i can't do the grandma thing.
i'm not willing to move out of my house or out of my town for anyone.
life today is so different then when i was in my 30's and 40's.
insofar as finances, well.....we'll see what happens with that....lol
boy, i really sound like a b*tch......i guess that's what happens when you get older....lol
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/8/2009 12:12:34 AM | | "And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed." Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/8/2009 12:13:16 AM | Courage...
When I am 80, or whenever I am on my death-bed, I would like to look back on my life and know that I had the courage to turn aspirations into realities and dreams into actions.
This week I turn 50, and when I cut the cake my wish will be for Fearlessness.
I do feel less fear as I get older and can look back on ordeals of strength and trials of hope/hopelessness. I see my resilience and try to maintain it, whilst staying flexible and open to change...but that demon of fear still raises its ugly little head now and again!
Material possessions don't mean a lot to me, as long as I can use the library for books, buy good quality paints and great music, then I'm happy. Watching my kids turn into decent human beings, having solid friendships, celebrating being alive each morning and continuing to learn about life, the world and its people will keep me going. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/8/2009 1:49:05 AM | | Being at the age I am..I have enough income to take care of my self.I dont have to ask for any help.Would like to find that good partner.If not..ok.....I will live by my self,no problem...I dont worry about the future. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/8/2009 3:14:35 AM | Santa, I think that I had a loosely planned 'bucket list' since I was in high school. When asked what I wanted to do when I grew up, I didn't have an answer because I knew that I wanted to do as many things/ pack everything possible into my life. With the world changing as fast as it has been, how is it possible, even at the >45 and then some age group to plan for 85+?
You describe yourself as having become more flexible with the years, accommodating unexpected little bundles of joy that arrive in need and want of your attention. So you're mellow & that sounds happy to me.
I'm trying to keep my options open in that I realize that the people I care about & love might just steer me in a different direction. I've stepped in to look after my niece and nephew when my sister died. If my daughter decides to have kids, I hope that I'll be involved in some way. And I still plan to see far-off places in the world that I've only seen in my dreams.
But, at this exact moment, I wish the homework fairies would show up and help me with some assignments that are not getting done. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 7:20:26 PM | This is a great question. There are lots of little things I would like to do, but in the big scheme of things, I am adrift. I can retire from my current job with a pretty good annuity, I am in generally good health and I would like to get my kids through college, each one in one relatively intact piece. The bigger issue is what I would like form a relationship, because the gold standard of relationships that I used in my thirties, and might have used into my forties, was whether the woman and I could get married and have a good family. I have begun to think I am getting too old to use that standard. Were I to date a woman for a couple of years, and have a couple of kids, I would be at least 60 when the youngest would be born, and would be at least 78 when the kid was getting ready to go to college. That seems a little too old for that role. I wouldn't completely rule it out, but it seems like a low probability outcome.
So what do I want from a relationship? A lover, for sure, and a companion to share my activities, and hers. Maybe someone to do something new and dramatic, which wasn't practical when I was younger, like teaching in a high needs area, pursuing a PhD, touring in a motorhome, running a small retail shop like a bike shop, art gallery or ski shop, or running a flying school using Light Sport Aircraft. The real bottom line is that I don't know, and that may be the biggest challenge of all, yet it is the biggest opportunity of all. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/10/2009 8:18:22 PM | i want to be able to live in the present moment and enjoy it to the fullest and not worry about what happens next. life is a continual revelation, anything can happen.
Ditto ...and Kudos to you.....just sayin(msg 3 on page 1)
My feelings exactly!!!!
~~Beth~~ | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/12/2009 6:50:17 PM | | I spend a lot of time examining my life, it's good to be reminded that my life has been worth living. I suppose I was too worried lately about finding someone, that I lost sight of who I am and where I am going. This is my first post, and first online dating experience and this is my 3rd week? I am a shy newborn not knowing what to expect here. So what do I want from life, at this moment, I'd like to be comfortable with this new "thing" I have found to do. online dating! | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:19:38 PM | I just want to end my life sitting with my special fellow after having lived life to its fullest. I have worked hard all of my life. I want to spend my retiring years with someome whom I love as much as he loves me, dentures and all! lol
Surely the struggle in life's daily challenges ends up in a dull roar, easier for us to handle. The simple things hopefully, are what life will provide in the end. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:26:32 PM | | I do know what I want from life and it has always been the same. I want to live it. So far I have been successful. Some of the stuff that happens is weird. I guess that is to be expected in a world with flying fish and jumbo shrimp. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:43:22 AM | What I want and getting what I want are two different things . Yes I do know exactly what I want from life now and I'm pleased to say that at the moment I'm getting it good but how will I behave , how will you behave when you don't get what you want ? I have been humbled by a guy I do voluntary work at a community radio station with who is in a wheelchair . Even if you don't own a fancy car , you can walk , run , ride a bicycle.
There will always be someone better off than you and someone in a war torn , famine stricken country with no running water and electicity and no clear happy future .
How would they answer ? a meal , a reliable water supply ?
Balance is neccesary for all things to run sweetly .
The have's and the have not's on a global scale , how much junk do we really need ? | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:15:35 AM | I have always known what I wanted from life. Joined the army right out of high school and have been going ever since.
I've been working like a Trojan for over 10 years to get the message out in the media regarding verbal abuse (most often not understood; even by therapists, unless they have been specifically trained).
Usually all verbal abuse leads to the physical abuse, and in the year 2010 there will be approximately 52 million women living in abuse.
I went back t school and won a scholarship; it was easy; all I did was write about my life; Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice to someone who speaks up against injustice) is the name of my memoir, which will be published soon, and I have also written a book of poetry: Sanctuary of the Soul.
My endorsements (bought with blood, sweat and tears) take my breath away: Elie Wiesel, Nikki Giovanni, Alice Miller, Wayne Dyer,, Patricia Evans, Clint van Zandt, Dr. Larry Dossey....14 in all.
Bill O'Reilly of the "Factor"---the producer sent me an e-mail; I may be on the show....I believe we are all here to make a difference, and If I can get on National TV, I can do that.
I have always been/felt driven to do something meaningful and important in my life. That has always been my goal. If persistence is the key, I will be successful.
Smiles.....watch for me on tv :) :) | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:33:11 AM | | I've spent the last 20 or some odd years raising kids. Here in the next few years, I will have a whole different world open up to me. So I'm planning on exploring all my options. I'm very excited and looking forward to enjoying everything I can. I do want to travel. I do hope to find someone to share my life with but I'm not obsessing on this possibility. If it happens...great. I will definately maintain the peace and balance I've had in the last couple of years. I don't feel old and I don't dwell much on the "what ifs" of the future. You never know what path your life might take. Just enjoy the moment. Never been financially secure, and I probably won't be for the last half. God always seems to take care of that part of my life. I'm given only what I need. With four kids, I've already been told they are going to take care of me, which I'm sure one of them will gladly do. I will continue to move and breath and hope I can continue to do that for a long time to come. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:06:37 AM | | I believe I have a good idea of the basics of an answer. At the relatively young age of 34, I've nonetheless had a great deal of time to ponder this. More than most of my peers. It doesn't bother me not having a lot of money. That's just a means to an end. I'd like to be in a place of my own or live with a loving partner. I'd like to find a stable woman who I can fully trust and love for life. Friends are also priceless to me. When all is said and done, I'd like to be known as a man who treeted his friends and family well. Enjoyment of life and having a positive impact on other people are also central to what makes me feel right with the world and with God. I haven't put all of those pieces together yet but I have a very supportive family and some truly excellent friends. I also know that I've had a positive impact on others through my writing among other things. All in all, I guess I'm doing alright when you look at the larger picture. Perhaps, in another ten or fifteen years, I'll have a bit of a deeper answer and the autobiographical book I've started will be the richer for it. For now, that's about the best I can do along those lines. | |
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