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Because he hasn't killed you yet?
I mean, that's really all you can go on. The longer you've dated him without being dead, the less likely it is that he'll ever kill you. 
Creepy people are pretty easy to weed out through email. If you can't do that, then the phone should be a pretty good way to gauge. If they get through the first public meeting without raising any red flags, you're either terrible at reading people and you're doomed anyway, or he's so good at acting normal that it was futile and you're doomed anyway.
Does that make you feel better? 
It's all a gamble, my dear. | |
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| how do u know if he's not a predator?
Posted: 3/10/2009 6:51:33 PM |
google him. name, address, phone number..whatever you can get to use for a search, i would try it until you find enough to make you comfortable with trusting him...
Trust your gut. I have learned .. believe me - I have learned! to Trust your gut! The world is wacko .. sure I do believe there are more good people than bad .. but the bad are usually the more .. 'energetic' .. "motive ated" .. sorry ..
If there is a "reason" you are this worried over this particular guy - hold off meeting. If it's just that 'first meet' nervousness.. you just have to push through it - or you'll never meet that 'special guy'. IF you meet - make sure you meet him in a Public place with lots of people around and Well lit. Make the first meet a Short one .. a coffee or soft drink sort of thing. Just take measures to feel safe. Nothing is for certain .. but it is for certain that if you never take a chance - you'll never know. Just be safe ... and good luck | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 6:51:51 PM | Well sis
If he isn't and he's checking your profile posting history, you might as well toss that number he gave you. I'm sure he's probably a bit peeved/pissed/insulted and wondering if you're not the psycho...sorry but you've not even giving the poor bastid the benefit of the doubt before you've trotted out the P word.
You can't even worry about FALLING for someone before you MEET them! You have the cart wayyyyyyyyyyy out in front of the horse darling...why? Don't sound desperate--people have a tendency to prey on those types of people very quickly.
IF you're interested, call him up, chat with him, and if things still click, meet the guy in a public place and chat with him there. Let someone know where you're going. I also recommend either calling your home phone and leaving yourself a message or sending yourself an email from your cell (if you can). If you're going to be that paranoid out the box, then arm yourself with a trail of bread crumbs. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 6:54:55 PM | | I always carry a firearm, mace and a wicked gift of discernment when meeting potential predators. If the firearm and mace don't work I pull out my can of whoop-ass! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 7:05:01 PM | | They sell tazers for civilians. Good for about a 30 second zap for you to get away. If he tries to kill you, taze and run. The company will replace your tazer for free as long as you file a police report. happy tazing! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 7:05:32 PM | | How do you know that even if he isn't a predator, he will be the right guy, or that you will fall for him? There are no guarantees. Just step up to the line and take your chances like the rest of us. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 8:26:57 PM | Oh, that's easy. As Kathy Griffin says, she's addicted to the show "To Catch a Predator"...and the best sign is that predators LOVE iced tea!
It's true! Just watch sometime. The underaged decoy is walking around carrying a basket of laundry as the would-be predator walks into the kitchen with the obligatory granite-top counter. He's starting to get nervous until she calls out, "I made some iced tea! Want some?" Then, he's like, "Oh, yeah, baby! Iced tea! Sounds good!"
(And then, here comes Chris Hanson...) So, offer the guy some iced tea and see what happens!
Sorry, but I really could not resist this one... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 8:46:19 PM | If his first name is Hanibal, don't date him!! Bob
Spoken for: on the webcam look in the background, you can usually see the bodies hanging. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 8:46:50 PM | Does he look like Peewee Herman?? I guess that could be a sign....
Just watch "To Catch A Preditor" sometime like Zeeba said above- you will see that they come in all shapes and sizes  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 9:22:59 PM | Take is slow.
Talk on the phone.. and see how comfortable you feel with him.
Maybe ask about his family, maybe ask for his last name, where he grew up...
When you do meet him. Meet in public and just be careful.
Predators are everyday people, you wont be able to tell in a photo. haha | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 9:25:11 PM | also... before you go out with this guy.
Give a family member or friend his information and where your going to be meeting..
I would have a girlfriend text you on the date to make sure everything is alright, and always text when you get home.
Its good to have people around you that will look out for you! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 9:27:38 PM | I read...somewhere...any guy over 5'6" with a full head of hair is a "tell".
I wouldn't be seeing a red flag if he gave you a genuine phone number in a couple of weeks. And I'm pretty sure they are a bit shy about meeting in public. I'd learn plenty for doing so.
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:08:14 PM | | These replies are hilarious. You're watching too many episodes of CSI. But I'd be sure to take a vicious dog with me- but ohmigod. What if he has an dog fetish?? But then you don't have to worry cuz it's the dog he's interested in, not you. But then, how will your dog know if he's a predator? Maybe the dog can sniff him out for you. | |
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toyoux
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| how do u know if he's not a predator?
Posted: 3/10/2009 10:15:08 PM | I am SO resisting the urge to write things that would...........no doubt..........get me banned!
Ummmmm............OP..............well, uh.......errrrr....................
NOPE! I'm no help...........sorry! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:20:36 PM |
me and this guy on here have been talking for almost two weeks and he just gave me his number and how do i know if he's the real thing or a predator?
im really worried.
i dont want to fall for the wrong man.
So.. how does he know that you aren't a predator/serial stalker? He's probably just going to take the chance. | |
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toyoux
| | Joined: 5/28/2006
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:48:43 PM | me and this guy on here have been talking for almost two weeks and he just gave me his number and how do i know if he's the real thing or a predator?
How does he know if YOU are the real thing or a predator?
I am really worried.
Then dating may be too hazardous a sport for you to participate.
i dont want to fall for the wrong man.
I'm sure he doesn't want to fall for the wrong woman either. I'll bet that if you can figure out how to assure HIM that you aren't a predator, you will know what to tell him to do to assure you he is not a predator.
How does one tell via a webcam if someone is a predator or not?
Predators wear raincoats.
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:50:27 PM | You won't know until you've been predeated, if he's any good that is.
You simply have to take the same chance he does. Who really knows what type of bi-polar Sybil Molly hatchet you could be?
This whole thread could simply be a well thought out part of a plot to get away with a hanis crime yourself. All of us posters could be your "Kato Kayland" alibi.
Showing how you had concerns about this man before you had met him and that is why you had the chloroform, zip ties, chainsaw, trash bags and shovel in your trunk when you met for the first time.
If the tread doesn't fit you must acquit... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 11:18:01 PM | Awww... c'mon you guys! Wise up! She's only 22 years old! At least she's wise enough to have some concern for her own security. Geez! 
OP... Whenever you're meeting someone, all you need to do is make sure that you are meeting in a public place and that you are being careful about your personal information until you do get to know him.
You are under no obligation to fall for anyone and it's a sign of maturity for you to keep some kind of detachment until you have some good reasons not to.
A good guy will appreciate that you need to be security-conscious as a young woman and will not hassle you for information that you are not comfortable to give.
Good luck to you!  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 11:23:47 PM | | where's he from? Illinois State Police has a website who lists sex offenders at www.ilstatepolice.gov. or keyword Illinois State Police | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 11:29:01 PM |
Awww... c'mon you guys! Wise up! She's only 22 years old!
I think that's what makes this even funnier. Come on 22 these days is like 35 15 years ago. Besides older people have asked these type of questions too!
I don't see how age changes the insanity of the question anyways. This isn't my space doing a sting with msnbc.... | |
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