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Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 51 | |
| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/17/2009 11:24:18 PM |
^^ well how about you put on your armor plated body gear and go and try to do some of what you preach. you can try as much as you want to get some of those morons to leave violent relationships, they wont leave until like i said before. they got smacked around enough and have learnt their lesson. like my friend says " hit her again ike!! i think ike turner made spousal abuse popular ^^^^oh btw save your hate email for someone whom it may affect, i get enough and frankly , theres a line around the block to nag at me so step in and dont try budding ahead of the others
How is it that someone who hates women so much is allowed on a dating website?
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 5:06:29 AM | I'm wondering that too. I really, really hate that word "moron". You use it so often.
You were an abused man trubble and I believe you didn't get out right away either. Should we call you a moron for it? | |
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 7:38:28 AM | I think All women, ( and a minority of men) who experience this should ditch the guy; and if necessary get out of Dodge.
yes we should tell all abused people to just run away, thats the answer to everythingn, wow how that wasnt put in a book is beyond me , great advice.
its bad advice because not only does the abused have to accept the fact the abuser has control over them but they also have to now accept the fact that the abuser was right and ran them out .
the only way to not remain a victim is to get stronger mentally and force the abuser to leave
the cycle will just continue if you run away from an abusive relationship without conquering your own dependancy to be used like that
its not an assumption that reflects the fact 90% of people that run away from abusive relationships , ends up right back in the same situation with another abuser
running away from a problem has never and will never solve anything
How is it that someone who hates women so much is allowed on a dating website?
um id like to know how someone would come to that assumption.i havent bashed any women in my comments,just abusers. my comments werent attacking anyone, they merely voiced my ideas at not remaining a victim.if anyone has showed a bit of anger towards a gender id have to say it was afew other people
funny how its ok for you to denegrate and simplify the plight of abused men by calling them a minority and writing them off, then sending hate mail like a real grown up does.and then you try to label me as a woman hater because i dont advocate them running away
how many abused relationships have you witnessed? how many abused people did u carry to the hospital?how many abused women did u get a call from at 4 am after their boyfriends chased em out of the house drunk and you had to get up and hunt along railway tracks to find them hiding beside?
my baby sister was abused by her dirtbag ex,we tried to get her out of that relationship for 4 yrs
like a moron she played the i love him crap and stayed and got herself beaten up numerous time. we tried to take her away. she went back. tried threatening him,she went back, told her all that enabling bs you spouted off , she never listened.
what made her change her mind?? she got a real good lickin fom him and we waited for her to deal with it.. finally she did. the only way you can help some people is by letting them learn for themselves.and thats not tufflove or being awoman hater, its being rational and knowing from experience.if all we had to do was beat up the abuseror take the abused away from the situation , thered be no abused people anymore
you cant break the cycle by running away from it . it doesnt matter what gender you are, abuse bridges all genders.
ps :yes daisy i was a moron for staying in an abusive relationship.that make you feel better? i have no problem saying i was a total idiot for wasting all that time allowing someone to exercise their mental games and violence on me,but like i said, when i was mentally able to leave that relationship ,i finally did.(im sure alot of people that have escaped violent relationships and have learned from their mistakes would readily admit to being morons at the time by allowing someone to dominate and abuse them)
and it took alot of time and i read a lot of books after to try to understand why i attracted the violent type i had in the past.
i also stopped dating during that time as well, because jumping into another relationship just to cover up the loneliness of not being in a relationship solves nothing.
ive never been violent, never hit no woman, rarely have i even hit a man.
when you have self control, you dont need to try to control anyone else. | |
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 8:40:50 AM |
How is it that someone who hates women so much is allowed on a dating website?
um id like to know how someone would come to that assumption.i havent bashed any women in my comments,just abusers. my comments werent attacking anyone, they merely voiced my ideas at not remaining a victim.if anyone has showed a bit of anger towards a gender id have to say it was afew other people
I think among other things it may have been this little gem which was quite stunning
like my friend says " hit her again ike!! i think ike turner made spousal abuse popular
off-topic: What is the purpose of hate mail anyway?? I've been here 3 years off and on and have never sent hate mail to anyone. | |
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 8:51:33 AM | | I think I understand where you are coming from T, your just a bit more gruff about how you say it. You are absolutely right though no one can make the decision to leave but the victim until they take their power back than they become a survivor. | |
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 9:08:15 AM | thats all i was trying to say ether, unfortunately some people require everything to be watered down and prettied up so it looks nice for them.
only you can make rational decisions for yourself.only you can accept or reject being abused. and in the end, you are the one that will benefit or suffer by your own decisions and actions.
self esteem and self worth are the only actual gifts you can give to yourself,noone else on earth can borrow you them or give you them. if they could, it wouldnt be termed "self" anymore.
i made the choice to not be a victim anymore along time ago.noone could have told me any differently when i was in my situations i placed myself into, and noone could have removed me from them either .
and actually daisy, that ike comment, was a part of a comedians on stage routine., however people laughed when he said it
i think it went . hit her again ike and next time put some stank on it..
it may not be politically correct, but it did make a valid point. and it also reinforced the perception abused people are apt to require something severe to remove themselves from abusive situations, crying and cuddling them just is pointless altho it makes the cuddler feel better, it doesnt help the one being abused.
but then , these days people are always looking for an extenal reason for their ills and sufferings , not many are open to accepting responsibility for their own actions and the situations they get themselves into | |
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| Once Bitten Twice Shy ..
Posted: 3/18/2009 9:22:50 PM | Trouble.....people don't like reality, and raw emotion.....sugarcoated, and niceee niceee kind of like the abusers, spit on them & pound them into a wall, then go kiss them telling them you pissed them off and they are sorry won't do it again.....That works much better, otherwise you will be pronounced a woman hater....bah humbug
kumbayah..........But he loves me, i know he does...booo hooo hoooooo he does ok.
The victims are almost always the enablers of these parasites. | |
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