| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 6/28/2005 11:03:10 AM | | ok.. I'm going to go against most guy's instincts... FIRST DATE is too soon!! (even for me) I at least wanna get her name stuck in my head before I go shouting the wrong thing! | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 6/28/2005 11:59:29 AM | And the same goes for girls too! If you screw up my name I'm gonna have a field day with your a**!!! It will get very MESSY!  and I'm not cleaning it up either! | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:08:19 AM | @passionate cynic
your user name fits you well!! i think opposite of you.....most people are honest by nature.....but then again....perhaps that's not true with the circles you run with.
@all
in regard to lying to women in preparation of the de-panty maneuver....*sigh*......i agree that most men.....i mean boys.....will go through that phase in life. but hopefully, (yes i confess, perhaps a little optimistic) MOST men turn into MEN at some point and realize that perhaps the damage caused by garbage flowing from their mouths causes more harm than it is worth to satisfy their neanderthal urges. i know one thing for sure....when one carries on for an extended period of time they will reap the seeds they sow and karma will come around and kick them in the balls! yes, when that "special" woman yanks their heart out and stomps it on the sidewalk, smiling real big in the process....then perhaps the 'big picture" will come into focus.
@devil angel
looks like your question has been answered.....but seriously though....is this question for fun with discussion or have you not figured this one out.....by age 27??
hmmmm....well....for the record....it's purely a matter of what you seek. looking for fun? go for it! looking for something real? the longer you wait the better off you are. nothing will fowl up a potentially good relationship faster than a roll in the hay on the first date!!
what does your own history suggest to you? what kind of relationship does sex within the first few dates set up? | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:43:57 AM | | I used to think 3 months was the right time but now I feel whenever your ready. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 12:18:32 PM | When you feel it's right it is.
There is no perfect time frame and thank goodness everyone is different or it would be not just a waste of space out there(Contact thought), but a waste of space down here as well!
When I see posts saying a specific time frame it simply boggles the mind! No such thing as a perfect amount of time for all of us, hello we are all different.
And the guys who say that if she gives it up to quick she is a s**t or a wh**e, you give us all a bad name! Get over yourself. I had a very beautiful woman that I really wanted to get to know, honestly wanted a relationship with her, it felt right, we went with it and unless she was faking (you have to admit to the posibility no matter how much you doubt it based on her enthusiasm during) we both had a great time. Thanks to the BS brainwashing that she had been through up to this point in her life, she stated, "Yes I like you, but I can't have a relationship with you because I do not believe you will respect me!"
Total BS as I understand many boys would not, but this guy definitely would!
That experience was in my early 20s, now older, smarter, less inhibitions, those type of events never happen. If it feels right we run with it, we always remain friends...unless she cannot handle it (sadly does rarely happen) and life with less inhibitions is a whole lot more rewarding! Allot more fun! And the orgasms, well the more comfortable, the more fun, the more orgasms!
To answer your question, when you feel it is right, it probably is, but because of societies conditioning, better talk to your partner and make sure that they won't react in a weird way. And you better be creative with the questions, as coming right out will work with me and many of us, but I think the majority of people are going to tell you what they think you want to hear! (Which does not mean they are lying, they are simplly interested and care what you think...regardless of why they care...)
As I look at the last paragraph, I realize that I have not helped as much as I wanted to. It gets easier when you are dating people that are experienced and have maturity, perhaps you will find that now, perhaps it will come with age...but if you are patient...it all comes! | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 1:02:49 PM | | It's funny, but some women show some real revealing pictures of themselvs, then they say that they are looking for friends and don't want to play around. That, to me is teasing. If you feel it then do it. I have been with women that I didn't feel it and they did. I was honest and just told them. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 1:25:14 PM | So many of us are talking about how we "feel" in regard to how soon is too soon. I don't know about you folks but I can't rely on my "feelings" to make decisions in regard to sex conduct. If I did that I'd be getting naked with every gal that would tolerate me!! My experience tells me that is a big mistake.
Question to all:
How many times has something blown up in your face that "felt" right? | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 1:54:48 PM | How many times has something blown up in your face after you waited?
How many times did you not get something you begged Jesus to give you?
How many times did the tooth fairy forget to bring you money?
How many times are you going to ask these inane questions?
What two people choose to do is their business.....why do you care?
If your life was perfect, I seriously doubt you'd be in here. We are all searching for something.
Please stop trying to tell others how to live their lives. No one is hurting anyone, we aren't talking about liars or theives or rapists, just people who choose to have sex. When they decide it's ok, IT IS OK - to hell with anyone and everyone who tries to say different.
Of course we all have opinions and we come in here to share them but this preaching and so called "moralizing" is getting tedious. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 2:04:57 PM | | If you have to ask, it's probably too soon! Whether it is too soon depends on many variables. One has to consider what you expect from the relationship and how long you expect it to last. If your only goal is sex, anytime is fine. If you want a long and serious relationship, I would suggest you should hold off until your both ready for commitment. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 2:22:47 PM | I second that Passionate Cynic! 
I want someone to love me for who I am not for who I seem to be.. it is too exsusting trying to be the perfect girl. I am me... that is it.. If it feel right do it... There are too many restrictions and ways of conforming that it smothers us. There are no rules.. I waited 23 years before I thought I was ready to be "de-flowered" and I did it on the second date to a man I ended up in a relationship with for approx 2 years. I have no regretes becasue it felt right at the time. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 2:26:13 PM | | Just depends how you two are feeling for each other. Some like to speed thru relationships, others like to take their time, test the waters first. I'm a person that says whatever happens ...happens. You can't put a complicated thing as love on a stopwatch. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 3:45:06 PM |
There is no such thing as the right time, when it feels good, do it!
What kind of advice is that?
It's supposed to feel good, isn't it?
So do it all the time?
Or so often that it starts hurting?
I'm very confused... | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/21/2005 3:47:20 PM | ............IF U DO GIVE IT TOOO HIM ON THE FIRST NIGHT.............RIDE THAT THANG !!!!!!!!!!! SCREAM HIS NAME !!!!!!!!!..........F*CK HIM LIKE U LOST UR MIND.........HE'LL BE TAKING YOU SHOPPING AND STALKING YOU THE NEXT DAY............. .....BUT IF IT'S A LAME LAY....U REALLY DON'T WANT HIM TO CALL U BACK ANYWAYZ RIGHT .......SERIOUS ABOVE ALL........IF U LIKE THE DUDE AND U THINK HE'S RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL.....MINIMAL IS TWO WEEKS.........OTHERWISE HE JUST WON'T RESPECT YOU!!!!!!!!!!...........MEN LOVE THE CHASE.......NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY.....U KNOW YOUR WORTH WAITING FOR......MAKE SURE HE KNOWS IT TOO | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:07:28 PM | Hahaha.. I love Laylarose's answer... my kind of girl.. lol. but I think it's all about chemistry... Even if a girl invites me for sex... sometimes it's not as pleasurable. Because I have my list of things that must be there for good sex. Otherwise... i'm better off masterbating.. omg.. lol   | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 8/23/2005 11:26:36 PM | never to soon ..
when your both feeling
it how could it be to soon | |
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| hey mr. tall dark and handsome
Posted: 9/5/2005 12:53:46 PM | @tdh
who urinated in your post toasties? go after them, not me.
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to answer your questions mr tall dark and handsome:
How many times has something blown up in your face after you waited? *****never
How many times did you not get something you begged Jesus to give you? *****never -i have never begged Jesus for anything. what brought Jesus into this thread? does someone have beef with religion? go find a related thread and spew your anger there. you are the one bringing religion into a non related thread, not me.
How many times did the tooth fairy forget to bring you money? *****once
How many times are you going to ask these inane questions? *****as long as you keep running your mouth like you own these forums. i'm entitle to my opinion same as you and i'll share it as i see fit. or until a moderator tells me i'm out of line. at which point i'll zip it or leave the system.
What two people choose to do is their business.....why do you care? *****as stated, i'm entitled to share my opinions too.
If your life was perfect, I seriously doubt you'd be in here. We are all searching for something. *****who said my life was perfect? least i'm not full of bitterness.
Please stop trying to tell others how to live their lives. *****are you smoking crack? where did i tell someone how to live their life? seems you are the only one TELLING PEOPLE WHAT TO DO.
Of course we all have opinions and we come in here to share them but this preaching and so called "moralizing" is getting tedious.
*****i wasn't going to address you because generally i find that talking to people like you is simply a waste of my time and i'm sure this will be no different. however, i notice many of your comments throughout the forums and i see you spewing your garbage all over the place as if you are GOD of POF himself. take a hike buddy. you have projected far too much of your own baggage into my words and taken them in a way they were not meant. i don't know what has happened to you that makes you such the aggressor but you clearly have issues that go beyond the surface here. | |
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| How soon is too soon?
Posted: 9/5/2005 1:59:50 PM | @yendor65....
That was really cute.
First of all, my comments weren't completely directed at you personally, in here, ^^^^ or @yendor.....would typically indicate a direct comment to an individual.
Secondly, whether you mentioned religion or not is totally irrelevant (see above sentence). In here, the battle between people sharing their opinions and the right-wing, conservative, moral minority is ongoing and relentless. Perhaps you haven't noticed it but I have. Questions like the one this thread is all about are intrinsically and inseparably connected to issues of religion in our society, I'm surprised that I have to point this out to a grown man.
Next, I find it amusing that you project your inferiority onto me by accusing me of "owning this forum" and even going so far as to tell me to leave immediately.....on your authority? You are so cute when you're angry. I don't get angry very often, but I do share my opinions. I dont' tell people to get out of a public forum because such arrogance is beyond my comprehension. I might suggest that some people find a more suitable medium to express themselves but I have no right to quell a person's right to speak. I have spent my whole life trying to protect such rights for all people, why would I try to silence them now? If my words appear to carry an authority to them, I appologise but I really don't know any other way to communicate except for talking to children...and they pretty much get the same goods anyway.
I'm not particularly bitter or angry, I have issues with the church and religion, that much I will admit. Mostly I rail against ignorance, intolerance, stupidity and hatred. I'll go off on people who demonstrate these qualities in here or elsewhere in my life. Do I owe you an apology because you feel like you don't have enough space to be yourself? You remind me of a woman I met at a party once who screamed at me because my personality took up too much "psychic space" in the room and quieter, meeker people felt overwhelmed by it. Suck it up princess, let them speak up for themselves is what I should have told her and I'm telling you now, yendor.
Bottom line....anything yendor or I have to say is totally irrelevant! I've said it before and I'll say it again, just as plenty of others have in here and elsewhere. To hell with other people's opinions of what "too soon" is, when two people feel that the time is right for them then they decide to go for it or not. It has nothing to do with anyone else and it is one-hundred percent your own decision to make. Play safe and have fun. Don't ever let yourself be bullied by as sholes who try to tell you what to do. Even if you get the impression that I am that as shole.... | |
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| How soon is too soon?
Posted: 9/5/2005 3:18:52 PM | @tdh
-your comments were obviously aimed at me and any fool could recognize that.
you are clearly no idiot so i don't know why you pretend to not know that "take a hike" is a figure of speech. for you to twist that phrase into my "going so far as to tell me to leave immediately" is quite comical. i love humor tdh and you have provided me with a generous helping.
i also find humor in the fact that you claim to rail against intolerance......yet you slam me for expressing my opinion? is this not intolerance in itself?
"I have issues with the church and religion, that much I will admit"
well thanks for clarifying that but i made that observation when you shot the first flaming arrow.
" You remind me of a woman I met at a party once who screamed at me because my personality took up too much "psychic space" in the room and quieter, meeker people felt overwhelmed by it"
a woman screamed at you because your personality took up too much psychic space? why does this not surprise me?
for the record.....you haven't angered me in anyway. you are incapable of doing that to me. in fact, i don't think anyone has ever angered me via a keyboard.
i haven't been on this particular forum very much but i'm no stranger to them. i'm fine with personality clashes right along with a good old healthy debate. but we could play tit for tat all day long and we wouldn't get anywhere with it.....i'm bowing out. however, i eagerly await your response and i'll surely read it......but i'm done with this one. see you on the next thread. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 1/9/2006 8:26:40 PM | I think it depends on the relationship that you are in because some guys like my self can wait until you are fully ready to give your self to me and the love i can give to you but some other people can't wait it just don't matter to them so i think that you should wait until you are fully ready then let it happen. But don't get me wrong if it happens just on its own then it was meant to happen that way and no other way. Like me i haven't gotten some in 6 years but that is a different story in its self. | |
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| How soon is too soon??
Posted: 1/9/2006 8:32:50 PM | | If a person has to ask themselves, How soon is too soon to give up the goods? then it's to o soon. | |
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