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Posted: 9/4/2009 4:43:47 AM | What about Asian people who have stated that their preference is dating white people?
It's been said on this thread already.
I've never dismissed anyone by race, I've just never met anyone who hasn't been Caucasian that I've been attracted to. I'm far from racist. We all have choices who we want or don't want to date.
I might not want to date someone covered from head to toe in tatts or with a green mohican, strange that the minute someone's preference diverts to skin colour it's assumed that they are racist.
We are not going to find all types of people on this planet attractive and that is the bottom line. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 4:51:38 AM | We are not going to find all types of people on this planet attractive and that is the bottom line.
You fancy who you fancy and have no real control over that, either you do or you don't. Whatever a persons skin colour, I'm sure some of them I'd fancy and some of them I wouldn't, just the way life works. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:01:36 AM |
You've said the same point about ten times now, obviously nobody is interested in answering you're pointless question. Continuously reposting it is bad netiquette and highly annoying.
I haven't repeated anything that I know of. What is your problem?!
Why not ignore my posts or leave this thread if you have a problem with me ? You are the only one who seems unable to debate sensibly, the rest of us are getting along fine. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:11:46 AM | | trolling is not what I'd call getting along fine. anyway, I'll take the sensible option and ignore your posts. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:14:11 AM | Maybe a bit of live and let live is an option. I know I'm not a racist, just because I'm not dating Asian or black men doesn't mean I'm a racist and someone who is Asian or black who only wants to date white men or women is entitled to make that choice.
After all, the only person my dating choices are going to affect is me, no one else. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:28:08 AM | After all, the only person my dating choices are going to affect is me, no one else.
Well said!  Why don't people take responsibility for their own prejudices/preferences and butt out of other people's? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 6:02:56 AM | Well I’ve looked at a load of profiles, men and women, and NOT one has said.(and this goes for ethnic as well)
I do/I do not, want to date a different race.
I am/I am not willing to try different cultures.
With all the mud slinging, self justification, finger pointing, that has gone on in this thread.
No one has, as far as I’m concerned done “jack” about there profile…including me!
Why have I done nothing………..because I have not got the” bollox,” too exclude other human beings, and the fact that I’m scared too……..and we all know why……….guilt,…. and if you don`t feel guilty…. put it on your profile………and if you do feel guilty carry on as normal,and polite thanks but no thanks…………….back to square one. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 6:08:41 AM | I don't feel guilty in the slightest, because if someone messaged me and was a different skin colour and I thought yeah, I really like you, I'd be their friend or date them, the same way that some Caucasian men message me and I think, no I don't fancy you.
I think the people who have put on their profiles that they have a preference are doing it so as not to waste someone's time, totally their choice, why on earth should they be slated for it is beyond me.
I just messaged someone and told them that everyone I've dated in my entire life with one exception has been tall with dark hair, I have a friend who really likes blond men, we all have our preference, but as soon as it comes to skin colour the racist card gets thrown.
I'm aware that there are times that the PC brigade tag has been thrown at me but come on, surely we don't need to be so bloody PC that not fancying an Asian makes us racist, that is preposterous. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 6:22:57 AM |
I think the people who have put on their profiles that they have a preference are doing it so as not to waste someone's time, totally their choice, why on earth should they be slated for it is beyond me.
They shouldn't be, its their choice and everyone is entitled to that, but as far as I can tell they haven't been SLATED here, they have just been questioned why they make such a specific choice.
I've had the "PC brigade" tag thrown at me by certain individuals here, which annoys me due to the fact that I hate PC with a passion! Interesting how sometimes the same people who complain at the "racist" tag being thrown around too quickly are themselves guilty of throwing the "PC brigade" tag around without first understanding where that person is coming from. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 6:31:07 AM | Ok can we really define who we fancy in really clear terms all the time. What is it about someone that makes you go yeah, I want a bit of you. It's not that simple, but I can say, I haven't dated Asian or black men, possibly because where I live the community I live in isn't that multicultural compared to somewhere like London or Birmingham.
I do have Asian and Muslim friends but most of them aren't Scottish.
I don't think anyone of a different race to me has even asked me out. I don't make specific choices but I do have a type like most people and believe me from some of the messages I get on here from some and I mean some Caucasian Scotsmen, they aren't my type either.
I know a Caucasian girl who will only date black men. It's who she fancies, simple as that.
I'd actually date an alien from the planet Zog at the moment, it's been so long since I dated (joke).
Come on ffs, lets not dissect everything to the nth and look for reasons behind everything we do, surely who you want to get hot and sweaty with is your own business and no one elses. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 6:41:10 AM |
Come on ffs, lets not dissect everything to the nth and look for reasons behind everything we do.
Isn't that what these forums are for though?
clearly people find it an interesting subject to dissect as its 10 pages long, anyone who is bored of it doesn't need to stick around.
actually on that note, I'm bored of it now... | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 9:32:48 AM | surely who you want to get hot and sweaty with is your own business and no one elses.
 We are talking about the Forums here! I feel a new thread coming on!! (Whose Business Is it Anyway?) | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 9:53:19 AM | I was hoping i could have a midnight blue profile with silver swirls down the sides.....guess not  | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 8:23:48 PM |
We are talking about the Forums here! I feel a new thread coming on!! (Whose Business Is it Anyway?)
Yeah, if a miracle does happen, the forums will be the very last to know believe me. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 1:35:58 AM |
I see a fair bit of irony going on here.... two white guys argueing over the race card..
On this one point I will agree with ya big fella .
It's an interesting observation that at least three black posters have expressed their preference for dating white partners and another stating they would never date a white man and yet those who have deemed profile preference of colour as racist have bypassed those posts and cherry picked white posters who have held the same views?
Food for thought...... Are those who are seeing racism here not seeing a bigger colour difference than they care to admit to themselves even more so than those they accuse of being racist?
Lets not forget racism exists in all races and to not recognize that you are not seeing everyone as an equal and is in itself ......... racist !!
If someone , regardless of colour turns 'YOU' on and does it for 'YOU' then it's right ........there is no wrong !! | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 2:34:14 AM |
do u have any preferences urself macforty xx
Yes, My preference is for big tits and nipples like bullets !!
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Posted: 9/5/2009 2:41:50 AM |
It's an interesting observation that at least three black posters have expressed their preference for dating white partners and another stating they would never date a white man and yet those who have deemed profile preference of colour as racist have bypassed those posts and cherry picked white posters who have held the same views?
Haven't you heard?
Only white people can be 'racist'!
Interesting how sometimes the same people who complain at the "racist" tag being thrown around too quickly are themselves guilty of throwing the "PC brigade" tag around without first understanding where that person is coming from.
Those who throw around the 'racist' tag are usually wrong anyway - how often does a post get removed for its 'racist' content? It's never happened to mine, because none of them contain anything 'racist'.......funny that!
As for people stating their racial preferences (pro or anti any particular race) I can see both sides of the argument, and none of the posts here have convinced me that such a matter is 'racist' or not. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 2:50:54 AM |
Haven't you heard?
Only white people can be 'racist'!
That is so very very true, white people are discriminated against when it comes to racism, however in the real world the black community can be just as racist...
I really do not see the problem if you don't want to date someone for whatever reason, you don't, end of ...
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Posted: 9/5/2009 4:29:53 AM | (Yes, My preference is for big tits and nipples like bullets !!)
ahhhhhhhh yes mac....................but is she black?
this all getting very stupid.......
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Posted: 9/5/2009 7:53:56 AM | To many people what puts them off dating someone who is not there race colour or creed is not the person themselves but the crap that comes with it. IE there family and friends etc.
It is not shallow in my opinion to not want the agro that you know will come from choosing to date someone that you have not yet properly fallen for.
I agree with that. Sometimes family can make it difficult for you if they don't accept your choice of partner, which I have already experienced. I married a man who had been married not once but twice before, was ten years older than me and very typically English. My father is Greek Cypriot and never spoke to me for two years until I said I was marrying him. Then he only came round to the idea out of a sense of moral duty. It's ridiculous because I was born and brought up in London, my mother is English and yet he expected me to marry a Greek ffs! Seeing as the Greek men I have met are still tied to their mother's apron strings, he might be waiting a long time, although I'd never exclude anyone with Adonis looks though.... hark, did I just hear that word 'shallow' being thrown at me! He's mellowed rather alot in his old age and now says that if I could find any bloke who is willing to put up with me they must be a better man than he is! Thanks dad. I owe him for so much.....no really I do! He's got his principles just like everyone else, colour being one of them. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 4:28:06 PM | The film "East is East" deals with the issues of an immigrant 'George' - who despite living in the north of England and having an English wife is determined that his kids are raised as Muslim-Pakistanis and tries to marry his boys off (the film is set in 1971) to Muslim girls.
His kids are English in outlook and attitude and don't follow his ambitions - one son ends up with a camp boutique owner.
It's a great Britcom - a bit bleak and violent in places with lots of funny moments. But it highlights some of the problems English Asian people had to deal with with parents. "Bend it like Beckham" also deals with the problems faced by English kids with immigrant parents - though it has a happy ending.
So how much of a problem is colour in dating - not from personal preference but family pressure? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 4:58:40 PM |
But it highlights some of the problems English Asian people had to deal with with parents.
"English Asian"??
Couldn't they make their mind up?
What exactly is an "English Asian"?
I am aware that some Asians living in England don't wish their offspring to have anything to do with the English, but I find it rather hypocritical of them, given that the English are obviously good enough to have provided a society that some Asians consider preferable to the one that other Asians had created 'back home'.
And why call it a 'problem'? After all, some posters have no problem when people state a racial preference (see MSG 189) yet call it a 'problem' when Asians express a racial preference. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 5:41:41 PM |
Those who throw around the 'racist' tag are usually wrong anyway - how often does a post get removed for its 'racist' content? It's never happened to mine, because none of them contain anything 'racist'.......funny that!
As for people stating their racial preferences (pro or anti any particular race) I can see both sides of the argument, and none of the posts here have convinced me that such a matter is 'racist' or not.
Technically one can not be racist against somebody until certain criteria are met.
Saying you only want to date black women because I like them better is ok it isnt RACIST but...
Saying you only want to date black women because they have nicer booties than english girls isnt ok, it is making a distinction between a member of one race to another, which is racism.
However, enter Enoch Powell, both of the above statments are not ok on the racial discrimination front. [something that wasnt mentioned in another thread dispite the prompts for it]
Racial discrimination was skirted around in another thread, that now seems to have gone, and it isnt racism, its different because on the one hand its a case of "I dont like because of a trait that is percuiler to their race" and on the other "I dont like him because he is a member of his race" or more bluntly put "I dont like him because hes black"
To me racism and racial discrimination are as bad as eachother.
People, for instance a white girl, can say "I only want to hear from black men, because I prefer black men" without being racist, bit she is guilty is discrimination!
Which is what this thread is about, its what people are not liking! | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 5:46:19 PM | I thought this was about the colour picture background things on pfrofiles..............mines pink and rosey
So did I, mine has trees
What a minefield. I have only read some of this but it's enough, same old argument, same posters, same agenda, just a different thread.
EVERYONE knows by know there is some very subtle and not so subtle racism proliferating this forum, but I havn't witnessed some of the "jokes" on here since the heyday of that well known "I'm not a racist" Bernard Manning. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 5:47:38 PM | Its not racist - you're chosing not to date them, or only to date a certain race.
Racism is if you say you hate a particular race, regardless of colour (well I think so anyway). | |
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