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Posted: 4/7/2009 5:40:31 PM | Why worry whether someone has a preference for any specific kind of person on their profile? If it was "only Blondes need apply", we wouldn't bat an eyelid.
Everyone has a different imprint of the people that we find attractive. What's wrong with looking for the person that you are most likely to like?
Saves time and energy. Means that we don't end up mailing someone that wouldn't want us in the first place. Means that you don't get mail from someone that you won't be attracted to. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 12:12:49 AM | Everyone is different, has different preferences, different likes and dislikes ..
Personally, I do have preferences, but these are based upon personality, and humour rather than anything else, and I have dated women from at least three or four ethnic backgrounds in the past, and would do again :) | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 12:43:47 AM | Dosnt matter to me. I see your point OP which is very good. Yes its curious OP, though perceived as a heritage statement/group as long as we dont go too far back in time.
Though cant say I was enlightened by madelmodels74 blase idiotic statement.
Human - is my race though not apparently mm74
Given that we all originated from a minute gene pool/area
most likely Africa or indeed small multi regional areas
*erm come to think of it dependent on interpretation of recorded history and ancient texts - mite have been your god, the lizard king, angels, watchers if you like - legend and mythology is intriguing...which has its own archaic thread here.
I digress,
Size
height
looks
age
race could be perceived as the most homophobic
(so good post op) | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 3:28:06 AM |
I am a black female and I prefer to date white guys - my ex husband is white! Its just a personal preference thing, however if I met a black guy who hit all the right buttons as it were, I certainly wouldnt write him purely because of the colour of his skin.
However the issue I do have is, I as a black female (and I would love to hear from other black females) is that I seem to attract a large number of black guys. Nothing wrong with that you may say, but there seems to be (in my personal opinion) a certain arrogance amongst the ones that I have come across.
They cannot seem to comprehend that I am not desperately lonely, my life will be fine without them in it and I do not need to be their princess etc etc
I main pet hate from males of any colour though - once you reach a certain age, you are too old to you street slang/text talk when you message me! I would prefer a grown up conversation in grown up English.
If I want anything else I will talk to my teenage sons! lol
Have to say this is an Interesting Viewpoint.... beacuse I am a Black Guy who prefers to date white ladies...
I suppose it is more just because of the parts of the countries I was brought up in just tended to the more white than black, so I suppose in effect I feel more comfortable around white people then black..... saying that thought I have a ton of black friends now and go to clubs, the running joke amongst my friends is that I am the whitest black guy they know!!
I think it is like you said, I am not ruling anybody out... if someone happened to be black that pushed the right buttons then I wouldn't even think twice about it
I don't even really think about colour when it comes to choosing my partners, I've been out with allsorts, so it certainly isn't very high on my list of importance, but it does look like it is higher on the list of others, if that is the case then so be it.... just means they may miss out on some brilliant times and oppotunities...
I am not going to waste my time trying to change people in those cases, if the thing they see is my colour and they are making a judgement on me for that rather than seeing my personality then yes it is sad....... but such is life, there loss not mine....
Everyone has preferences up to a point.... colour may be one, age may be another, tall..short..fat..thin..blondes..brunettes..heck even spots and stripes and I have to say that a pair of green eyes always turns me to mush!!! lol people don't tend to be attack for others quite as much as the emotive subject of colour..... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 4:48:51 AM | I dont see colour as an issue in any way , an attractive women is attractive no matter what colour they may be, I dont see colour i see a person.
it is a preference and i see no problem with anybody looking for what they feel is right for them | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 11:20:59 AM | i don't think preference of colour is racist in the slightest!! its all down to personnel taste. Some people like blondes, others like brunettes some don't mind either. Some people like tall some people like curvy etc....I think its the exact same with skin colour. It doesn't make a person a racist. I have never dated a black man, or an asian man, iv only ever dated white men. Thats my personnel preference. I myself am mixed race, i have brown skin, jet black hair and very deep brown eyes, and if a man thought i wasn't his type based on me being mixed race i really wouldn't take it personally because i have no hang ups about being the person i am. Obviously i just wasn't mean't to be with that person. He probably prefers the english rose look, which is his preference and he's entitled to that.  | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 1:40:16 PM | It's not racist it's just narrowing your options and everyone is entitled to do that. I've dated all colours, have no preference, they were all male, all of my own species and all individuals. I don't narrow my options, I like to keep mine as wide open as possible.
Fish with a big net, you can always throw something you catch back in if it doesn't come up to scratch. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 5:22:44 PM | | I think it is down to personal perference...however i do wonder what experiences we give up when we are not open to other possibilites...just a thought | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 4:28:21 AM | Hello
Some one said back on page 1... "all aspects of physical appearance".
The racist card is fused with very negative connotations, from past history to current goings on around the world. That said i believe its everyones duty to question their views on racism. Not just on a relational level but social also. Its also healthy to do this.
Going back to "all aspects of physical appearance". People have commented on this topic about body shape, hair (color and amount of); age for example, these are all physical appearances. We humans choose items to wear and even eat, based on color. Color within the animal world (ok yes humans are also animals) are used for mating. So why on a dating site like POF should we not have physical appearance choice selections???
Yes i do agree with one or two peoples statements on about, there is a whole world of people/women of different color that your missing out on. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 7:42:26 AM | How far would it go though? Would people put varying degrees of colour? Is it about skin colour at all? I've known people who have tanned themselves (either with the sun or by other means) til they are darker than some of my mixed race, asian and black friends. Would people who didn't want to date black or mixed race people date a white person who'd turned themselves darker? If so then it's sod all to do with the skin colour and to do with the ethnicity.
If its the ethnicity someone doesn't like then why? Particularly if it's an ethnicity you have no understanding or knowledge of. Also in the case of it being ethnicity, why not date black English people?
It's all crap, it's not about colour of skin its about the whole package and taught/learned stereotypes making white people see anyone who is not white as different or inferior, it still happens. It's sad. People are people in my opinon. Tall,short, black, white, brown, thin, fat, old, young, bald, hairy, ugly, pretty, whatever we're all humans.
If people want to say no blacks need apply that's fine it's their perogative and isn't racist at all is it? Or they could say nobody who was tanned when they were born need apply however if you have since acquired a deep tan you will be allowed access into the inner sanctum that is my dating circle. Purleeeassee! Tanned people are fine as they are white underneath - that makes it fine. In my opinion black people are fine as they are human underneath.
Of course the other benefit of this being on the profile is that white/black people who found such exclusivity unappealing from their 'own kind' would be able to avoid said person like the plague.
Some of this obviously works in reverse ie those excluding white people who are black or whatever. However I can only speak from the experience of what I am really and so have done just that. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 11:20:53 AM |
It's down to personal preference just the same as body size and shape etc.
Agreed. My profile clearly states a preference for caucasian men and I don't give a rip who's offended by that. Most men are looking for a young, slim woman. I don't fit the bill, but so what? You'll never overturn the laws of attraction. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 11:58:31 AM | we select the best partner that will provide us with good genes and be a suitable match for us, we go with our instints and choose who feels right , so thats why we tend to go for a certain type. Its not rascist to not want to date people from another race, just political bull.
Ive dated , filipino, chinese,African , English, Turkish, Lithuanian, Swedish, Italian, mixed, oh i didnt realise it was that many !  No wonder im so knackered
My best matches have been girls who are white, look a bit like me, are intelligent and thoughtful | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 12:13:17 PM | It's like anything... if it works for you, what does it matter where your from, the colour of your skin, etc, etc. Just go for it!
I've dated Welsh men, English men, Australian men, New Zealander.. oh my now he was cute, and a guy who was English but half Jamaican, he was stunning.
Enjoy it all...
However, I do have a problem with men who write to me pretending to be in the UK when they are clearly from overseas! You can guess the countries... it's not hard. Probably cuts both ways too huh. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 12:19:06 PM | | i am not racist and have had a date with a welsh girl called Daphne but she wasn't black but she had a friend who was | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 5:25:04 PM |
we select the best partner that will provide us with good genes and be a suitable match for us, we go with our instints and choose who feels right , so thats why we tend to go for a certain type. Its not rascist to not want to date people from another race, just political bull.
Indeed so we should all go for a nice black African who can trace his/her unadulterated roots back thousands of years to the dawn of humanity - the only true thoroughbred on Earth. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 10:28:17 AM | Hello
This statement just rings warning bells for me.....
we select the best partner that will provide us with good genes
..... No i dont! I am childfree by choice (cfbc).
That was tried before, blond and blue eyes. Do people actually do this? Do they have this in mind when making any joint life long decisions between partners?
Just wondering????? | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 11:44:24 AM | my colour preference is gold ,
that way i could sell his toe nail clippings to keep him in polish ........well would want to keep him shiny eh!! | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 2:21:45 PM | | i dont elaborate on preference of colour but am attracted to black or mix race guys , but also find some white guys attractive, also it would ultimately come down to how the guy treated me etc not just the colour x | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 3:58:13 AM | Just because you have no wish to reproduce, it doesn't mean your brain isn't selecting someone with the right characteristics to have a different genetic makeup.
Given enough choice, people will choose someone different to them because of the gene thing, which is the opposite of inbreeding.
Apparently, we find mixed race people attractive because they have a better chance of having a wider range of genes & are potentially healthier.
Look it up in The New Scientist... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 4:13:00 AM | whilst l dont have preferences on skin colour l certainly wouldnt have cauliflower or parsnips on my plate so does that make me vegist?
blimey! pantson fire has been around, an eskimo, aboriginee, and a mongolian and she'll have the full set 
happy fishing all | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 4:55:23 AM | Hello Ms Androny
Please could you send me a link to this subject in The New Scientist, as would be very interested in reading it. Or do you know which edition you saw this subject??
I dont and would never think of selecting someone based on making a different genetic makeup.
Many thanks | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 4:55:45 AM | I was nicknamed benetton at work cos of my diverse choice of female company ....if someone has preferences its best to state them.........saves alot of grief ......
Glad to say i find the person attractive and their colour dont come in to it...... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 6:25:35 AM | | ^^^^ lol I say that my exes would look like a united nations meeting if I invited them all for dinner. | |
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