that it can also be argued that to dismiss a potential sexual or love partner of your own sex means that you are guilty of being biased in the same way.

Are we only ever going to be unbiased if we consider dating anyone else on the entire planet with a pulse?

in both cases, there is discrimination against black people, yet you claim there is a difference between the two types of discrimination.

Gawd you lot, I have no idea what you're all arguing about, lost the plot pages ago, but surely it's just a case of a bit of respect?

But I think hell would freeze over before I started fancying people of the opposite sex, not because I'm biased, I simply don't fancy people of the same gender as myself.

Following on from the thread about self esteem and shallow men it got me wondering how people percieve those with preferences for skin colour on their profiles i.e 'Female seeking black males only' or vice versa.

Would those posters that agreed size is shallow also agree that colour is also or is it just simply preference or maybe you view it as being racist considering we arent allowed to discriminate against skin colour in all other areas of our lives ?

The hypothesis that prompted this study is that, when making commitment choices for marriage and children, subjects in all ethnic groups would prefer members of their own group.

When answering the question on dating, Euro-American women chose closely among three ethnic groups: slightly more than a third chose the African American, and somewhat less than a third each chose either the Euro-American man or the Hispanic man. When asked about visiting parents, they shifted from taking the African American to the Euro-American, which may reflect a desire for familial approval in the face of possibly stigmatized relations. However, in choosing for marriage and children, the largest number of Euro-American women selected the Hispanic man.

Hispanic men & Euro-American men, chose the Hispanic woman for dating and parental visit and the Euro-American woman for marriage and childbearing. In the case of Hispanic men, the choices suggest the recognition that marriage into the dominant group leads to higher status and increased social acceptance.

In contrast, the pattern for Hispanic women is complex: they chose the African American and Hispanic as dating partners. However, when it comes to parental contact, the majority of Hispanic women opted for a member of their own ethnic group, reflecting perhaps a desire for approval in a traditionally patriarchal society. In the case of marriage and childbearing, most of the Hispanic women chose the Euro-American man, again suggesting that they, too, may perceive marriage into the dominant group as a way to increase status and social acceptance.

African Americans chose members of their own group more often for both dating and commitment. It is more than possible that the long history of legal and social prejudice, segregation, and stigmatized intermarriage accounts for their choices. In fact, male and female African Americans actually show the lowest rate of intermarriage among the groups.

Asian American women and men chose members of this generalized Asian American ethnic group at a higher rate than any other group selected Asian Americans. The pattern of choices for Asian American men mirrors that of Euro-American men and Hispanic men, that is, they selected the Hispanic woman for dating and parental visit, but chose the Euro-American women for marriage and childbearing.

i enjoy watching it unfold, sussing out who....... is overtly PC but obviously a closet racist

Shallow? Yes. Racist? No.

Shallow? Yes. Racist? No.

Is it really that wrong or shallow to have a 'type' we are attracted to or indeed not attracted to?

but someone who is not shallow will judge each person individually, not categorically state they are not interested in XYZ

You don't go into a shop and ask for a loaf of bread when you want sugar !

Could we all not be considered shallow

When it comes to dating physical appearance is important- and none of this it's all personality crap- because it isn't.

Maybe if we realised skin colour is just that , only a difference in colour we could judge it just as we do everything else: fat, skinny, tall, short, black, white

Personally i'd probably say someone without any preferences or type was desperate... ha but that might get me into trouble.

Tall/short, black/white, yes.
Fat/skinny is a choice, and it therefore somewhat different.

I find dismissing a category by race particularly odd because the category "black men" or "asian men" covers such a massive range of looks and types the only thing the groups have in common is skin colour - in fact even that varies massively!