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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:48:27 AM | | they can be offensive to some people, when i was 8 year old i was lured by a paedo offering sweetie , so you can imagine how i feel when i get called that, when i explain to them why some even use it again, as with some it is a form of tourrettes cant help themselves, as with hun short for honey, if you was german it could be term as racist, some of these terms come across as patronising | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:59:17 AM | I have an uncontrollable habit of calling people hun or honey, but I honestly don't mean anything offensive by it. Hun is a shorter version of honey anyway but spelt differently from some odd reason.
I say babe on odd occasions and darling and sweetheart but it's all in a nice way.
If someone doesn't like it then I try and make an effort to steer away from saying these words but it can take a while.
I think as long as it's all good natured, it shouldn't matter what words are used. As long as you're not getting called C0ck chops or tw@t features, just be happy as there are far worse things that you could get called.  | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:07:40 AM |
A comment on another thread reminded me of a situation I saw on another site ( a chat room). Two ladies were ripping into a guy who had addressed someone as 'sweetheart'. He was a Londoner and could just have equally called her 'treacle',or if from Stoke called her 'duck'. (etc etc with different postcodes ).
Why get offended over it.... if they find someone calling them sweetheart they really need to get a life....
I use them all the time.... Cheers babe..,, Sweet heart, Love..... or say again my love, to name but a few.... they don't mean anything...... and if people take offense they really need take their heads from where the sun don't shine... | |
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Joined: 2/27/2009
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:17:53 AM | if someone is addressing me with a term i recognise as one of endearment, then i take it as such (as in, even if they're taking the piss, i'll accept it with a smile). if it's tacked onto the end of some kind of tirade or insult, i take it as part of that and see it as an insult too.
my friends, i call "hun", "honey", "babes" and "mate", regardless of sex or sexuality. if i've known people by a screen name for long enough, i call them by that as opposed to their real names.
people who try to insult me or who have generally provoked sarcasm in me get called "sweetie", complete with condescending little smile.
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 12:16:01 PM | | I live in the US, near Seattle, and was "seeing" a Londoner. I am a Rumpole of the Bailey fan, amongst other shows, and he began calling me "missus". When I asked him the other day what he meant by that, he stated "you are my 'she-who-must-be-obeyed", better half, wife" and in the next breath said "but I am not ready for a relationship". Do fellows in the UK really call just anyone "missus" as he claims as a term of endearment if not serious about her? | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 12:45:11 PM | I call veryone darlin, love, pet or honey even in my work. I was pulled on it once by a guy who thought I was being over familiar. I was embarrassed at the time but it really is how working class people speak where I am from. Besides it always meant as a term of endearment. | |
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Joined: 4/9/2009
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:05:29 PM | I would love it if someone had a pet name for me, I would feel special. But I dont like strangers calling me darling or love or whatever else. And hun is an absolute no no for me. But a partner using a term of endearment is a nice thing. Apart from "the mrs" especially if you arent even married. "Oi, Ho" turns me on i must confess  chopper you never complained when i called you teeny peeny! | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:08:43 PM | i hate them..the names i used to get called by all my ex tottys..mr elephant plums..jumbo sausage..king dong..golden balls..blah blah..etc etc..they use to do my head in..i cant be dealing with daft names like that.. | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:25:39 PM | As is often the case in these things, unless the remark is intentionally offensive, the problem lies in the head of the person taking umbrage.
I've got to admit, I am a little tired of being called "big boy", but I guess I would be a fool not to expect that one, given my size!
...I'm fairly tall too. | |
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| Terms of endearment, are they offensive or a colloquialism ?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:20:37 PM | I dont mind being called hun, love, dear, babes etc.... I occasionally call a patient dear or love as well.
I do know of someone who took great offence to being called love or dear - in particular by people that didnt know her. | |
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