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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:06:46 PM |
Think of all the times you met someone in real life.
It starts out all exciting, chemistry and fun times. Then within a few weeks you start
to see other sides of them. How they treat the servers at a restaurant, react to work situations, their different moods, how they live in general, and if they treat you the same as they did that first week you met.
I think you need to see those "real life" aspects to really get to know and fall in love with someone.
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:46:02 PM | Given my last relationship was started online when I was 16 I think I can speak pretty well on this.
Yes it is possible to fall in love with someone you haven't met, but its not usually the healthiest kind of love. Because really its all words until you meet that person face to face and see how they really are. For all you know this friend of yours can be the worst thing to ever happen to you. And to compare people to this person online is a mistake. Don't let your preconceptions of this guy make you miss out on a potentially good relationship because they don't seem as good as him. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/20/2009 11:55:03 AM | | I think you can be infatuated by the idea of someone or what the possibilities may be with that person. I think everyone has felt this at one time or another in their on line experience and at the time I am sure it felt like love. The truth is regardless of how long you spend "on-line" getting to know someone, you don't "know" them so you can't really "love" them. The only way to "know" or "love" someone is to actually spend time with that person, otherwise, you don't know anything. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/20/2009 12:58:35 PM | There are people who have carried out love affairs only through love letters. I think it's very possible to love someone that you've never met. I have many friends online that I love very much. If they weren't there for me with their humor, candor and advice I'd be lost. Of course, I'm not "in love" with them, but I can see it being possible.
Perhaps you should meet this person in the flesh? You can find out once and for all if it's just a fantasy you have of someone or if it's real. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/20/2009 1:16:04 PM | You might love that person as you know them through that medium (letter writing, phone, texting, IM) of communication,
BUT
You might not love them if you meet them.
SO
You only love the idea that you formed of them. You don't know the whole person until you meet. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/20/2009 1:31:26 PM | | Its all a bit nuts aint it? How on earth can you love someone you havent met. There is so much you dont know about them as people can create any impression they want. That being said, however, so can people you do meet. So all in all it may be a starting point of meeting someone.. but if you cant think of anything else well .... maybe you need a new hobby!! And, if you have been chatting for 3 or 4 years and the online relationship is that good... it does pose the question of WHY you both havent made the effort to meet. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/20/2009 5:42:28 PM | Possible for some, not for others.
And I assume that there would be a stark gender divide on this matter.
Men are VERY visual creatures so, statistically speaking, I would assume that most men could not fall in love with someone they've never met.
For women, of course, I'm assuming that it is a much more complicated matter. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/22/2009 12:47:03 AM | It's definitely possible, but you do need to meet in person to be sure.
And don't be so certain that he won't get another girl while you're dithering. Some babes like geeky guys. You're not the only one.
Also don't be so certain that someone else might not catch your eye while you're dithering.
Because dithering is what you're doing.
Meet the man, already!
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/22/2009 1:54:13 AM | OP,
I think it's possible depending on the individual's personality and their crush's. Actually, I'm currently going through a similar gig, where I have been talking to a girl long distance every night for several hours at a time, both on Yahoo chat and phone. We also text every day, and I'm coming in June to see her and see what's up.
So yes, IMHO, I think it's possible, although moreso in love with the idea of who they are, than who they themselves actually are. But still... I believe it's possible. You should meet this guy. 4 years? Sheesh. I've known my long distance crush just under 4 MONTHS now and I'm seeing her this June. I don't know how you could go FOUR YEARS without meeting up at least ONCE. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/22/2009 8:36:14 AM | I have to agree that without meeting them, it is still primarily fantasy. I've been finding that this Internet dating scene really encourages fantasy thinking. I'm a person who likes to believe what people are telling me about themselves, as I would prefer to think we all work to be as honest as we can about situations. However even if both parties are completely honest, there is still the issue of the lens that we see ourselves (and others) through.
Think about this, if you're in a bad mood, it colours your perceptions and you might have more negative thoughts about how you reacted in a situation, whereas when you're in a good mood, you would likely see all the good decisions made in the that same situation. Also when sharing stories with someone, most people primarily choose to tell the positive situations, the ones that colour them in what they see as a positive light.
Therefore, when you're talking long distance you're going to get primarily all the good stories...some of the bad, told from their perspective, in a way where you might be feeling sympathy for their situation. Until you see how they react to different situations in real life, you'll never be able to see where the elaboration in the stories they've told is. I don't think there's a single person who can tell a completely unbiased story. Part of getting to know someone is getting to know their biases so that you can understand where they're coming from more often. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/26/2009 11:03:46 AM | Yes I have done that too. I am not sure I would have felt the same way in person.
It is a very limited view of someone. When you only know someone
on the internet, all the annoying things about them that you would notice in
person are not visible. Like you, this person would always take me right out
of a bad mood. It is that fantasy thing going, the escape from the real world and
all it's problems when we are chatting on cam with someone.
Is it real love? Sure felt like it at the time but then like I said, in person I think
things would have been very different. We would have probably just been friends.
Seeing each other flaws and all would have been a reality slap. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:28:50 PM | | If you’re talking a “virtual relationship” (i.e., there are plenty of phone calls, email exchanges, instant messages, etc. over an extended period of time), then I believe that you can fall in love with your “perceived” intended. However, this perception is based solely upon how your suitor has presented themselves to you. Until you meet and spend plenty of time engaged in face-to-face interaction and observation, there is no way to confirm if your perception is accurate. If you’re lucky, once you meet in the real world, your online sweetie will prove themselves to be all they’ve claimed to be and more. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/27/2009 2:20:30 PM | | Honey, it is called an illusion delusion. The imagination is a powerful thing. Trust me....that feeling of being in love can be busted up in a matter of two seconds if you meet him and find out he has rotten teeth or something that turns you off. I speak from experience. ;-) | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/28/2009 11:33:39 AM | | I have thought I was in love with someone I never met after talking on the phone and writing for a year. They thought the same. 5 min within meeting em I realized I made a big mistake. I was in love with a voice and letters not this person in front of me. So yes it is possible to think u are in love but when u meet u will realize u were wrong. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/28/2009 3:22:14 PM | No, not in the slightest. You can NOT be in (true) love with someone you've never met, it's just that simple. You might think it's love, but it's not. Maybe you're in love with the IDEA of the person...but you're certainly not in love with the actual person.
Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/29/2009 12:13:18 AM | My sweetie and I are coming up on two years together. A while ago I teased him "C'mon, admit it, you were in love with me before we even met". He smiled and said "Let's say meeting confirmed things"
I'm more cautious than he is... I knew he was someone I could love before we met.
Meeting either confirms what you're feeling or shatters it; I'd never consider it real til you spend time in real life. And I wouldn't figure it had staying power of real love 'til more than two years have past. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/29/2009 3:15:25 AM | You can know everything about a person but until you have met them and had a back fourth in-depth conversation I don't think you can call it being in love.
Before that conversation you are nothing more than a fan or admirer | |
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