| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 10/29/2008 12:22:02 PM | A good lover is attentive and selfless in that he derives as much pleasure in pleasing his partner as being pleased...
He is creatively adept at stimulating her mind and emotions as well as her body....
He brings intensity.. but also draws upon subtlety to elicit a crescendo of responses from his lover.. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 9:57:13 PM | | A leader makes a good lover, as does a follower. A friend makes a good lover, and so can an enemy. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:00:17 PM | | according to another thread the crazy one's make good lover's...so I guess I'm safe bc I've been "throwed off in the head" for some time now | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:12:23 PM | You are only as good as your partner allows you to be!
What makes a good lover is "communication!"
90% of my pleasure, comes from pleasing her....the other 10% comes after pleasing her! | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:24:35 PM | A man who is willing to take the.... TIME.... to get to know me and what makes me purr..... a man who is open to sharing with me how I can make his motor run.... | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 11:22:58 PM | Communication
Willing to take the time and learn about the other person
Willing to take the time needed to be completely comfortable with the other person
A desire to want to please the other person, rather then being please your self | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/17/2009 11:57:14 PM |
according to another thread the crazy one's make good lover's.....so I guess I'm safe bc I've been "throwed off in the head" for some time now
Bugs Bunny once said: Every get the feeling you were being watched? Like the eyes of someone are upon ya?
"Huhuhuhuhuhuh, Pwessuwe!!" said Elmer Fudd. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 12:25:44 AM | | What makes a good lover??? number one..... sensuality.... i am a very sensual woman and i love a sensual man....the touch the sighs the feeling that this person whom you are making love to would rather be nowhere else in the world than right there in the moment ......passionate kisses openness.... whispers that help to build and maintain the rage.....and being with someone that you know you are or could fall in love with...just my opinion..... | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 3:43:12 AM | | a good lover is me! find the sweet spots guys, g spot good, clit real good, but there are one million other spots i like to kiss and bite and rub along the way | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 4:11:57 AM | | For me, a good lover is one who listens to you about your wants, needs and desires and fulfills them, and tells you their wants, needs and desires and lets YOU fulfill them. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 4:58:59 AM | | Being 100% into the person and the moment they are sharing together at that time. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 6:04:46 AM | When he is dressed I can't wait to is undress him.
Presents a nice setting to play
Equipment that works
Foreplay and after play skills
Where time and skill are combined to make the time seem to disappear | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 7:12:26 AM | Connective heat. A good lover has the ability to make a look, a touch, a word keep the connection hot.
Sweet Lady Lori , now that was an answer. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 6:57:34 PM | For me personally...
Patience: If you're too impatient to make sure you're partner "got there too", then you're not a very good lover. Sexual impatience, is a huge turnoff for me personally.
Communication: If you're too "scared" to talk to your partner about sexual things, then it's your fault, for not taking responsibility for your own sexuality and staying sexually frustrated. If you can't talk to each other about what you need sexually, then you shouldn't be having sex.
Open mindedness: If someone is too "kinky" or "out there" for you sexually, you have every right to your opinion, but don't judge them or put them down for it, if they enjoy it. If you're not into it, or don't want any part of it, that's fine. But putting someone down just because their sexual interests happen to be different then yours, is immature and arrogant.
Honesty: If you want to know my sexual history and how many dudes I've banged, then you'd better be prepared to answer my questions honestly and openly too. Honesty needs to be a two way street, otherwise, what's the point?
STD free: If you're not willing to get tested for me before we sleep together for the first time, then I will be bidding you farewell. (see "Honesty above) If you want a truly 100% honest sexual relationship with someone, ya gotta be honest about this part too.
Sexually compatible/Chemistry: Sorry, but if our sex drives are too different, or you always want to have sex the same way and you're not up for trying anything new or different occasionally, I'm going to get bored or frustrated. Sex should be fun. There's nothing wrong with being with someone who's less experienced. It can be fun to "practice" things. But if the sex becomes a chore, because the two of us are clearly not a good match in bed, then it's time for both of us to move on.
Emotional connection: I used to be able to handle "casual sex". Been there, done that. With all the STDs out there, I'm just not into it anymore. For me personally, a good lover is someone I have some kind of emotional connection with as well, not just a sexual connection.
Leaving your ego at the door: Sometimes, we get sensitive about sex, and we don't like any critique, even if it's constructive. But sometimes, you need to leave your ego behind, and be open to suggestions. The only way my oral skill has improved over the years, was because I asked men for honest feedback about it. You can't get better at something, unless you're open to other points of view sometimes. I've dated guys who were "too sensitive" to some of my suggestions and took them personally, no matter how gently I tried to bring it up. If your ego keeps getting the way, then your partner is left feeling unsatisfied and frustrated and that's not fair to them.
Hair: I do love facial hair on a guy and lots of body hair, but it's not a requirement. I just dig it. Heh.
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/18/2009 7:34:34 PM | | a good lover is someone who is willin to try anything at least once an someone who knows what makes their lover WILD and wants to do it to them over an over again becuase they love to please their partner an make them happy. a good lover rarely says no. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 1/19/2009 5:12:38 AM | [Sweet Lady Lori, now that was an answer
Why thank you Big D and YOUR answer was good too!
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/13/2009 8:24:22 PM | | Well ...with someone very special in mind... when he looks into my eyes i can see that he cherishes me .. he tells me i am beautiful... it makes me feel wonderful when he says that i am his girl...he is the best....it doesnt take a Adonis to be a good lover ... just someone who know how to make a woman feel complete | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/13/2009 9:00:13 PM | | AMEN CUPCAKE!!!!! very well put.... The greatest lover is someone who pays attention to his or her mate... | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/14/2009 5:02:29 PM | Vince629.................
Darlin', just who are you yelling at? Hit the "Caps Lock" button and don't be quite so confrontational. The original OP is no longer on POF, so no one knows who you are trying to message that does not allow smokers. Please also use "spell check".
Good luck with stopping the smoking habit. I've been smoke-free for 2 years now. It can be done.
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/14/2009 5:14:27 PM | I think this one's been done before - Might want to do a search before you post a "new" thread, hun.
What's with you forum police? Some of us are new and not likely to search though old posts.. so what's your problem? Seems rather pathetic to me. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/14/2009 9:32:54 PM | | It takes experimentation...try things and, if she melts and becomes putty in your hands, moaning...um, your efforts are working. | |
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| What makes a good lover?
Posted: 2/14/2009 9:57:27 PM | communication, even if its just mere sounds or the breaths
passion
movement
ability to see beauty in flaws
and a good lover loves to give love and feel the love | |
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