| Shyness
Posted: 4/3/2009 4:52:03 PM | OPie, the only help for shyness that I know of is biting the bullet, and doing it anyways. The first time I did, at five, I blanked out completely. Continued practice makes it easier, and less visible to others. I have good friends who do not know I'm pathologically shy. . . . It does seem to be to a large part genetic, and is coupled with blue eyes. (I'm a big believer that social disorder is simply a deal dreamed up by Big Pharma to sell pills. . . .). The advice to take a Valium and a couple of drinks could kill you: DON'T DO IT.
As others have said here, just keep practicing, and you CAN do it. Promise. (Nope -- ain't easy: toughest thing I ever did in my whole life. But I have a lot more life than if I hadn't done it, lol!)
Good luck!
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| Shyness
Posted: 4/4/2009 4:32:40 AM | Hi OP,
I know how you feel but you might be surprised how many people are crippled by shyness but many cover up their anxieties in many different ways but you can only be yourself and hope that that is good enough.
I don't think it's a good idea to date people who are completely opposite to yourself but maybe experiences with outgoing,sociable people may make you realize what you really want and who you feel the most comfortable with.
There is nothing wrong with being shy so try not to think of it as a problem or curse,it really isn't,it's just one of the many traits that make you who you are.
Very best wishes for the future.
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| Shyness
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:24:39 AM | OP,
Internet dating will get you out of your social bubble...which I think should be your true goal. There is nothing wrong with being shy and I don't think you have to "overcome" it. In fact, outgoing women often dig shy guys. If you really want to be more outgoing then go for it...but I think it really sounds like you want to meet more ladies outside your social circle and are headed that direction already. Good for you! | |
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| Shyness
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:26:40 PM | Hi,
Most of my younger years were full of social anxiety and shyness.. My personal physician finnally, at the age of 35, got me to see a shrink. My life has improved tremendously since he started me on antidepressants. Everytime that I thought that I was cured, I would stop taking them, and would slip right back into the mess. I now know that I must take them for the rest of my life, in order to keep my brain chemistry in balance.
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| Shyness
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:24:18 PM | | Yeah, drink liquid courage, just not to the point that you are seeing double and slurring every word. | |
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| Shyness
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:53:20 PM | | It isn't easy to overcome shyness. I am afraid this is something you will have to force yourself to confront. Try a new activity, introduce yourself to a complete stranger or two each day, try to engage your "acquaintances" a little more than usual, and most importantly remember that we are all humans. Train yourself to not be as shy by practicing the opposite. It won't be easy but it is def worth the effort. | |
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