| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 3/28/2009 12:35:39 PM | | Hay you shoud let you self heal babe iv been the rebound guy and its not nice hurting some one else is not the answer. xx | |
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pofhet
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Joined: 11/3/2008
Msg: 27 | |
| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:34:56 PM | I wouldn't even worry what these people have been saying lol
You're 18 years old (a fellow Leo like me) therefore I know what qualities you possess.
You seem like a good person from what I read in your profile, but your mind is not where your heart is obviously.
If somebody cheats on you, yes you can still stay friends (I have with someone who cheated on me years ago) but we aren't the closest of friends, we just talk now and then.
Would I go back out with her? No...
Do I want to be close friends? Not really... lol
What I am getting at is that you should just maybe stay friends if you want too but don't get attached too him.
I also read your other forum post, and basically don't worry about what happened, if he was still hung up on his ex forget the goof and move on lol
Start taking action and be more independent for yourself. You will feel better inside and be proud of yourself.
Hope that helps. If you need any more advice, hit me up on here pofhet is my username.
Later & good luck. | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:43:22 PM | | but what if you wait and wait and nothing ever becomes of you and he..this guy who dogged you. Coming from a woman who's gone through something similar but now has a 5 yr old child in the mix of things, I say go on out there because you never know what you'll find and you really don't want to waste your life away, trust me. Good luck! | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:55:55 PM | | K, sorry, just re-read..it's late but I am sure that you get the picture..going out with other guys is not a bad thing as long as you are no longer lead down the prim-rose again..but if you happen to find Mr. Right in the midst of your prior pain and healing what have you, maybe you'll find out that you have more in common than you think and can heal together..doesn't mean you have to give up hope on finding the real deal. Keep in mind that life is all about risk , chances and learning as that is how we grow and come out stronger; us good people that is..sounds to me like he (Mr. Cheater Man) may have realized what he did and wants to find a way to make amends, in part to heal his own conscience and maybe too because he realized how badly he blew it with you and wants to create another window of opportunity. As long as you keep moving forward and not backward you'll be fine, and sorry for the painful bits but if it helps I and others on this crazy site understand and you're definitely not alone in your travels. Good luck sista! | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/6/2009 2:31:12 AM | | Just spread your legs and take some****baby. | |
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Merl19
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Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 31 | |
| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/6/2009 12:20:31 PM | I have been pretty much in the exact same situation (minus the prom, which I took someone else). But yes, I totally agree with them. I don't agree with the fact that they are insulting you. I don't understand why they're doing that. They could make their point without so many insults.
Anyways, back to the situation at hand. I have been cheated on and then they wanted to be friends with me and all. I thought it would help, but I couldn't get over them until after we separated our ways. This helped out a lot and I think that getting rid of him (calls, emails, even the pigeon on the BBQ as all ready mentioned) would be best. Also, about prom (if it hasn't happened all ready) go out there and get another guy. This guy is scum and not worth your time. I don't know the whole story (seeing how you said 'maybe you should have asked for the entire story...), but that's what I think thus far. Perhaps if we knew more, then we could help out more? | |
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Merl19
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Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 32 | |
| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/6/2009 12:29:59 PM | | Okay, I forgot the prego part. So, maybe our situations are quite different. But with becoming prego he shouldn't be cheating on you. He should have stuck it out. He's not a man if he cannot stick to it after this stage has been reached. So, get rid of him. Get yourself an actual man that will take care of you properly. Not one who's going to run away and leave you taking care of the baby (if you didn't miscarriage). Also, I wouldn't come to this stage until after my education. What do you want in life? A life with a child, but no career to support yourself and your child. Living in a run down shack and having pretty much nothing. Or a career to support yourself and your child and then the life with a child. With a beautiful house and enough financial support to fall back on if certain things go awry. | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:49:30 PM | | Casually date until your ready for another relationship, it takes time to heal | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:53:50 PM | | Sounds like bad juju. Move on. Liar, cheater..blah blah. Would you really want a friend that is all that? I don't think so. 'Friends' could mean "Hi, I don't want to burn any bridges the next time I get horny." | |
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| Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/13/2009 7:36:55 PM | First of all you dont want to stay friends, you want to keep in touch because you are not over him. It's extremely unhealthy to act like everything is cool after you break up. You need time apart to get your head on straight. You dont' want to break ties, and he feels guilty because he played you.
How can you heal if you still keep in touch with this guy? you put up with a lot and were hooked on him big time.
What you should do is have NO contact with him. Do friends lie? do friends cheat on you? do friends deceive? well then that tells you that he's not much of a friend. Stop thinking there is a chance for a good relationship. Have no contact with him and really move on instead of just mouthing the words. good luck. | |
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