| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 5:06:06 AM | Q:Why do men keep women on a string?
A: Because some people get offended when you keep them on a leash or chain them up in the back yard. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 5:27:47 AM | ^^^^^^^
Whoa kinky!!! Men are well known for doing this and women are famous for going along with it....................there are some women who string men along but more often than not it's the other way around. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:20:26 AM | | he's probably has an eye for someone else and is keeping you as a back up option....hot/cold could be a reflection of his situation with the other girl...when she blows him off he comes to you | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:30:18 AM |
Gonna sound like Katie Perry here but: Why do men run hot then cold and are yes then no? Been kinda seeing someone but it seems he rushes forward then holds back only to move forward at a later time. I never know if I am coming or going.
Because if he was nice to you all the time you'd be bored by now . | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:02:40 AM | I suppose the reasons are complex. A lot of men have problems in communication, and some are also emotionally manipulative. Some also have character flaws (i.e. inability to commit, inability to make core life decisions, lack of self-confidence, overconfidence, recklessness, etc) which can put them at odds with women and make them 'string' women along. There is also the basic existential problem all people face in that we all are different yet have to relate and communicate our intentions and ideas and emotions to each other.
I think both sexes play the game, and not just in relationship and dating situations. All human relationships seem to have a degree of emotional manipulation involved. Some of this is good (i.e. making someone feel loved) but it can also be bad (knocking someone down all the time). | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:15:05 AM | | Sounds like you too need to communicate and see if your both on the same page depending on how long you have been seeing him | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:45:17 AM |
unfortunately OP.....you asked the wrong question. the question you need to be asking is why do women allow men to keep them on a string?
Bingo.
You might never know the motives of others, but you can always examine your own motives and why you do what you do. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:52:50 AM |
When I`ve done this what I`m thinking is you just fill me up so easily. I`ve had my fill of love and affection for now.
But when it runs out I`ll be back for more.
Hint: dont fill me up too fast.
This is an honest question - isn't that pretty selfish? Do you ever think about your partner's needs and not just your own? | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:11:59 AM | Because women allow it and also set themselves up for it. Let me explain and preface this with "I know not everyone is going to agree with me here, but"....
I was raised to be an old-fashioned girl (ie - let men open doors for you, don't approach men, etc.). When I got old enough to date, I got the attitude of "that's full of it...this isn't the 1800s, I can call a guy if I want, etc." So all through my 20s, I'd approach men, call them when I wanted and basically was The Pursuer. And what resulted was the "hot and cold" behavior that you're referring to. It took me until my mid-30s to realize why this was and to stop my behavior that was causing it:
You can say whatever you want about what society tells women about how to behave with the opposite sex. The truth is that men are programmed to be biologically a certain way. It's almost a cellular thing that they can't change. Men like a challenge and value the chase. Men like to do things for the women they are attracted to, if allowed to. Men might say that they like a woman who is forward, who is the aggressor, etc., but the reality is that when a woman acts that way, it messes with their heads. The "messed up head" is why the "hot and cold" happens. Because society is telling men that they should like certain things, but deep down, they aren't built that way....and then they become confused and pull back.
If a man rushes forward, let him. But don't be over-eager and beat him there. Use some restraint in how you act. At the risk of sounding sexist, "let a man be a man." This is also smart and shows self-respect, because too many women "over give" in relationships and invest too much of themselves, too soon. When you "over give," you take away the man's desire to "be a man" and are giving him the message that you don't need him and can do X all by yourself. And then, when he pulls away, you feel hurt because of all you "gave." Why should he be motivated to get closer to you or do things for you when you're doing all of his "work" for him? | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 10:04:16 AM | | again its always the mans fault. women constantly send mixed messages just as men do. he makes an overture, you stonewall him, he retreats. then you send out a vibe and he comes back. do you talk to him or at him? men and women both exploit each other and after being burned are much more cautious the next time. there's to much power struggle and not enough compromise. but in todays society "its always the mans fault holds sway | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 10:15:47 AM | Op
When he said "I love you" did you respond with the same or no? If not, then he might be saving face, after having tested the waters, and they were too cold.
If you did respond with the same, well there are countless reasons as to why he runs hot and cold that have been listed before, but I would have to concur that it is YOU that lets him do this, by staying around and accepting this type of behavior!
OT Humungo! Loved both posts btw! Good chuckle out of replacing the computer from shaking sense into it!
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 10:31:50 AM | What ever happined to boy meets girl,falls in love,marrage,pregnant,bare foot in kitchen,go to work . So much has changed with human kind,tis a two way street,everyone stop messing it up for everyone,say what you mean ,mean what you say. Make a commitment,if does not fit then move along..TR7 | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 12:25:54 PM | | I love stereotyping, don't you? LOL! I am sure there are just as many women as there are men that put their mate/friend off. It's 2009. Can't we all just get along? Holy impersonations, Batman. I just sounded like Rodney King! | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 3/31/2009 12:54:13 PM |
OP, let's go through this.....
Him "I love you"
No love responce from you?
You "Oh yeah, that is great. I like being around you."
Him (thinking) Oh sh!t, what an idiot I am!!!!!!! So he says"uhhh, hmmmmm, yeah, we are moving too fast.......what was I thinking?"
He needs a way to backpeddle when he puts his feelings out there and you do not recipricate. Some people call that "needy" but to me, you have told him THREE TIMES that this is not what he wants it to be........and then you complain because he backs off????????
Thank you, readyornot57. I so totally agree with you!
Note to OP: Women do this, too!!!!!
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/26/2009 8:44:41 PM | No one can be put on a string unless that is where they want to hang out. If someone treats you like this then you should get the message that you will be called when and only if sex is needed or if the person needs someone to make them feel like they still "have control" over your emotions.
A man who truly is interested in being with a woman long term will be with her and only want her to be with him. If you are hanging on that string then you don't want anymore then what they are offering either. Maybe it suits your needs and you just don't realize it.
If this is NOT the case then don't take his calls, reply to his e-mails or texts and keep your eyes open for someone who wants to spend more than a few moments of his time with you.
If you like the interaction, then play back but don't for a sec put any emotional constitution in to it because you will only encourage heartbreak for yourself...be careful that you don't love to live in that world....otherwise you are an self indulgent emotional masochist.......
Peace out! | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:30:40 PM | because he has a double life is not v=being honest and is seeing someone else or more then one person. if not he is hunting for p ussy because he aint with you babe.
THE WRITING IS ONE THE WALL.HE IS SCUM. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/30/2009 6:46:13 AM | | OP: Perhaps because YOU have lousy taste in men and AGREE to date men who do this. Why do YOU date men like this? Quit whining and find a better caliber of men. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/30/2009 1:58:55 PM | | Hot and then cold means that an evil man is paying a woman for sex. He runs cold when his money runs out. That is what hot and cold is. When the money runs out and he can see that the evil woman just wanted the money, he is like no. He leaves, makes more money, meets another woman, and the saga continues. And he had faith in God he could escape this horrible cycle that has him married and divorced with his soul destroyed. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/30/2009 3:10:57 PM |
It's simple...He's just not that into you. If a man is interested in you, nothing can keep him from showing it. People only do what you allow them to do. Best Wishes.
Maybe that's true. It's definitely one possibility. But there are certainly others. Maybe OP is doing something that has him unsure he can trust her with his heart. Guys are just as soft on the inside as the ladies are, if not more so. Maybe she should just ask him? | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 4/30/2009 4:29:54 PM | | My guess is he's unsure about you. One moment you seem like the right person...the next....you don't. Have you noticed any problems between you two? That might be it. | |
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| Why do men keep women on a string
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:46:57 PM | In my opinion.....i think they are always on the the look out for something better......but i comes back to bite them as they dont find it, or it wasnt as good as they thought it would be.....hence they come back for what is on offer at the time.......one day they will live to regret it......because by the time they realise what they did have, the other person has got fed up and moved on.........karma is a wonderful thing  | |
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