| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 4:20:23 AM | Dearest chemistryandmagic
I have only recently met someone after being single for a few years. My profile was quite different just a few weeks ago, but thank you for your concern. It really shows to me how much you care.  | |
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Joined: 6/27/2005
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 6:48:42 AM | Women who have an overabundance of men after them for purely sexual reasons often get a major league attitude as a defensive shield. Not that many people ever have an offensive shield, come to think of it. Online is funny because you get to see people say things that would sound just right if they were with their same-sex buddies hanging out at home or in a bar, but when said out in the world in a mixed group, sound partyicularly harsh and biased against the other sex (assuming heterosexuality, which is rampant in Canada).
It is a positive aspect of internet dating because it offers a view of things you don't get easily other ways. It is a negative aspect of internet dating because it is hostility in action.
I think any thread that deliberately akss people to polarize aqn issue will result in polarization of views and the resulting antagionisn of bickering. Not that people don't automatically do that anyway. If a thread were about what do you think makes puppies so cute, people would still take sides and throw milkbone doggie snacls at each other's heads.
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chagri
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 7:22:41 AM | offensive shield! maybe not many have one, but my ex could certainly throw up a good offensive shield
don't know- i've only been on here about a week, but i am finding it a whole different angle at getting to know people- starting from what they want to say about themselves- not exactly from the inside outwards, sort of from the middle, inwards and outwards.
but lots superficial too- i cannot count how many people would message me just to tell me how tall they are- 6'4" male looking for the chance to say hello.- what can i say..."wow, you're tall!" i think i'm shopping for a horse | |
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Japhus
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Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 30 | |
| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 8:41:06 AM | Postive -
A blind date from here or another site isn't really totally blind as you have some idea of what the other person looks like and you can get an idea of their personality if they post regularly.
Negative -
Some people never want to meet or when they do they are totally different from what they have portrayed themselves to be online.
Positive -
Meeting people that you never would have met in your regular life.
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* Trolls
* people who post sob stories just for the sympathy
* dumb threads like "Am I the only one likes oral sex"? Duh!
* Women whining about being hit on for sex when their profile picture shows them in their underwear. If you're going to flaunt it, expect some morons to come calling. Even if you don't flaunt it you'll still get morons mind you.
* and finally people who can't spell their way out of a paper bag.... | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 2:42:57 PM | "My No 1 favourite think about internet dating is actually being in a place where everybody is single and looking for someone special."
You'd be amazed at the number of unavailable, married, or people living with someone else already on websites like these. | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:26:32 PM | | I would say the possitive would be that if you're open minded, somewhat... The opportunities are endless. On the negative side is, unless you meet someone in person, you'll NEVER really know what kind of person they are. | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:38:00 PM | | It seems to me that many people here are computer addicts and spend hours a day here and on other sites. That leads to me think that they would really rather live life from a computer than to meet and interact with real people. I'm not sure but I'm leaning to that way of thinking | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 4:46:04 PM | | I think the most positive thing is the POTENTIAL for meeting those people you would not have met otherwise. The most negative thing is, even though you fit the exact description they say they are looking for, they won't answer your emails. It really starts to erode your self-esteem after awhile. | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 4:50:27 PM | One positive that I haven't seen anyone post yet is,That a site like this is a very good place to meet people who are going through the same things in life that you are, From what I have read most people don't want to hear just how badly others EX'S have treated them, wouldn't it make you feel a little better knowing that someone else has been through the same sh*t that you have?? Its a very good opertunity to give or recieve a little moral support.
Take a look around at others profile and see just how many others are also divorced, or also at what ever age are still single and still looking for that special someone to spend their lives with......just a thought.
Also to the person that posted about the bad spelling, this isn't a grammer lesson, perfect spelling isn't necessary, as long as everyone gets their point across...... | |
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| Number one positve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 7:55:58 PM | Pepperstar-
I totally agree with you. I've found three guys on here that when I read their profile, it was so amazingly like me, I could have written it myself! Yet when I emailed, they didn't answer at all, or else answered once, called once even, and then just disappeared off the face of the Earth. It really makes me frustrated!
Then some guys DO keep emailing or calling, and they don't give up! They act one way online, too, and on the phone, then in person, they're creepy.
(Okay, that was two negatives).
On the positive side, I love being able to just cruise through people's profiles, pictures... it's like shopping in a catalog for a man! The prospect of meeting someone new... Every time I get or make that first call, or walk up to them in person, it's still a thrill! 
Hope everyone is enjoying life, and not taking anything too seriously. Life's too short.
~Ruthie | |
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| Number one positve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/29/2005 8:09:38 PM | The number one thing I thought of about this site in particular was the ability to make adjustments to my profile without waiting to get it approved.
The number one disadvantage of internet dating for me is that it can become a crutch. | |
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| Number one positve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/30/2005 12:02:45 AM | pro: You get to meet peopla and talk to them, find out how they think in the forums,, how they react to you and others in different threads. Find out if you have compatibility with out the stress of "Dating"
con: finding the one that you click with, but they live so far away from you. | |
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| Number one positve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/30/2005 7:16:51 AM | Pro: It gives you the chance to meet new people from different parts of the world and get different perspectives on dating and relationships
Con: The person you are the most attracted to lives on the other side of the country | |
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| Number one positve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/30/2005 8:15:03 AM | Pro: It's easier to open up and be honest.
Con: It's easier to lie and pretend.
Overall, I have a positive outlook on Internet Dating. It takes a special pair to make it work, though. Two poeple who can look at the relationship objectively and realize that it can never fully mature into a true relationship until they spend some actual time together. Seeing how they act in groups also helps. | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/30/2005 8:51:23 AM | #1 positive comment: Tons of wonderful...vibrant....people to get to know!!!
#2 comment: Sadly..some people dont like their self very much...so they lie to attract attention...to sadly lose it when the truth is found out......but then that happens in real life too.....
All of my experiences....dating and just chats...have been positive...sure I have met men I did not choose to date...lol.....but heck I am already on the date....why not laugh....and talk..and enjoy their company .....no need to be unladylike...and hurt anyone's feelings....
Just take it one day at a time...and if it is meant to be.....it will happen.......but then I am an optimist.....and romantic......at heart....
kisses..and Good Luck you Guys...... | |
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| Number one possitve or negative comment about Internet Dating
Posted: 6/30/2005 9:11:30 AM |
#2 comment: Sadly..some people dont like their self very much...so they lie to attract attention...to sadly lose it when the truth is found out......but then that happens in real life too.....
There is so much truth to that. Let's face it - a lot of us here aren't exactly the most adept at social situation. That's definitely a big part of why I'm here. So inherently, you aren't going to run into a lot of people on the internet with a healthy self-esteem.
That can be frustrating at times, but also rewarding in the end. | |
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