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Posted: 2/23/2009 12:00:03 PM | anytype of bdsm play is good for U/us. Age play, puppy play, shibari, spanking, belting, whipping etc. All you can do is try it all and decide weather or not its for you. You should first know if you are a Dom/ Master or a slave/sub or even a switch...would you want to be the one tied up or the one doing the tieing?
@ Sirspankalot......Yes saran wrap is awesome, My girlfriend and I were saran wrapped together that was fun! But it was kinda hard (and fun) to go to the bathroom stuck together like that *giggle* but thats a different kink altogether. ;)
My Husband is into any kind of bondage, weather its rope, tape, saran wrap anything goes! | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 2/23/2009 12:22:35 PM | Well, its always worth a try. CBT is something that you probably wouldn't want to try. CBT means c0ck and ball torture. and it has nothing to do with roosters playing b-ball.  | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 2/23/2009 9:32:32 PM | Grab some saran wrap, handcuffs and get to seeing what you are missing. You can discuss this all day with total strangers. or get out and live life a little.
Find the person and bring on the toys....
a little libations never hurt the situation either... | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 2/23/2009 9:57:53 PM |
BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Depends on who you ask. I'm certain if you asked this question on a site that caters to the question posed, you'd get drastically different answers than you did or might get here. (And yes, you are missing out.)  | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:48:50 PM | | If it is in your fantasy list of maybe's..why not..trying any type of role playing requires a trust with your partner..Get hot and give it a try..it might be a keeper..and it is bound to keep the love life sizzling. | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 3/2/2009 4:36:24 PM | In response to GreenGrey Black
As in most of life there are varying degrees to all things. BDSM stands for all you have shared however you failed to mention the ((degrees)). Ribbons and furry tickly things are as much BDSM as are whips and ropes.
To which couples feel comfortable exploring sexually is neither mal adjusted nor wrong but rather complimentary to a consensual sexual life. Sometimes the fantasy is greater, sometimes its more then just fantasy. What goes on behind closed doors of two consenting adults cannot be deemed mal adjusted if good is derived from the experience.
No pain no gain is how the saying goes
Cheers | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 4:38:25 PM | | It's all good! But....definitely do it with someone you know and trust. What I have done is blindfolded myself and tied myself to the headboard, left the door unlocked, and he comes in to a nice surprise. | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 4/13/2009 12:43:32 PM | You are only missing out if it is something you want to do.
Some long to be spanked, or tied up.....some do not.
To each their own...live and let live.
Personally if someone wishes to be spanked I would view it as sexual play rather than punishment.
Subbies who only receive spanking as punishment will often use manipulation to get it. This I view as less desirable than if it is given as part of foreplay etc.
Just my thoughts | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 4/13/2009 12:55:42 PM | Hell yah you are!! LOL.... well actually you're only missing out if your are fetish/kink inclined and have a terminally vanilla partner who recoils at the notion.. *ponders the ties that bind*:
traditional rope
Shabari style
nylon ligature
leather restraints
hogtying
latex straps
mummification(shrink wrap)
zip ties et al
A world awaits you OP.. get a partner you trust (preferably experienced) and indulge.. Just make sure to play safe ..
Never ever leave a bound person unattended ( it can result in dangerous/ lethal consequences eg suffocation) and use a safe word...
Bottom line: safe/sane/consensual | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 5:31:52 PM | Sepia has it going on.
Only thing to say is to be in a safe, secure environment with someone you trust. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2009 8:24:14 PM | I'm considering investing on in one of these
(warning adult material)
http://www.sextoysexotica.com/images/product/pictures/A/1454-7.jpg
I briefly dated a woman who had a door swing, and it was fun, but kind of awkward. The version in the image I linked to looks much more sturdy and versatile. I even checked one out in a local adult store. Very cool.
Mike | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 5/14/2009 4:18:08 PM | making a few things clear:
Bondage is not necessarily about anything to do with pain. Those who assume it are scarey-minded!
I love it. Just my opinion, and oh, i speak from experience, not mindless banter. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 6:48:50 PM |
BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Why would anyone tie up their love, instead of enjoying their hugs and kisses?
I JUST DON'T GET IT! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 7:39:58 PM | Why?
Because it's a completely different connection with someone that some people (like myself) find more fulfilling than the typical vanilla relationship. It's not easily put into words. The endorphine high attained through delicious acts that connect two (sometimes more) people together. It's not directly about the pain, but the end result when playing together in a SAFE, SANE, and CONSENTED atmosphere.
I must say Shibari is quite the experience; as well as impact play.
...And chopsticks...oh my...
Careful who and when you play and who you are "out" with as the majority of BDSM activities are illegal in some states and is not socially accepted. | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:27:10 AM | | If you do it, just remember that trust is the key. The trust and power play is what makes it sexy. | |
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| BONDAGE,AM I MISSING OUT????
Posted: 7/23/2009 5:55:40 AM | | If you find a woman who is into it then yes it is a very great thing. But like other people have said set the limits and use a keyword to know that the limits are reached or have been crossed. That is how my ex and I did it and it was always amazing...Course her limits and my limits were different cause I loved hearing her in pain and loved receiving the pain as well but she couldn't handle the pain but loved to inflict the pain so it was a difficult balance we had to find. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:26:51 PM | Two adults can choose to have sex in any way they wish to. If they choose bondage, so be it.
I personally have never experienced bondage, but think it can be very sexy. Bondage isn't about pain, it's another way of receiving pleasure. The thought of being naked, tied to a bed, maybe even gagged and/or blindfolded, and being pleasured by a sexy woman sounds like fun! Returning the pleasure is just as gratifying.
Bondage must never involve pain or torture. It is definitely a no-no for casual sex. Bondage should only take place between couples who trust each other, meaning a committed relationship. Definite limits and keywords must be set and agreed upon before any couple enters into bondage play. This is about role-playing and exploring another part of sexuality. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:45:50 PM |
Definite limits and keywords must be set and agreed upon before any couple enters into bondage play.
Keywords? You're doing Google searches while you're tied up? Now THAT is kinky...  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:48:42 PM | BDSM, in it's generic term that has many different terms everything from teasing with a feather to hardcore pain/humiliation....
I think you are definitely missing out though it's important to talk with your partner so you can each share your interests and curiosities . While it may take away from spontaneity, it will do wonders for the trust and bringing you closer together.
I remember the first time I was helping a gf undress and I realized I could twist the shirt so her wrists were bound together.  I've been hooked ever since. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 1:22:48 PM | bondage is sex for the brain,, its the anticipation of what your trusted tormentor has in mind for you, it could be spanking, whipping or humiliation. as long as it is practised by consentin couples there is no harm in it...
i love it . | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 5:16:51 AM | OP, yes, you are ultimately missing out on a world of possibilities. As posted above, it's key to find someone you trust 100%; that trusts you 100%; who is sane, safe, and (preferably) knowledgeable.
This is a very interesting thread in that I've found this site to be so mainline vanilla ... Usually the responses are pretty negative. Keep it going. | |
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