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Posted: 3/31/2009 6:39:24 PM | | I haven't read any of the posts yet..but all I have to say...I live in San Diego and I KNOW there has to be at least one match for me. I paid all that darn money and then got an email that said "we have no matches for you". They wouldn't even give me my money back! I guess I'm totally unmatchable. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 8:13:48 PM |
Pitch Blease: I was like satan's daughter who liked to do strange sexual things with monkeys and ferrets. They refunded me real quick.
My kind of girl. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 9:05:08 PM |
the_mcguffin wrote: When I found out after joining this site that the pay sites all allow profiles of non-paying members, it was a real eye opener. I never tried EH, but when I tried Match five years ago my response rate to initial emails was somewhere between 5-10%. Here, where everyone can read your email and respond to you, it's somewhere around 50%. I've also read that the majority of profiles on pay sites are of non-paying members. That's free enterprise gone horribly wrong. The pay sites make guys like Bernie Madoff proud.
I totally agree!!! 5 years ago I was on AFF (adult_friend_finder) and most of the women on there only had a basic (i.e., non-paying) membership. I have a female friend who was on there as well and she said that for females it's easy because the guys will usually include their private e-mail addresses when they write to non-paying female members.
However, in the past I'd pay for addresses of women who advertised on so-called "mail-order bride" sites and the response and interest rate was much better. Even though I haven't gotten married (yet) from such a service, I have had positive experiences travelling to other countries and meeting the women and their families. I'm still friends with a Brazilian lady who I visited 7 years ago. She told me she got married a few months ago and I'm happy for her. She wanted to stay in Brazil and the guy she just married is Brazilian. Of course, it helps to speak the local language when you go to another country. I speak Spanish and Portuguese and a little bit of Russian. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 3/31/2009 9:59:26 PM | I did the EHarmony thing and got nowhere. It's a shame because I was quite sincere. After reading this, next time that Dr. Neil Know It All is on I'm going to moon the TV. Learn this lesson, bozo!  | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 1:41:58 AM |
I did and I was like satan's daughter who liked to do strange sexual things with monkeys and ferrets.
Damn. We just missed. I put on mine that I liked chimpanzees and meerkats. And we were so close....... 
But seriously. My profile on eharmony was pretty generic, and they told me they had no matches for me. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 11:14:56 AM | I also tried signing up based on a co-worker's recommendation. He bought one month, went on a leaflet campaign contacting every hot woman he could find, and had some fun for his efforts.
Personally since I was interested in actually finding ONE interesting and attractive lady, and couldn't see who I was being matched with, kicked that site to the curb without paying a dime (plus the endless notifications of special offers just pissed me off. )
To each their own, but free POF at least lets me see the women trying to contact me, before I respond, and vice versa. I'm not so desperate as to depend on text-only and a computer algorithm to determine if I'll actually like someone, as my first attraction has and always will be visual.  | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 6:51:01 PM | About seven years ago, I tried EHarmony.
They matched me with a flaming gay man. I mean c'mon. He was wearing a bright pink satin shirt at dinner........
Thank god I only paid for one month. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 8:14:57 PM | I tried the EH free weekend twice... First time 'there are no matches for you'. Ok, whatever. It's only the greater chicago area. Maybe I am that weird. A few days later it comes up with 'matches', exactly what I said were my 'deal breakers'. Yeah, great computer system ya got there :) Delete profile. A couple years later I try again, figured they had to change to stay in business... get matches... jump through hoops of different 'stages'. No pictures. Get to the point of pictures... $50 a month please.... frack that. Delete profile.
I've have never paid for any pay site. Each and everyone has something that sets off my scam-sense. Plus why do pay sites have about 1000 times the spam as the free ones? Not just the fake messages to get a guy to pay but stuff from outside websites. Other dating sites, russian mail-order brides, and so on. POF and are spam-free by comparison. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 11:00:45 PM | Stay away from them....total scam! They send you matches, and most of the matches they send you are from non paying members or members who no longer subscibe but did not delete their profiles. Besides, I find something very wrong with some old doctor thinking he knows who is best for you. You can't browse and you have to rely on what they consider is a good match..and most of the time they're dead wrong.
I tried it once briefly and was so disappointed because I felt ripped off that I wrote them a letter and cancelled. They make you take this hour long quiz and those quizes are not reliable becuase how many people truly know themselves to answer them correctly. Most people answer those things with what how they think they are, not how they really are.
Try and get a refund if you can....at least here it's free and you can browse for your own matches. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/1/2009 11:10:19 PM | It's amazing how many people their system says there are no matches for. I know two women who both tried eHarmony, and both were told they had no matches.
The one didn't admit this until after we had been dating for six months We met on another site. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/2/2009 8:04:17 AM | After I was split from my wife for about 4 months, I decided to try "E-Harm".
I placed my marital status as "separated" and then filled in the tedious questionaire. After about 30 minutes of answering all the question and hitting send, I got an page saying they will not entertain having separated people on their site.
Then why make me fill in all those questions?!?!?!?!?
Why didn't they tell me that from the first page? I then heard about so many bad things about them. They kept sending spam stuff to my email. I think they finally stopped trying to make me pay 60 bucks a months to there website. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/2/2009 8:29:26 AM | | I was over to Eharmony just being curious. Filling out there ****ing question shit, that was so stupid. I thought screw this. And found out from a friend it was nothing but a scam site anyway. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/2/2009 12:40:26 PM | | I think I joined e_harmony about a year or so ago. After spending about an hour answering questions and figuring I'd have to spend a lot more time doing that, I just said 'F*** it!' and let it be. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/2/2009 4:07:26 PM | This is where Eharmony dishes out a MAJOR red flag. On Eharmony, I can not see the photos of users who I got matched up with. Therefor, I have no idea what it is I am being sold. - herbigharo32
Don't feel so bad, herbigharo32. I spent a good 10-15 minutes on their "free" personality test, only to be told that within 100 miles of
Vancouver,BC (population of approx. 1 million people), they didn't have a single match for me!
ROFLMFAO!! 
So instead, I research free sites like this one & found my S/O here! Karma bites!
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By the way OP, that is sure a pretty kitty you got there. - BBW2love
I agree with you, BBW2love. I like you kitties, too. One thing that always drove me nuts when I first was on here, seems to be a million
freaking dog lovers here & I don't like dogs | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/2/2009 8:19:36 PM | Tried it and hated it.
I met two men on eHarmony. One was separated. Now, eHarmony doesn't accept separated people, but of course, he lied. I asked him why he hadn't gotten a divorce yet. He said he didn't have the money for it. So, he had enough money for eHarmony but not for the divorce. I told him his priority should have been getting a divorce instead of looking for another woman!
I had dinner with the second man. He told me that he and his girlfriend decided that both would go on eHarmony. If they met someone new, they would break up. If not, they would stay together. Nice! To say the least, I wasn't interested in getting involved in that deal.
I think it's a rip-off! | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/4/2009 2:03:27 PM | "They matched me with a flaming gay man. I mean c'mon. He was wearing a bright pink satin shirt at dinner........"
Gee, with all the emailing you are required to do before being allowed to meet I'd have thought you'd have had a clue.
To my eternal shame I admit to having tried eHarmony when I was 47. Only one of the men they matched me up was my age and he was already involved with someone. The other 3 men were 64 and older.
Now one of the things they did was ask you what age group you interested in. I wrote them that I was not interested in men that much older than me. Their response was to send 4 more "matches" of men in over 64 crowd. Maybe if I had paid I'd have gotten younger matches?
Edit: For a laugh you should check out this thread about a couple matched by eHarmony: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12104512.aspx | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/8/2009 11:11:13 AM | well, i had no success--their selection criteria seems unfruitful, they matched me with (tons) of men that I had no interest in. I think their question base is poorly chosen. I have had a lot more success with POF because between the interests, forums, communication options, it is just more flexible--but you are responsible for figuring out your own life philosophy matches.
My son, on the other hand, married the beautiful, in all ways, woman he met on eharmony....and they are building a life together.
So, the difference? My life options are less flexible than his?? I can't just chuck my house and move 2000 km. I can't leave this job with the investment I have put in it. I need a real match, not an abstract match based on life philosophy that the young can work with?? I know what gives me joy and won't throw it out of the window, have just so much time to proffer to a companion instead of doing my stuff??
My conclusion--eharmony works better for the younger and the less invested. But I could be wrong. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 4/8/2009 2:12:03 PM | | i wouldn't even consider buying eharmony or any other paid dating site , just don't see them as being worth the money in this economy . dating is allready expensive enough , no need to go broke over a dating site profile . | |
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