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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 5:39:33 AM | | thank god for telling the truth about eharmony i tried it and it is a joke, most people do not even have a photo on there and then when you try to contact them you have to go through eharmony which is a waste of time then they say you're a match even though you never agreed in the first place. i put i only wanted to meet a white girl and they matched me with other women so it is a ripoff. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:37:44 PM | I think most pay dating sites are a waste of money. They are horribly expensive, and think about this. You can't contact anyone on most of them, until you pay for a subscription, but you can still post a free profile.
The problem is, most folks post a free profile, but don't want to buy a subscription just to be able to contact others. This I think, is an unfair deal for men, because its mostly men who do the contacting, and therefore, they have to pay the subscription fee to contact women. However, if she doesn't have a subscription, she may not be able to contact him back, and then he never hears from anyone he contacts.
Honestly, I think they are a waste of money. I tried a few (and paid for a few subscriptions so that I could contact men) but I found I just couldn't afford them after awhile, and too many folks I might have contacted, were unreachable because they still only had free profiles. So, I would never hear back from them anyway, if they didn't "upgrade".
I'm sticking with POF. Works for me. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 3:01:11 PM | | I know I've got a ton of people I messeged and thwy are still sitting in the 1st stage. Reason being I'm sure is because they went on there for the free communication weekends and then they didnt purchase a membership | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 3:04:23 PM | | I wasted so much time closing matches on eHarmony. Someone needs to let them know that Long Island is no where near Bergen County, NJ. Who'd drive 2+ hours for a date? | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 6/15/2009 5:50:46 PM | | I read these posts and realize that those of you who had bad experiences with eharmony obviously didn't go through and filter out what you didn't want being sent to you. eharmony is about matching people based on compadibility, not how they look and this is why you can't see the pics unless you communicate with them first. This is part of what makes this site a failure to people who are really seeking true love. I can go read a persons profile and we could be completely compatible, but I'm not their type because I'm either too young, too old, not the right ethnic origin, etc. I use eharmony for 1 month just to see if it works and I met some great friends that were actually willing to meet offline and hang out. I guess what I'm saying, is that if you're an average guy and you're honestly looking for true love, this site isn't for you because the women on here are too materialistic and unrealistic, but eharmony may be right for you. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:19:46 PM |
I guess what I'm saying, is that if you're an average guy and you're honestly looking for true love, this site isn't for you because the women on here are too materialistic and unrealistic, but eharmony may be right for you. even if you are decent, average person eharmony may not be for you. its still expensive but i wouldnt put a cent towards it. maybe you're meeting the wrong women, some of us aren't materialistic and conniving. Some of us may not look like supermodels but we do have a super heart. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:05:31 PM | | I am so glad to see that I am not the only E-Harmony reject LOL It made me feel pretty bad at first. Who gets rejected by a dating site!? Me. Even my kids felt bad for me. If it wasn't for your guy's posts I would still think that I am the only reject LOL | |
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| Eharmony isn't $60 per month
Posted: 7/15/2009 11:42:01 PM | All you have to do is sign up for an account, then don't join. Within two weeks, they'll be spamming you with $20 per month offers.
$60 is what the poor **stard pays for being desperate to join immediately. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:40:42 AM | Missdi123:
I was a reject..twice! LOL..I filled out the questions honestly the first time and then generically the second. Still had no matches.... | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:02:52 AM |
I think most pay dating sites are a waste of money.
Hmmm. I was with match, paid,for the year subscription. In two years went out with over 80 women. Sounds like a good deal to me. My Gf, tried the one month Free subscription. Made contact with 3 guys, went out with one (me). Cancelled her subscription.
Sounds like both got a great deal. But wait, she now has breast cancer, so maybe I should sue the sites for all the discomfort and emotional turmoil since if I had not met her through there I wouldn't have to endure this. (Just a joke, we're doing fine) | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:07:30 AM | | I was on Match for about a week. I was contacted by half a dozen guys that I went to high school with. I cancelled my subscription - but now I'm still on their stupid spamming list - grrrr | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/17/2009 5:39:03 AM | | I had a similar problem with a few other sites which I used online surveys to get the payment in, during the trial membership lots of messages yet I could not reply, soon as I filled out enough surveys for the full membership on those sites I tried not a single message and never even got a single message I sent out read. That's when I decided to just stay away from pay sites like that, just glad I didn't dish out money out of my pocket for them, at least the surveys I did came with other freebies like this metal cigarette tin that made an excellent case for a guitar effect circuit. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:12:49 AM | | I just gave eHarmony a shot since they had a promo on. What a scam. For one thing, eharmony has, at best, one tenth of the members plentyoffish has (or at least that what it seems to be) and half of those members are also on plentyoffish. The interface is horrible, you have to go through each match and close them one at a time, which can be a very slow and tedious process. There is also, apparently, no way to bypass their matching system, so instead of letting you browse and pick what who you like from reading their profiles you are limited to the very few people who they deem you compatible with. It's a waste of time and money. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:11:10 AM | I think E-harmony has those free weekends just to get more bogus people on their site to make their numbers look good. Once on there you can't delete your profile either. I uploaded a photo with the text...no longer active on E-Harmony...just to get around their system.
I'm on Yahoo Singles and regret I signed up for six months. The thing is full of spambots and non-members who can't email. A guy friend says all he gets is messages from foreign girls asking for money. It's pretty disappointing. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:17:37 AM | paying to meet people? i dunno.... i don't think it's going to be any different than pof
it's a little dirty, don't you think? kind of like paying for an escort. >.> | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:19:41 PM | for us canadians - especially the ladies try out Lavalife (make your postal code the nearest major city you're willing to travel to).
I've had SO much luck with this, and never had to pay a thing. There are a LOT more men then ladies. Just do yourself a favour and take your profile down on the "intimate" part od the site. if you don't, you'll get a LOT of creepy messages.
So far, i've gotten nothing at all off of POF - but I LOVE the forums! | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:42:05 PM | My complaint with EHarmony is that, when I pointed out the limited number of "matches," their representative suggested that I change my self-description in order to attract more prospective dates. In particular, the person I spoke to said that I should change my definition from "not spriritual, not religious" to "spiritual but not religious." That is wrong on SO many levels.
Oh, and they charged my credit card for a renewal without my permission. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/22/2009 9:38:32 PM | Another thing with Eharmony, is that even in the very unlikely event that you actually make it to "open communication" with someone, they can still withold their pictures until they want you to see them. I'm sorry, but after I've emailed with someone several times, if they aren't letting me see a picture of them, there's a REASON for it.
And that whole not telling you if your matches are paying members? Very few of them actually are. Most of them are people who did the sign-up like you did out of curiosity, then never went back when they realized they couldn't see what they were buying.
I'm sorry, but I just can't see paying $60 for a month of THAT. | |
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| Eharmony isn't $60 per month
Posted: 7/22/2009 9:42:00 PM | | Zong, I wouldn't pay $20 a month for it, because you aren't going to meet anyone regardless of what you pay. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/23/2009 11:09:19 AM |
eharmony is about matching people based on compadibility, not how they look
Not true! EHarmony was my first step into the frightening world of online dating. They say on their website that one of ways they match people is by looks. Some of the people they sent me as "matches" looked like something out of Deliverance. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/23/2009 12:18:12 PM | E Harmony sucks. The women complain on E H's sister website eha that there aren't enough men on E Harmony. I think for every man there are three women? E Harmony is the most boring, labor intensive (you have to use your time to close out matches) and all the questions asked doesn't help you get matched with anyone different than here on POF.
POF is way better, more fun and less labor (time) intensive. Also E Harmony Advice (sister website to E Harmony.com) has a reputation for being run and controlled by extreme feminists. Allegedly they run off men who don't conform to extreme feminism. Before you plunk down $ for E Harmony, join Udate, Match.com or any other leading website. E Harmony imho is the worst and most expensive.
Former E H member for years... | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 7/23/2009 12:28:07 PM | EH sucked.
I do personally know some people who got married from eharmony...
But they're more of the straight laced, homely variety.
I'm an attractive geek.
It's not a site for me. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:59:17 PM | E-harmony or 'E HaHa' as the EHarmony advice boarders call it, is a complete wate of time and money.
the e-harmony advice boards aren't bad, though - and they are free.
My very attractive, smart and funny son joined with a free trial membership. He managed to get a few girls to send him questions or reply to his - so I joined, a month later, too. Neither of us ever got anywhere with it.
The only person I EVER actually (open communication) communicated with, was a guy who recognised me as being a prior co-worker. We never met in person after -re-meeting on e-H, but had a few nice e-mails, when he poofed with no explaination. Though I could have looked him up in the local phone book (I had been in HR, and knew his last name) I felt that if he chose to 'poof', he had his reasons. I felt it would be a violation of his privacy if I contacted him using information I gained though my prior Job in HR, when he chose NOT to reply to my e-mails asking if he was OK.
What I saw was many profiles that had been posted to 'see their free matches' and probably never visited again - that had never been 'paying' members to start with. EH carefully avoids any discussion of who is inactive, non-paying or paying. And if the Discussion boards are any indication, the ratios are WAY more females than males, and more like 10 females to 1 male in the over 45 age range. Add in the 45+ men who are looking for younger trophies, and my chances of finding somone on there slip to near microscopic.
Many of these profiles were obviously old - they had references to political and cultural events that dated them and it seems that EH NEVER purges their files of old profiles. You also can't 'delete' your profile. Yes, they 'automatically' renewed my membership, too - and I fought them on it. Ihad to 'cancel' thru my credit card company refusing to pay, as EH would NOT cancel. Though I could not cancel my profile, I did change it, so that my profile read " I am no longer a paying member as of mm/dd/yy and will not be able to reply to you."
I'm sure it didn't make any difference, as the ONLY men that ever initiated contact with me on EH were illiterate sleezeballs looking for sex or money, were 15 yrs older than me or 5 + states / countries away. Those I initiated contact with seldom responded and NONE got to open communication. (except that prior co-worker) .
I'm not doing any better on here - but at least I'm not PAYING to be rejected, and I like the boards!
Besides, there are way more people on Fish that are ACTUALLY IN my home town/ county/ region than eH - which limited me to "Chicago". Do those nuts have any idea how BIG a region 'Chicago' encompasses? I'm actually about 2.5 hrs OUT of 'Chicago'!
Nope, eHarmony is a BIG waste of time & money. | |
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| Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:58:59 AM | I had really good luck on eHarmony. The last relationship I was in I met on there, we were together for a while.
I didn't pay right away, just signed up and came across a code for 3 months for $20 so I signed up for it. I had lots of matches, I went on dates with a lot of guys who I could easily get along with but weren't right for me to get involved with. I got a few crazies too but no amount of matching is going to weed out all of them.
I think you get out of it what you put into it. Yes it is time consuming and its annoying when you get matches from 1,000 miles away but they have settings for that. You can limit your settings to 30 miles. All you have to do to cancel the membership is call. Often times if you do call they offer to give you half you're money back or free months to keep you but its not hard at all to call and cancel. You can also change the settings to do not send new matches and they put you're profile on hold.
On the free weekends you can choose to fast track and get to the open communication right away, exchange emails and then trade pictures from there.
If you don't want to put the time into changing settings to try and narrow down the type of person you want to date are you really going to put any sort of effort into a relationship? Good relationships are time consuming too.
I signed back up not too long ago and for the past month or so I have gotten 10-20 matches a week, and most are within a hour of me. Although I will admit I think part of the reason I have had decent luck with it is because I live in a military town and the number of single guys out number the single girls easily.
I took the time to change all the settings to what I wanted, the distance, age, etc... and I firmly believe that because I put the time into it I got something out of it. When the timing is right and I want to be more active about dating then I will probably pay for it again. Not $60 a month of course but I'm smart enough to do a search and find a good deal. | |
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