| | What do men really want?Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Men are simple...Food, Sex, Home, Hobby, Sleep
and to be appreciated and accepted for their good and their bad and not nagged all the time. Woman need to take more responsibility for their happiness and create boundaries not fights.
I wish I figured this out years ago...with age comes wisdom. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/6/2009 8:10:21 AM | | darhma1, pretty good description/explanation of what men want (even in correct order). | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/14/2009 3:03:27 AM | | I think what a guy wants depends on the guy. We all want sex, of course; so do women. But, beyond that, it depends on the personality of the man. For me, if a woman makes me feel smart and important (not just important to her, but like I have an important place in the world), that's pretty incredible. After that, and only after that, giving the impression that she's just thrilled to be with me is the cherry on top. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/14/2009 12:04:24 PM | | For the most part your right darhma1 men are simple, sometimes the list you have is in different orders, but at its core, the main thing is to be accepted by her for who we are--we dont need to be changed, fixed, or counselled. Granted, any guy worth anything will solicit your opinon, since your opinion is usually one of the only ones that matter, but a constant stream of "helpful comments" is usually more harm than good. | |
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Cheba
| | Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 80 | |
| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/14/2009 12:48:43 PM | they don't know what they want until they turn 35 and panic. and then they date girls in their 20s.... and then they turn 40 and marry the first 30 something gal that comes walking through the bagel shop.
i'd be more concerned with what you want. set standards and rules. would you like a man to be like you or a total opposite? do you want him to be a stay at home kind of guy or the one who likes to go out and explore the city? focus on what you want and don't try to fit into some crazy mold. you won't be happy. and be honest. if you don't like a guy on your first date, don't go out with him again.
it's hard. and there are some pretty lonely nights. but i'd take that over a lifetime of spending it with the wrong person. i've done that for a whole year and it was bliss. no dating. just doing what i wanted to do and live. it makes you a stronger person. the problem lol... is that mr. right is still not present, but i don't worry too much about it. i just get to know people and we have a blast. connecting with others is always hard.
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Zuglo
| | Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 81 | |
| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:42:50 AM |
they don't know what they want until they turn 35 and panic. and then they date girls in their 20s.... and then they turn 40 and marry the first 30 something gal that comes walking through the bagel shop
OK, now where the heck is the nearest bagel shop??? | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:41:56 AM | darhma1 wrote:
Men are simple...Food, Sex, Home, Hobby, Sleep
and to be appreciated and accepted for their good and their bad and not nagged all the time. Woman need to take more responsibility for their happiness and create boundaries not fights.
I was told by an X, that men want Food, Sex and SILENCE 
so I replied that because I wasn't the "perfect woman" I could only do 2 out of the 3 and then I asked him which 2 do you prefer?  | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 9:24:00 AM | So?
I'm curious which 2 are you good at or which 2 did he want lol?? | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:00:26 AM | icychick,
Same thing here. I always wanted the right guy, that's why I am trying to get out of my rut, here.
I work 2 jobs and working on my own commercial cleaning business. I am quite busy. To figure this one out, I would say look at each individual guy.
I went to the POF dance. A guy approached me all drunk saying he did not want to be tied down, he wanted a short term fling. I escaped from him, later on met a guy who I think was a real gentlemen. I really like him. I'll just relax, see how things go. Hopefully, I can quit running myself into the ground workwise and meet a man who really cares about me. So, I think the dance helped to meet various guys with various desires. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:43:49 AM | LOL.... In my own opinion and guys you can back me up on this one!
They want the same thing women want! It really isn't that hard. Most women make themselves TO EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE to a man and that throws them off real quick! Be yourself and just take it one day at a time. Don't try to rush things just because on your end you might be feeling more then he does! Remember he has his own feelings to and trying to make him feel the same for you will just push him away! Of course he wants sex just like you do! Not all men out there are just looking for sex, there human and have sexual desire just like we do. Most men tend to think about sex a majority of the day as where women think about a damn hug and how emotionally connected that hug made you feel! Emotions are more important to women then they are to men. Actually there important to men, just not on the same level as a women.
This is good for a good guy not for a man that is emotionally unstable. They will not react to an independent, NON-NEEDY woman. The wrong men will be repelled at the site of a totally emotionally stable woman. Great repellent if you ask me!
Ok when a guy gets home from work the last thing he wants is for his girl to be all over him, or wont shut up about all kinds of needless things. If it is not an emergency and can wait, give him at least an hour when he gets home from work to relax and be by himself. Don't hound the poor guy. His brain does not work like ours and he is still thinking about all the crappy stuff that happened at work and trying to get it out of his head to he can relax. With you all over him or nagging him it does not help him unwind!
Make sure you make HIM MAKE TIME FOR HIM at least once a week. There just like we are. They need there ME TIME just the same! You seriously do not have to over do it when with a man. You don't have to try and impress him with all the things you can do like cooking or what ever. Just be you. Be honest, be a friend first and a lover second and everything else last! You will find it makes for a better relationship in the end. DO NOT SMOTHER THE POOR GUY! There is so much I could writer here about what women do wrong when trying to land that perfect man but it would be way to much and I am also writing a book on it. So hehe, enjoy yourselves.... Happy  | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:15:21 PM | | Frankly since I got divorced 10 years ago, hell if I know what they want anymore. Things have changed so much since I dated before I got married and divorced. Can't ever figure them out and probably never will. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:09:42 PM | OK first off, YOU HAVE TO FIND A REAL MAN! This is hard in this day and age.
You got your average garden variety, you got your complex/complicated variety, you got your immature I never wanna grow up variety, you got your Me Tarzan, You Jane, Variety....you have to decide what TYPE of man it IS you want to attract.
Then when you start to imagine the type of man in your mind....BECAUSE HAPPINESS IS ALL IN THE MIND!! It is a State of Mind....NO ONE can make you happy. Happiness comes from within...and then is REFLECTED without...
I CHOOSE to avoid people who are RUDE, SARCASTIC, SELFISH, IMMATURE, CONTROLLING, these people are miserable with the life THEY HAVE CHOSEN for themselves...DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY FIRST, and then you will be rewarded and attract what you want.
The reason is doesn't work out MAY NOT BE YOUR DOING/FAULT AT ALL. It just may be that your partner IS NOT READY.
So be patient and STAND VIGILENT WATCH, for SOMEONE WHO IS BOTH WORTHY AND DESERVING of your love.
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:20:58 PM | it doesnt work out because one of the ingedients isnt there...
the emotional, intellectual or physical...
one of them is possibly missing or not as strong as it should be..
but thats ok cause you wouldnt wanna settle for anything less...
you will know when you meet him.. you just will...
its magic... i waited 46 years... but it was worth the wait....
and i think it comes along (possibly) once in a lifetime... | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 5:59:16 PM | I had too much time on my hands, and to be honest I really wanted to know. I used the search feature on here and compiled this list of what men really want in a woman.
Seems its different strokes for different folks. The asterics reflect qualities referenced by more than one man.
ability to accept failure
ability to resolve problems/disagreements
able to be herself, not fake
able to make a commitment/share dreams/grow old together******
able to compromise
able to take the good with the bad
accepts me as I am/not try and change me/ handles imperfection****
adventurous
affectionate/hold hands/hugs/cuddles***
angel
animal lover**
appreciates loving gestures, likes to please and be pleased **
ass
best friends/wants to be with me, spend time with me, do things with me, enjoys my company, likes to go places with me *******
boobs
can accept criticism
can't wait to see me/always glad to see me
caring******
classy**
cleans
communication skills/does not expect me to read her mind ****
common sense/good head on her shoulders*****
companionship/loves to be with me*****
compassionate***
compatible
confidant
conversational skill *************
cooks***
courteous
decisive
demonstrative in showing their love with a look or a gesture
dependable
disciplined
does not talk a lot
down to earth
dresses well
educated
encourages me**
endearing
enjoys foreplay
equal partner
eyes******
face
faithfulness *********
family values/family oriented*******
feminine-acts and looks like a woman
financially stable
forgiving**
fun***
genuine
giving**
goals/knows what she wants from life and goes for it/ in control/sense of direction/drive *****
good disposition
good hearted
good taste
happy with her life/me**
healthy lifestyle/fit/nice body/takes care of herself *****
homemaker
honesty ***************
hot**
independent**
inquisitive
integrity**
intelligent*********************
joy for life
keeps her word/promises/does what she says she will do
kindhearted/kind***
kissing skill *****
knows her place
knows when to shut up and let it go
lady
laid back
legs ****
loving, able to love unconditionally, loves herself, loves me********
loyal******
monogamous
morals**
motivated
never talks back
nice*******
no hysterics /does not flip out when things dont go her way
non judgmental **
not possessive
non violent
not a ******
not materialistic / not a gold digger****
not selfish****
not vain
nurses me when I am sick
nurturing
openness/open minded ****
passionate**
patience
personality**
physical appearance/looks/physically attractive /pretty/beautiful********
pleasant**
political/socially on the same page
positive attitude****
respect (me, self and others)*****
responsible**
say what you mean/mean what you say
self confident /self assured ****
self control
selflessness/puts others needs before themselves
sense of humor/knows how to laugh *************
sensitivity
sensual
sexual, enjoys sex, uninhibited, great lover, high libido, sexually aggressive *****************
sexy
shares common interests **
sincere**
smile****
slut/tramp**
spontaneous**
submissive
supportive**
sweet*
takes care of herself physically/good shape**
tender
thoughtful
true to yourself***
trusting/trustworthy*********
thruthful
understanding***
warm
wildness
willingness to try new things at least once
wit****** | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:11:21 PM | The top votes went to the following:
1. intelligence -18 votes
2. enjoys sex 17
3. honesty 15
4. sense of humor 13
conversational skill 13
5. faithfulness 9
trustworthy 9
6. family values 8
loving 8
7. best friend 7
nice
not a b1tch
8. ability to commit 6
caring 6
loyal 6
wit 6 | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:17:15 PM |
Men are simple...Food, Sex, Home, Hobby, Sleep
and to be appreciated and accepted for their good and their bad and not nagged all the time. Woman need to take more responsibility for their happiness and create boundaries not fights.
I wish I figured this out years ago...with age comes wisdom.
Will you marry me?..... | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:19:48 PM | | The following is what men really want. Anyone interested in Yank tix which come with the Audi club. These are field level close to the field. The Yanks gave me some extra instead of giving me back money and I will sell them cheap. Thanks Lance Wallach I have a few games left in sets of two. | |
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Romny
| | Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 93 | |
| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 6:40:42 PM | Men want the following:
A lady in the streets who is a freak in bed.
Well, that's what Ludacris says. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:48:29 PM | Men are looking for different things and their priorities can change over time. To throw out such a general question will result in a bunch of descriptions of what individual guys want. You're asking entirely the wrong question.
How about this. Men want a woman that's genuine and comfortable with her life and who she is.
Get comfortable with who you are. Get to the point where you look in the mirror and like what you see.
The find the guy who like what he sees when he sees you. If you try to adapt to become something that you think men want, you will never be happy with who you are. If you cannot be happy with who you are, then you won't make him happy either. | |
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marnig
| | Joined: 5/13/2009
Msg: 95 | |
| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 8:45:39 PM | | I agree with you. There is not a secret pill. It is our job to find someone who respects you. BUT WHERE??????? | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/17/2009 11:46:33 PM | | what do men really want? how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie roll pop? to be or not to be? What is life? is there life after death? Why am I here? hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:28:46 PM | I didn't read any responses..but here's mine..
they want a women who (to be totally ridiculous and quote a song)
Is a lady in the street and a freak in the bed
I'm thinking we get bonus points, if we cook and understand that they need time alone to be gross disgusting greasy car fixing men.
ohhh.. and we have to let em have beer and football.. beer and football are essential..
ha.. how'd I do?? lol | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 5/19/2009 7:35:59 PM | I am not even going to respond. Why is it that women who make threads like this where they supposedly want to get malke opinions both A. Don't actually read what the men have to write and B. Don't pay any attention to the women who are in happy loving relationships?
It seems like the jaded will only pay any mind to the jaded. | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 6/1/2009 8:34:39 AM | Well if I were just making up a list to apply to most men, I would think it would be something like...
- female companionship without deep complications when you are just getting to know someone.
- just dating with the option for more later. It seems many women want to long term commitments and will worry about getting to actually know the guy later.
- good sex
- fun!
- not becoming a woman's project to be changed and molded into the guy she is looking for.
- Peace and quite.
- not being expected to answer for every bad thing a male has ever done to a woman previously,
- to feel wanted (not to be confused with needed). | |
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| What do men really want?
Posted: 6/1/2009 9:01:05 AM | I would like to know also...I just do not understand...Choices and free market systems? Always buying women and not looking for equality of brain tissue or the intelligence level of a woman?  | |
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