what's so great about being male anyway?

your job to be a Man" seriously, i'm sick and tired of all of these crap as to how a "Man" is supposed to be, as to "Real Men do this, Real Men do that, seriously, it pisses me off a lot, seriously, it just makes me want to berserk at times. It gets really annoying. I choose to rebel against' socities', life's gender roles, social-norms, etc.

Because if we took the initiative, the balls would be between our legs and not yours! And then, why would we want a man without balls? It's your job to be a man.

yeah but he can't wait for a woman to initiate because 90 percent of women will never initiate anything,

Thus type of attitude can backfire on a woman. If a woman never or rarely initiates contact, a man may think a woman isn't that interested and will move on

Also a woman that is passive may lose out on a potential match to an more aggressive woman that was willing the make the first move.

Omg….no, not that! (EYEROLL)

If a man is really interested in me, he’ll have the guts to pursue me or he isn’t the man I want.

This is such skewed thinking. I don’t compete with any woman. If a man wants someone else, have at her. I have never and will never fight another woman for a man. That is the depth of stupidity. I’d suggest we both dump him and go shoe shopping.

You are missing the point. Suppose you see an attractive man somewhere. Yet you don't approach him because you feel a man must always initiate contact. Perhaps he didn't notice you. But he would have been interested if you had approached him. 15 minutes later, an more aggressive woman approaches him and they hit it off.

It has nothing to do with lacking guts. Perhaps a man simply wants some balance in the relationship instead of expecting one person to do most or all or work in this topic..

Suppose you see an attractive man somewhere. Yet you don't approach him because you feel a man must always initiate contact. Perhaps he didn't notice you. But he would have been interested if you had approached him. 15 minutes later, an more aggressive woman approaches him and they hit it off.

I don’t approach strange men, but I think I know how to get a man’s attention if I really want to. ; ) Honestly if he’s happier with a more aggressive woman that’s cool with me. Just because a man is good looking doesn’t mean he’s right for me, and I don’t go after men like that. I don’t think of every attractive man as a missed opportunity.

Maybe you’re putting too much pressure on yourself .

Why does the guy always have to initiate the date and relationship? or at least most of the time?

I think it has something to do with having guts, or what's the problem? Just lazy, can't be bothered?
Trust me, a man needs guts to approach me. And when he does, I appreciate it. : ) If a woman doesn't appreciate your effort, she is NOT interested. Some guys apparently can't tell when there's nothing there FOR HER. If it feels like work, probably you’re doing something wrong

I don’t approach strange men, but I think I know how to get a man’s attention if I really want to. ; ) Honestly if he’s happier with a more aggressive woman that’s cool with me. Just because a man is good looking doesn’t mean he’s right for me, and I don’t go after men like that. I don’t think of every attractive man as a missed opportunity.

Suppose a man approaches a woman and asks her out a date. The date goes well. Why can't the woman call or text him first after the date to say she had a good time? Why can't she ask him out on the second date? There's nothing that prohibits a woman from doing these things.

Of course an attractive man may not be right for a woman. But she wouldn't know that sure if she doesn't approach him because she feels men should always initiate contact.

Want to watch X-Files and get a pizza one day?

You’re talking about two different things, here. Initiating contact is very different from having already had a successful date. There could be miles between these two events.

I DO know that a man isn’t right for me if he requires me to initiate contact. Look…there are messages a woman can send to a man to show him that she’s interested. I’m sure some people would say that’s game playing, but tough shit. There’s nothing wrong with a woman sending subtle messages to a man….then they both know they’re on the same page without any potentially embarrassing encounters that will result in months of nightmares for both of them.

This can get a little bit tricky. Some women can give out clear signs that they are interested ( or not interested ). While others give out hints that are so vague it would take a professional mind reader to figure out what she means

I have pretty much gotten to the point of regarding anything that appear to be 'subtle signals' as no more than wishful thinking on my part.

The fact that they are subtle means they are open to interpretation.

I don't remember ever being 'humiliated' after approaching a woman, but I have approached women who just weren't interested despite having appeared to be sending 'subtle signals', and the resulting confusion was just a bit embarrassing.

In my experience, responding to what I thought were subtle signals has been embarrassing more often than not. …. but it sure was embarrassing to me.

What universe do you inhabit?

Why can't men and women be more upfront with each other and everyone just respectfully approach whomever interests them