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carolann0308

Joined: 12/9/2006
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A vignette of contempt Posted: 4/2/2009 5:52:31 PM
Yet another drive-by poster or creative writing major enters our midst.

RenaissanceMan1950

Joined: 2/20/2009
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A vignette of contempt Posted: 4/2/2009 6:14:30 PM
Renaisanceman, it is not a "mood shift" or any other esoteric psychological issue but name confusion whereby I was thinking of what you previously stated while responding to the other poster resulting in my mistakenly placing your name on the post rather than the poster for which it was intended. Once again sorry for the confusion OP, while I rarely "get along" with the posters you referenced, I didn't see any "anger" or "ranting" in their responses to you. So, let me say as gently as possible, that it's common for someone, who has been involved with someone with a personality disorder, to have a lot of issues to deal with in the aftermath. You won't "work them out" in a thread on POF. There are "support groups", and it wouldn't be a bad idea for you to work through some of the residual issues with a therapist. The "posters" you have responded to harshly DID NOT cause your pain, and they can't fix it. It seems to me that, until you can work through some things, you have an emotional block, that is going to continue to prolong your pain. In any case, I wish you well.

nexthyme

Joined: 9/12/2007
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A vignette of contempt Posted: 4/2/2009 7:11:27 PM
No problem comfort... I have no hyper defense, but will stand my ground when someone makes one statement that evolves into something else... May your life be filled with happiness and joy....

comfort123

Joined: 3/29/2009
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A vignette of contempt Posted: 4/2/2009 9:04:55 PM
Renaisanceman, when I posted my experience with my former girlfriend it was merely to present an experience which I thought would be of interest to other men and women on this board who may be able to benefit from my experience. No more, no less. I never expected feedback from several posters of the sort I received that quite frankly had absolutely no relationship to what I experiencing based on the information I presented. What was occuring was that these individuals were reading into my post that which did not exist! Although I respect your perceptions RenaisanceMan I disagree with your feedback as to some of these posters' not projecting their anger or personal issues onto my situation because a review of their posts will clearly reveal this to be the case. I have perceived similar responses to other posters on other threads and quite frankly it is unhelpful and possibly deleterious due to making some posters feel worse about themselves and their situations. So while I absolutely agree that none of the posters I responded to "...did not cause your (my) pain" and that "...they can't fix it" BUT Renaissanceman I never had the pain that you are alluding to, did not hold anyone on this board responsible for anything and never gave any thought for them to fix anything ! And this is the problem in cyberspace when posters do not ask for clarification to correct or corroborate their impressions and instead merely project onto an anonymous poster all sorts of scenarios that in reality do not exist as well as offering advice, that regardless of their intentions, is totally disconnected from the facts. So what you perceived in several of my responses was annoyance at several poster's inability to recognize that they were actually talking about themselves and their unresolved pain and issues that had no bearing on mine. Thanks again for your response.

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