| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/20/2009 1:03:58 PM | though i didnt read through all the pages i read through some, an i wrote a thread yesterday asking the the question of men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.. so i can defiantly see where your coming from with this question,, alot of the responses i got came from men who are in thier 40's an 50's that have thier age preferances set to ages 18-35 maybe 37 or 40..
some answers differant some the same basically about looks an youth an arm candy an not feeling thier age so they wanted somebody who can keep up with thier youthful spirit or being with somebody who can bare some children..or saying that the women thier age where too old for them an didnt look good.dont like sex anymore dont like to take risk. the list goes on an on..all sounds like a midlife crises thing an refusing to grow up or belive that thier no longer 21.. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/20/2009 1:24:02 PM | You know it's funny...I posted a thread about being in my 50's with 2 young custodial children....and I was told...among other things...that I should look to women who had younger children...I found that funny cause I don't want to date anyone who could be young enough to be a daughter....(my oldest being 28)...
So I've seen some posters grousing about men who only look down the age ladder....and I've seen profiles of women who are only looking down the age ladder...and NO...I won't supply the proof...do your own research...
But, I wonder this....for all you late 30 yo's and early 40 yo's who are being touted as immature by some poster's....is your perception of 50 yo's as being old farts? Cougars?
Or are we, at this stage in the game, allowed to think and feel as we may about who we'd like to date/have a relationship with...or must we bow to the views of "others?" | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/20/2009 2:31:44 PM |
...some of the perviest messages that I've received have been from men over 50.
i have to agree with buckeyegal. they are also more crude than their younger counterparts when you turn them down...
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/20/2009 5:02:50 PM |
I know a great 46 year old woman ~ she is perfect in every way ~ her name is Sunny!
Witt , charm , grace, hard to fluster, dances like a dream, a Princess Di , a diamond in the rough ~ and I know there's more! ~ but they are getting harder to find.
awwwww how sweet ! I suppose you only know one by the name of Sunny,,,, Well I will tell you this, I'm not perfect in every way...it takes one helluva man to accept me the way I am. You dear, Dance are such a sweet prince !
But I am 47 these days....
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/21/2009 9:02:32 AM | ~~
Since when~~ did William Shatner~~ join
~POF?
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~ One person's experience does not a whole gender/generation make.~
There are wonderful PEOPLE at every age. I don't think we can go around slamming genders just because some have come across a few idiots. There are nice rewards and lovely little secrets to be discovered in people of all ages. It's your loss if you decide to judge an entire age bracket on a few losers you have come across.
It's like the men/women who, because they were married to frigid/cheating/*insert horrible adjective here*people at a certain age, then they turn around and shout at every man/woman of that age "BXTCH!! AXSHOLE!! My ex-husband-wife-live-in-lover was exactly like you at that age and they are all harpies! (Unless you happen to agree with & like me -then you must be super awesome!!)"
Now, excuse me while I go stare at my cat with bitter envy over her slim and supple body.
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/21/2009 7:29:21 PM | | I cannot answer for some of the lesser -enlightened men in their forties, but I can assure you that there are an equal number of men in their forties that desire the maturity of self and world experience that forties women possess. I am but one of them. I see that you are a Cancer and 45 now - me, too. I wouldn't consider wasting my time with anyone that wasn't at least 40. Just seems to be the magical age that separates the women from the girls. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 7:19:55 AM | I noticed that many women in their profiles limit the potential partner's age from a little bit younger than her to much older. In my opinion, it is stupid. I knew a 20 year old gorgeous mature guy who commited himself to a long-term relationship with a girl 6 1/2 years older than him. He could have had many young beautiful girls, but because he was mature, he decided that he met the right girl. She was very special, even though I did not consider her pretty. Being mature at that very young age, he was not really after gorgeous girls, but a girl who he would enjoy life with for a long time. He did not rush into sex. It shows a great deal of maturity. He is the type of men that many women are after.
And there are many older men 40 and over who still are not mature and never will be.
So, my advise to women, do not look for men only in certain group age - try every man who sounds "normal" and you might be surprised. I saw on TV one woman who dated 150 men across USA. She wrote a book about it. She wanted to find Mr.Right for herself and traveled within USA to find The One. She ended up marrying one of them, but at first she was not sure about the guy and continued dating. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 7:51:03 AM | It's funny...now that i'm in my 50's...women that are in their 40's are the new young hotties to me...
Seriously, when one is in their 40's, 50's, and 60's how much more mature can you get? Any more mature and alzheimers set's in. And how close to one's age is close enough? (shrug)...As it turns out these things are indivual choices, seeming to be up for debate, but, for the indivual not really.
I've had a relationship with a woman who was 9 years older...and married my wife who was 13 years younger...So what?...But, I'll never dive into the 30's or 20's pool...first...I've no interest....second...I've no interest! | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 2:48:42 PM | "...first...I've no interest....second...I've no interest! "
Wow Irish Is that compounded non interest or has perhaps the alzheimers set it Sorry I couldnt resist..lol
You've got a point there though it is all a matter of choice. It can be debated until the 20 and 30 year olds turn into the 40 and 50 year olds and it will still be a personal choice. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 4:02:40 PM | You appear to be confused scattezoom, nowhere is any woman in this thread complaining about not getting any attention.
I think it's a safe bet to say that just about all women, regardless of age, get plenty of attention. There was no point in your post other than to attempt to rile up some feathers. I hope other female posters don't fall for the bait, as this was never intended to be a gender bashing thread, and I think the majority of those who posted realize that. I do appreciate those who have contributed their thoughts and comments in the spirit it was intended.
By all means though, continue to go offtopic in this thread if it pleases you. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 7:19:01 PM | ^^^^^
You seem to be doing that much better than I ever could...so I won't stand in the way of a professional.
Having said that....I'd have to disagree that women,regardless of age "get attention."
I've seen women go waaaayyyy out of their way to get noticed....and i've heard from women that noticed about the time in their lives when male attention decreased significantly.
Personally,prefer a woman around my age or older.
We have more in common and more to talk about...
But if men around my age don't see things the same way....then either the people who are seeking their interest should adapt to the market...or they should look at other markets for their..."wares." | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/22/2009 7:56:37 PM |
Wow Irish Is that compounded non interest or has perhaps the alzheimers set it Sorry I couldnt resist..lol No.... it was simple non-interest...trying to dive into the 20's and 30's pool would be a waste of my time...and seem creepy, to me, in that ....I have no dirty old bystard syndrome...
having grown-up twice ...alzheimers will have to wait for awhile to set in...though some might debate that.. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/23/2009 10:35:23 PM | I have to say for myself. I want someone in their 40’s or older. I find they carry a confidence within themselves that follows them right in to this big world. The strength to tackle almost anything. The ones they shouldn't. The wisdom to know the different. They know who and what they are. Accepting both the good and bad qualities that embody them. Not to say they like everything about themselves, but accept them. Most of the game playing has been played out of them or on them. All of this comes with time (age). Do some young women have this trait? Yes! Can older women compete with the looks of 20 somethings? No! They weren't meant to. The three main words here are confidence, strength and wisdom.
For me, I'll take these traits anytime over younger women. I don't want to explain that Paul
McCarthy was in a band before Wings. When I talk about us landing on the moon, it's life to me. For them it's a history lesson!javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/24/2009 7:03:02 AM | I would love to meet and date someone close to my age. BUT seems alot will base thier decision on looks. And even if the guy is a great guy, she will go digging for something to shoot him down for. I think women when they are in thier 30's are wanting to settle down and be with someone steady. When they are in thier 40's they are then realizing they are no longer 20 something. BUT also realize that these days men younger like them. So when a guy in his 40's approaches, contacts them etc. Well they ladies will rip the guy apart looking at him to start. Then if he has baggage (meaning ex-wife, kids) then she complains about that. Yet these same women forget they themselves have the same baggage. BUT it is acceptable for them not us men.
Or if she meets a great guy who has never been married and has no kids, she criticizes him with assumptions of "Oh he is 40 and does not want to settle down" "He probably wants kids, I have already had mine"
Assumptions...why not communicate and talk about these things? Ahh yes the old mind readers. My bad.
So when women say that men thier age, 40+, are not interested in them..think again. Just do not assume things all the time. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:46:54 PM | | Men and women of the same age are attracted, they always have been and they always will be...There are a few who slip threw the cracks, one has no money or has gained alot of weight....it's just what it is. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/28/2009 6:27:48 AM | | I just returned from another great trip where I hooked up with a nice looking female physician in her late thirties. We were mutually attracted to one another from the get go and had a great time together. A woman in her late 40's wanted to spend time with me and started a cleavage war with the woman in her thirties. Although the late 40's woman had a nicer rack I stuck with the younger one who was prettier over all. I also met a nice lady the same age as me. She was bright and we chatted some but I felt she was old enough to be my mother. Obviously I felt no sexual chemistry for her. Thank God I did not have to since I had my hands full, so to speak, with the other two. Life is great! | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:28:50 PM | You know, if I got stuck on a boat with a bunch of big-titted women having a "cleavage war" over a guy who was nearly 70...I'd ask for a refund, jump overboard and take my chance with some pirates...
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:35:37 PM | ^^^^^
Arrrrr Friendly! Have ya ever bin to sea my matey??? Ever seen a one eyed whale? Sorry, I simply couldn't help myself....
Hey? What pray tell is a "cleavage war"? Don't think I have ever seen one meself, nor do I think would I wanna!
OT: As in anything, there are those who will go much younger and those who won't. I simply play it by ear. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/28/2009 12:46:15 PM |
Gaddflye said:
I also met a nice lady the same age as me. She was bright and we chatted some but I felt she was old enough to be my mother.
 what??? ok you was the same age but you felt she old enough to be your mother??
WTF hey news flash you 2 are the same age.. | |
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| Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's?
Posted: 4/28/2009 3:17:21 PM | | AARRRRRRR Ladies I guess that high seas pirate had a bit too much grog( made him think he was much younger than in real life) and was lookin' to have him some booty ( ain't it great that the old term and the new slang both fit here..lol). But the Boobies ( and I dont mean the birds..lol) got in his way. Its a wonder he didnt go overboard in his perilous journey. On second thought maybe he did | |
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