| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/8/2009 6:28:43 PM | Thats an interesting question. If I go out on one date...I am not going to become exclusive right off the bat...if after the date we make plans for another and it goes well, we communicate thru the week and I get the feeling you are very interested in me then I will focus my dateing life on just you because I would like to devote my time to the beginnings of our relationship.
If after our first date you don't mention another...then I may make one with someone else..simply because I feel to sit and wait for a call, even tho I am hoping for one would be a little premature. We have yet to establish a relationship. | |
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| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/8/2009 7:08:04 PM | What ever you want to think of me is your business. I am not angry. I also dont find it amusing to bash others to gain some sort of excitement. However in my own defense I will comment on things that bother me and it is my right to speak my opinion as is anyone elses right. That does not make me an ANGRY PERSON nor a VICTIM. Lets just get that straight right now.
I accidentally doubled posted. Not purposeful...My mistake. I can admit to those.
I was not using using caps because I was angry. I don't see well and it makes it a little easier to read. LOL Your assumption was wrong. You know what they say about assuming Humm?
You leaving that as a joke or not just seems rather sloppy and crude.
I actually put looking for "friends" on my profile today as I had changed my profile to better suit my needs. It was not because I am looking for a hook up. I too have my reasons for what I listed in my profile. I am honest and very moralistic. If you read my profile I am very in depth about what I am looking for and not looking for so I don't leave anyone wondering about who I am as a woman. Rather I let them know ahead of time so they have the choice to contact me or not.
I am not a victim, yours or anyone else's.. I didn't fall into your trap or anyone's trap as I am not a animal. I just simply was looking out for a friend and the reality is that you are just looking for something to occupy your empty mind. It seems as you are the angry one. It seems as though you enjoy slandering and shooting remarks at others to fault them for their actions but have no resposiblity for your own pittiful actions.
I bet you could date many and would date off here if the opportunity was to arise. i bet your childish behavior limits you to the quantity of quality woman that are here looking for a real man...Not an obsessive childish boy.
Maybe put a picture of yourself with clothes and use your charm and you intelligence to attract and woo a woman. If you dont date off here, why are you on a dating site? LOL Humm that makes no sense...What so ever!  there is  for you. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 7:14:35 PM | Actually I have been cheated on and I am letting the people know that if they do i am not worried about the sitution as I am in no fear of the choices I make... As I said before in the other thread...I amnot an angry person..LOL It should have been prooven in this so called section that you are trying to use against me. You can put what ever you want up here. I am a beautiful, intelligent woman and I have a lot ot offer. No need to scream for attention I have all of it I want.. I have the choice to make as I have several people intersted in me. DO YOU? I can be selctive this way. Since I am not dating anyone exclusively at this time and dont date more than one man at a time I suppose there is nothing about this that screams for any attention. I just know what I want and dont want.. So WTF lol, get over yourself.. You seriously must not have any life if you have time to disect profile after profile on a daily basis.....No wonder you dont date. To busy being up in everyone elses business to get a real life. LMAO
You have to seriously be one of the most ignorant people I have ever met. and boring. | |
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| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/8/2009 7:19:04 PM |
I am a beautiful, intelligent woman and I have a lot ot offer. No need to scream for attention I have all of it I want.. I have the choice to make as I have several people intersted in me. DO YOU? I can be selctive this way. Since I am not dating anyone exclusively at this time and dont date more than one man at a time I suppose there is nothing about this that screams for any attention. You have to seriously be one of the most ignorant people I have ever met
teralee65, could you kindly just email whoever you're talking to or at LEAST include a quote from the post you're responding to? This style of yours is not only annoying but it makes you look about three short of a six pack. Just hitting post reply doesn't tell any of the rest of us who the hell you're talking to and multi posts as you have at 'em are pretty newb.
Great to hear that you have several people interested in you. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 7:25:13 PM | | Well, It might have been a little off of the main subject but I know that it was not all that I said with in the content of that comment. I was also making a point as to something someone else had said... In reference to the dating one persona at a time forum. So, appologize if I were a little sidewinded... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 7:38:58 PM | Masterofmindz : The Power to serve He has disected my profile and brought this here not me.
I simply made a comment on another persons profile and he didnt like what i had to say....
i am new here and I appologize that a simple comment I left has turned into such a kaotic fiasco.
I dont like to argue, I simply wanted to make an opinion...U understand??? Thanks and sorry for the irritation.... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 7:40:27 PM | teralee65, could you kindly just email whoever you're talking to or at LEAST include a quote from the post you're responding to? This style of yours is not only annoying but it makes you look about three short of a six pack. Just hitting post reply doesn't tell any of the rest of us who the hell you're talking to and multi posts as you have at 'em are pretty newb.
In response....Sorry... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 10:17:13 PM | I'm in the date one at a time camp as well. I'd rather see how things progress or not with one person at a time myself. That's not to say I'm thinking of it as a ltr or committed relationship, obviously that takes some time, but that I like to see how things evolve without throwing multiple other people into the mix. I'm assuming we're talking about actual dating here and not the first couple of meetings.
As long as the people involved communicate their dating philosphies and are honest about it, there shouldn't be a problem.
I don't feel that either dating philosophy is wrong or right, it depends on the individual. I'm not getting why some say that those who date one at a time are desperate and wanting to jump into a relationship blindly. Sure, there are some people who do that, but I don't imagine that the majority feel it's an instant committed relationship just because they prefer to see where things will go, whether there is potential or not with, one person at a time. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2009 10:28:33 PM |
I'm not getting why some say that those who date one at a time are desperate and wanting to jump into a relationship blindly.
Yeah ~ that's so bizarre to me. I personally don't date much at all. The reason? I know what I want and what I will/won't be interested in. If I happen to meet ONE man that appears to possess the qualities I'm interested in doesn't mean I'm desperate, it means I'm SO NOT desperate that I can make myself unavailable to anyone else in order to see what may or may not happen with someone I perceive as: a great guy or even the right guy for me. I'm not losing a thing by dating only one man. It really is a to each their own. I've done it both ways and I'm still single ~ apparently neither way has worked for me.  | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 3:44:44 AM | I date one at a time and won't date someone who dates multiple women at the same time. Why waste my time when I am only one of a number. I prefer to spend time with someone to see if we are compatible, which does not take long. I think if someone is the type to date multiple people at the same time, they should be up front about it when contacting you so you can choose whether or not to continue communicating with them. I have not met men because this is something I will ask him before deciding to meet if he does not tell me without my asking. I won't share a man. Any man I date will have my full attention and I expect to have his. If I don't, there is no point in continuing with him.
Focusing on one at a time helps build trust, whereas multiple dating and the game playing that goes along with it does the opposite. I have been told my some men that they have to date many to find the one who is right for them, but that is a bunch of BS. If someone is right for you, you will know it even if the are the only one you have met.
I think those who multiple date want quantity verus quality and are afraid of a commitment. I prefer quality and someone who is not afraid of a commitment if things should work out. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 7:08:02 AM | | I don't serial date...never have, never will. I feel that if I have met someone whether here on POF or offline that I am interested enough to want to see socially, then I am going to give that lady my undivided attention. I have been contacted by women who were obviously serial daters, in fact, a while back when I was a member of a paid service (no need to mention which one), one of these female serial daters e-mailed me her phone number. When I called, the first thing that she said to me was "Now, which one are you again?" My response was "The guy that's not wasting his time on you" and hung up. | |
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| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/9/2009 7:12:49 AM | | I find that it's a lot easier to pay attention to someone if you only date one person at a time, even if you're not in a relationship. I want to give anyone I go out with a fair chance! | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 7:25:32 AM | Focusing on one at a time helps build trust, whereas multiple dating and the game playing that goes along with it does the opposite. I have been told my some men that they have to date many to find the one who is right for I think those who multiple date want quantity verus quality and are afraid of a commitment. I prefer quality and someone who is not afraid of a commitment if things should work out.
Please don't generalize. Dating multiple people does NOT always mean that a person is playing games or is afraid of committment. Going out on 1-2 dates with someone does not equal an exclusive relationship. As I stated before, suppose I had went out with a woman a few times. The dates went very well and I became very interested in her. At that point, I would only date her. | |
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| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/9/2009 7:38:53 AM | Greetings:
This discussion / question is like comparing a cylinder choke shotgun to a sniper rifle: with the shotgun you count on the scatter of the ammo to hit the target while you use minimal aim unlike the sniper rifle which requires you to be extremely focused to hit your intended target.
The beauty of a site like PoF, and specifically the forum side, is it allows the user to employ either choice: focused or scatter shot. I like the way PoF incorporates the forum / chat room concept into its dating site. For those making use of the forums (or for those just lurking) one can scope out the field, in a manner of speaking, and sift through a lot of "noise" to find a "target" they would like to focus on. That is the attraction of a site like PoF for me: profiles and, particularly, forum posts allow me to create a more complete image in my mind of the folk who are open for meeting another. In fact, I find it hard to imagine reaching out to someone who hasn't had an extensive history posting in the forums: in my mind the initial first contact is the person I meet, anonymously and regularly, through the forums. If profile and posts concur and the woman is attractive (in mind, body, and spirit) I would reach out to her. Of course this goes both ways and she has the same options for screening me.
On the other hand, the thousands of forum-less profiles on this site allow a PoF dater to employ a shotgun approach: selecting and dating multiple people, concurrently or serially, to find Mr. or Ms. Right. Or not, some folk just want the excitement of something new, I suppose.
In actuality, PoF just effectively mimics real life. In my long forgotten past I was more of the sniper rifle person: I was able to know women individually as friends and acquaintances, was able to know the woman in intimate (not sexual) ways before ever allowing the distraction of "dating" to cloud who she was or who I was (am?). I met these women where I worshipped, where I received an education, where I worked, and where I played.
Blessings, and Easter Joy to all,
TK | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 9:01:43 AM | | I do the one at a time dating. When I meet someone who captures my attention I dedicate my time to them to see where it goes. I don't think it is fair for a guy to be number. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 9:04:16 AM | MASTEROFMINDZ
Posted By: specializedstumpjumper on 4/9/2009 8 14 AM
Subject: Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Message: ?Actually I have been cheated on and I am letting the people know that if they do i am not worried about the sitution as I am in no fear of the choices I make
? You seriously must not have any life if you have time to disect profile after profile on a daily basis.....No wonder you dont date. To busy being up in everyone elses business to get a real life. LMAO
Nobody ever cheated on me, I guess I at least attract decent people. I don't need to feed my ego like you do.
As I remember correctly you're the one that dig into my profile first so I guess you're admitting not having a life? Funny a person who thinks they have a life posting daily in the forums. I suggest you think a few minutes before you post. Are you drunk, high or on medication?
I choose not to date I am not looking yet I still attract women. Just plain fact no need to feed my ego to make myself feel special or better than you. You know men can see all your posts, you will look bad. For me it is not going to hurt me any since I am here for the forums. News for you plenty of people are on here for the forums only. Plenty of married people or people with bf/gf. Perhaps you should ask them why they on here also. Well at least you aren't screaming at me now. Just plain rude to use all capital letter when typing. In most chat sites you would be kicked off the server.
*chuckles*
Just food for thought
Hey, I never was yelling at you. I never was angry..Your preception...My first day to post and my last...after today on this thread.. Like I said, I dont have time as I do have a life. This just serves as my have a nice day and best of wishes as i dont have time to be caught up in the drama when all i was simply doing was voicing my opinion on "dating one at a time" which I participate. Anyways....Drama free here, i just appreciate myself and am honest about me and what I like and dont like in a man..Date one, if it works fine..If it doesnt fine. that was all I was getting at. I dont let my heart out on my sleeve....Anyways you dont give a crap what I think or feel anyways so I wont waste my time or yours. Thank you for your comments...You have a nice day.. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 1:40:53 PM | | Back when I was computer dating (in the days of FORTRAN, COBALT and BASIC)(who said I couldn't speak more than one language?!) I would contact as many people as my 48K Wang computer could manage, juggle both of the responses until I could sort the wheat from the chaff, and then take her bowling. (Wheat or chaff - I'm not saying.) We NEVER went bowling with more than one person at a time. It just wasn't done that way. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2009 1:50:43 PM | Quite a few times I had emailed people on here, only to get the response, "Sorry, but I just started talking to someone or I'm seeing someone seriously now"
But, they still sign into the website on a daily basis. Go Figure  | |
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| Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 4/9/2009 2:15:50 PM | dating and sleeping with...
Dating: I think meeting people and friending them is cool... the hope is to meet someone and end up not wanting to be with anyone else.. but no restrictions, always open
Sleeping with: one at a time definitely. Too many risks. to much scary stuff.. again though always honest.
Personally though, I find it hard to even date more than one person at a time... whether or not I am interested... my schedule doesn't allow a lot of free time..
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