| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:41:35 AM |
I have extensive experience and feel its not just about the man being a good lover, but you being great lovers together. For the best mindblowing experiences, as much as I hate to admit it, feelings were involved in some way. A true affection for my partner, and it translated sexually. Not love, sometimes that dampens the sexual vibe...
So I would say in my lifetime, only a handful were mindblowing absolutely can't get enough great sex partners.
+1 on that!
I will say that except for a few bad/awkward experiences, that sex has always been good. Really, really good is another story though.
I've been with guys who thought we had great sex, and we did, but there's whole 'nother level they were unaware of. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:04:32 AM | Rather than offer yet another opinion on how rare, I'll include what I think is a check list that I would consider the price of entry to be a cadidate for ``good'':
(1) Do you need lighting to find body parts?
(2) Are you totally uninhibited?
(3) Do you do those things your partner likes?
(4) Because your partner likes it or because it turns you on?
(5) Is sex with your partner a predictable exercise, i.e., do you do more or less the same things?
(6) In the same order?
(7) Everytime?
(8) Because you like so few things that variety isn't possible?
(9) Do you avoid positions your partner likes because it's too much effort for you?
(10) Do you try to figure out new ways to surprise your partner in bed?
(11) Do you take the initiative?
(12) By asking first or just going for it?
(13) Are you turned on by your partner through ALL of your senses?
(14) Does your partner have to plan finishing around you or be SOL?
(15) Does your partner's use of toys intimidate you?
(16) To the extent you would not want to add your partner's toys to your repertoire for variety?
(17) Do you have to go wash up when you're done because all that messiness bothers you?
(18) Are you so totally into your partner, focussed and intense that you are aware of virtually nothing else?
If a person is not the limiting factor in ANY of the above with respect to what would be considered ``vanilla sex,'' (intercourse, oral sex, foreplay, afterplay) that person stands a chance of being a good lover. If that list isn't rather automatic as common sense, chances are you're not. I've not found many who qualify (and porn style sex certainly doesn't qualify in and of itself). | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:52:00 AM |
How rare is that one lover that is just like no other?
Come on. You've answered you own question.
If the lover that is just like no other were common, then he wouldn't just be like no other, now would he?
Sheesh! | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/14/2009 12:18:48 PM | | depends on what works for you. i have been called superb many times but i know it`s based on the womans attitude and what inspiration she offers. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:59:18 AM | | I have to disagree with some things written in here about it taing two. A good lover is a man who first off loves women, loves to pleasure them intensly and from this derives pleasure himself. A good male lover is a man who is sensual, erotic, mysterious, one who can make his partner feel like she is the only one alive in the world at that moment. A good male lover will exude confidence, passion and intensity. This as well as other attributes will bring that side of the women out that se has held back in the past with other lovers. A good male over is one that WANTS to be and is willing to work at being so. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:01:46 AM | Yes, good male lovers are rare. In fact I have discussed this with my current lover.
He is one of the rare ones. There has only been one before him equally as good at reading and sensing my body language and the subtle changes. We have also come to the conclusion that although a man can read many books and attempt to practice what he has read, there really is no way to "teach" or "show" a man exactly what to do that would make him an excellent lover. Just as professional wine tasters have taste buds that can pick out the subtlest of the notes of the flavors in the wine, some men come with a built in natural ability to be able to use everything, their tongue, lips, hands, fingers,****to sense and pick up on the signals the woman's body is sending. Not only can they sense the changes but they know how to change what they are doing to produce results. My lover often knows that I am about to have a g spot orgasm about 5 seconds sooner than I even do...due to what he is feeling and picking up from my body. | |
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| How rare are really good Lovers?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:18:19 AM |
He tells me that many women told him that "nobody else makes them feel like him". I know that he has slept with many experienced women, some that sampled hundreds and more man, and this women tell him that nobody made them feel the way he did. Has he just been lucky and all those women had bad luck before? This is what guys say when they're horrible lovers. Good lovers don't need to brag about it.
its not just about the man being a good lover, but you being great lovers together I agree | |
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