| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 1:35:36 AM |
Hi as a man i would say he got cold feet and now hates himself, but i would say like you did, his loss
I hope he does hate himself big jerk!~ | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:38:59 AM | Not enough information.
Did you exchange cells numbers? Is he able to contact you?
I have been know to chat with someone just a few hours away from the date and then she didn't show up and the phone went into voice mail, the entire evening.
I also had my car breakdown and I didn't have the woman's cell (she wouldn't give it to me).
If I'm not from that town, I've been know to get lost (even with a Tom Tom, woman gave me the wrong address) .
At the end of the day, yeah, it sucks. Just for the matter that they wasted your time. But, it's not you | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 4:45:17 AM | I feel for you. Happened to me before. What was interesting was when I was emailing back and forth with her (didn't want to mention meeting right away, but I would have...but she beat me to it. lol) She brought up the idea of meeting, I'm implying she asked me out first. 
Then I agreed and asked if I could get her number. Then she said she'll email me to let me know a time to meet." (Not sure I remember the order in which this happened)
She emails me, and I think she asked for my number. She calls me up finally, and asked if I was still available to meet, and I said sure.......agreed on a time and place...I show up, it's about a few mins before the hour, she's not there.....it's no the hour (the hour when we're suppose to meet) she still doesn't arrive.
About a half hour later...still not there. I called about two times during that half hour, she doesn't answer and it goes straight to voice mail.
I left a message. I finally go home (it was kind of a long drive) and email her "What's the deal, what happened to you?"
She said "Something came up" she never got into detail, just "something came up." | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 6:11:36 AM | | Don`t even waste time wondering why he did it,hes a coward and theres plenty of fish in the sea.Move on,don`t even try to contact him.It`s all him,not you ! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:09:12 AM | sadly, this happens a lot. when it does, it sucks especially when you don't know why. in my experience, when this happens it's usually a result of the person getting back with an Ex or just starting a new relationship with someone else.
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:22:58 AM | wow can't believe people are suggesting she give him a second/third/fourth whatever chance it will be when he finally shows up.
Unless he's in the 0.11 percent of people who are actually in that horrific car crash everyone thinks of first when they are stood up , I'd say just move along.
Such blatant disregard for another persons time (if nothing else) is a huge huge red flag, and the complete lack of manners to even make a simple phone call to cancel just speaks volumes about a person.
Thankfully I haven't been stood up and I wouldn't stand anyone else up either , come on now , how hard is it really to sit through a quick coffee or drink? | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 9:10:45 AM | it sucks and has happened to me too many times, a few months ago it was 3 different guys in the same week. I can never understand standing up someone you have never met yet because it's so easy to email, text or call to say to say you can't make it for whatever reason BEFORE you set off for the date.
I do think some people like the thrill of arranging a date but have no intention of ever showing up for it. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 9:26:56 AM |
And he said he'd call when he got into my Town. Well he never did.
Well at least you didn't leave your house and be stood up in public right? I would of figured if the person didn't call within an hour of the time they said they were meeting you, I would of assumed he wasn't going to show. Don't call him and don't pick up your phone if he does call. Move on. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 9:49:33 AM | Short of being in a coma, I can't imagine why he couldn't take the time to call. You said he has your number so even if he did get cold feet, a phone call or email would of been the decent thing to do. The same thing happened to me recently. Instead of getting angry, I decided it was good to know early in the game rather than waste my time with someone that lacks consideration, integrity & backbone.
Carry on girl & don't look back. If by chance he is unconscious somewhere, then maybe you would consider giving him another chance once he is feeling better.  | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:07:41 PM | I would say "Phew you missed meeting a total idiot" Time and time again I get guys wanting to meet who I have been getting to know and they all sound so nice....and then when it comes to the date they get cold feet, which I suspect is what has happened in your case.
I always text the day of the meet to ask if they are still meeting me.... and then again when I am setting off and I ask that they do the same. If I don't hear from them after my intitial text I send them a text a little later to say I haven't heard from them and I am assuming the date is off and have therefore made alternative arrangements. Saves me making the effort to get all dressed up to be let down.
Sometimes if they haven't responded and the date is off I may not hear from them for ages and then suddenly out of the blue they feel brave enough to send me a message apologising.... I am not one for bearing grudges and sometimes end up meeting them at a later date ..... if only to show them I wasn't so scary after all | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:14:29 PM | | Well I didn't have a guy stand me up but he was a total jerk. I was about 10 minutes late but I did call him to tell him. I had a hard time finishing getting ready. He saw me and we were supposed to go eat. Then he called me from his car saying we shouldn't do this. So I was pissed. I don't like having my time wasted and to be looking my best for some man who doesn't appreciate it. It happens. Move on and you are better off without him. There are other men out there who are much better and won't stand you up. Don't give up, I am not. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:17:19 PM | OP, sorry you got stood up... you are right it does suck... BUT, if he was in an accident, don't right him off when you hear from him.
HOWEVER, if he was being a jerk, don't waste time on him wondering what happened. Put it aside and go back to finding a new fish. Besides, isn't it great to find out now he has no moral compass and didn't follow through instead of finding out later?
Remember, just because one guy stood you up doesn't mean others will. Don't make it about the bad ones anyways... make it about the men who are able to stand up to the plate and be worthy of dating. That's who you should think about.
Good luck... | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 12:20:40 PM | | Always expect to be stood up. That's how I plan a date. That way if they don't show up, I can still enjoy the time I've taken from my schedule. If it is a nice restaurant, I'll enjoy my meal and send a goodbye email after telling them how much I enjoyed the food. Good for a giggle anyway. Main thing is not to feel bad about it. Someone who stands you up is a dork and is in for a real Karma treat down the road. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 3:56:52 PM | Well he could of been a fake, and couldn't go through with it, in other words he isnt who he appears to be, so in that case he did you a favor.
Why people do this? good question, you can do one of two things, hunt him down, hang him upside down and cut off his nuts and use it to tickle his dog assuming he has one, or just forget about him, and keep fishing, he's not worth your time or another thought, he's a loser | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 4:27:48 PM | Greeneyedenigma,
Don't feel confused or hurt. He was just rude, plain and simple.
Once I had agreed to meet this guy outside this bookstore/coffee shop. We had talked a few times and seemed to have alot in common. I was about 15 mins early, so I went inside to look at the books and wait. So he shows up about 5 minutes later and hangs about outside looking up and down the street. He looked like his photo, and when he saw me inside the bookstore, we made eye contact. I smiled and he took off walking quickly down the street and around the corner. I just laughed to myself and went back to looking through the books.
About 1/2 hour later, while I am still at the bookstore, my phone rings and he tells me he had an accident and wouldn't be able to meet me. I asked if he was alright, he said yes. I told him that his pants would wash up fine. He said, "HUH?" and I hung up the phone. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 4:43:08 PM | | No guys are strange creatures! Here is something my father told me when I was younger..... Men have a extra organ and its full of scum some men drip it out bit by bit and some leak it out all at once. Regardless how they use it they all do at some point! Its a womans job to decide when and how much scum they can deal with! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 4:58:44 PM | In this day and age, even if something happened to him, he should be able to contact you via phone or text at the time, or even email at a later time. If he doesn't, then do you really want to waste your time on someone who treats you with that kind of disregard?
Last night was the first time I was stood up and boy, does it sting. Much like you, he was calling, we talked for hours, he asked me out, confirmed, even said he was on his way. But then, nothing. Even when I contacted him, no reply. There is no excuse for this type of behavior. It is disrespectful and rude. And, if he's behaving this way at the start, it will only get worse. Maybe he's a flake, maybe he's not into you, maybe something better came along....bottom line, you are worth more than that. But, I know it's a slap in the face and a killer on the ego. Karma will get him.  | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 5:04:10 PM | | That does suck, sorry about that. It's definitely his loss and it wasn't you it was him. To look at it in a positive light, at least you know he's a jerk now instead of becoming emotionally invested and being hurt by him then, which in all would be an additional waste of time. On to the next! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 5:05:02 PM | Did you try calling him to see what happened?
It was really immature and inconsiderate of hime not to call you to let you know he couldn't make it. Everybody has access to a phone and there's NO excuse for not calling you. Even if a family emergency comes up, which seems to happen a LOT, hint, hint. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 5:07:37 PM | too many reasons to list, he could have been deceiving you from the beginning, if he was truely interested, he would have gotten in touch as soon as he saw a problem with the meet. -dont give him a nother chance to fool you again. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 5:33:05 PM | | I wouldn't call him either... if he had a good reason to not show he would have called you.. I've been stood up before also... it bugs you but let it roll off your back...I hate rude people... but I'd bet he's a fake or his girlfriend found out... | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/5/2009 5:48:01 PM | Well darlin..........
As a person who has been stood up 4 times by 4 different people my answer is they had their chance and won't be given another. - sorry but that's just the way it is. - If you can't be courteous enough to give me a call or text to cancel then you don't deserve my time at all. - What really, really gets me is how a few months later, each of these men have attemtped to contact me either here or on my text leaving me messages asking how I am etc. - haven't talked with you in a long time how are you? - Like nothing ever happened......needless to say, I don't even bother to respond.
But whatever his loss........
yes, that is the right attitude and mindset. I am glad to know you have enough self esteem to realize it's HIS loss. He had his chance and since he was disrespectful and showed NO courtesy, he showed his true colors and now you know that he is irresponsible. Better you know now than 5 years from now.
Who wants to lay odds he'll try to call you a few weeks or months down the road to 'see how you are' and act like nothing ever happened??????? | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 1:58:42 AM | lame, this guy better have a good reason for not showing because there's no excuse. Were all adults here you either call or something if there's a problem. you're a beautiful lady and deserve more than men who waste you're time. i hope you find the man of you're dreams soon.  | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 7:49:13 AM | He didn't stand you up I got him. I walked into Starbucks recently, got my coffee & sat down. A man approached me & asked if I was Katherine, (not my name, but he was hot), so I put out my hand for a shake & said I was. He introduced himself said he was beginning to leave because he thought he was being stood up. He said I really didn't look like my pic, I was much prettier in person. We talked, laughed, had a nice time. Before we left I told him I really wasn't Katherine, but hey, her loss if she can't show up on time. He thought it was pretty funny, got my real name & number. We have had a few dates, so far he's a great guy. Sorry, but sheat happens. Just never can tell why they stand you up, could be a zillion reasons.  | |
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