| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 8:40:22 AM | I had this experience also. I know what you are feeling. I was supposed to meet this guy at a restaurant. Thank God I didn't already go in. I waited for him in the parking lot. I called got his cell voicemail. I texted him and he said he was still at practice (he said he coached basketball or something) But he was the one that set the time. I texted him back "fine I'll just leave the restaurant and go home" He then said ok.
Now I know its a text message so you can't see or hear my frustration, but he was the one to SET up the time. So he KNEW his schedule. Later that night he emailed me and said he was sorry. But I'm sorry, that is a pet peeve of mine regardless if he was telling the truth or not. If you set up the date YOU keep it. So I said, thats fine i take the apology but I don't want to meet anymore and I left it at that.
So I may be the picky one but please for anyone, if you agree to meet, MEET, don't be a flake. Even if you don't like the person, have a drink then politely say it's not going to work out. No need to be an ass.
Hope this helps. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 8:45:46 AM | Being stood up sucks. It's happened to me. And I would get so pissed off. And the guy that stood me is still trying to make it up to me. But, it's really hard to forget the night u plan things to go out and he doesn't show. You feel like kicking his ass.
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 2:48:51 PM | ... and I bet you'll never hear from him again!
Wish I could help you but I'm just as baffled as you are. I guess we chalk it up to "he's just not that into you" even though it seemed like he was. This is why I hate dating. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:14:11 PM | This guy wasn't from Central Florida, was he? You are absolutely right, it sucks. It has happened to me a few times, too. The person who said to take most of this online stuff with a grain of salt gave good advice. I always try to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I'll listen to the explanation (if he gives one) and gauge my response on whether it makes sense and how long it takes him to offer the explanation. If he waits a couple of days to contact you he has already let you know that he is inconsiderate of others - and I can't live with that - so I let the "little fishy" go....... *L* | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/6/2009 6:29:02 PM | | In my experience, like tonight, it means he could possibly be married and thought he would have the chance to come see you but wify came home early or cancelled her plans so he had to ditch you and couldnt call for obvious reasons. Why else would a guy not show and not call? Or maybe he got a bad vibe from you, if you acted interested sometimes men will ditch you but when you act un-interested the come... I dunno sometimes men are confusing with their signs as well. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/7/2009 11:24:37 AM | i havent stood anyone up but then again i have only had 1 date of here in 4 months
not for the want of asking i my add lol | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/7/2009 7:22:08 PM | | Honey you are beautiful. Why are you even wasting your time thinking about it. It definately isn't you. It's his loss and you should move on and something ALOT better will happen. Best of luck to you!! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/7/2009 8:20:25 PM | I really can't believe that there are so many people out there who have been stood up ..... (I mean I believe it , I just think it sucks!)
seriously how hard is it to be an *adult* and at least meet up , have a coffee and get the heck outta there if you're not feeling it.
Aside from the marrieds or those in a relationship looking for a fling that stand ppl up (and I don't count them anyway!) there's no logical reason that I can justify not showing up to meet someone I've agreed to meet.
totally a reflection of *them* not *you* | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/9/2009 8:08:56 PM | WELL I DONT NO WHAT TO TELL YOU ,IF YOU WANT A DATE WITH ME I WOULD NEVER DO THAT. I WOULD BE THERE WITH PLOWERS IN MY HANDS            :modhammer: | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/9/2009 8:26:39 PM |
we confirmed we were getting ready and he said he'll see me in a couple Hours. And he said he'd call when he got into my Town.
Maybe he got pulled over and is sitting in jail :) | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/9/2009 8:52:52 PM | | This happens to all of us at one point or another. Just move on... There's no point dwelling on the past. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:36:49 PM | | I agree with this 100%. If you can't make it for whatever reason. You should at least call the person. Hasn't anyone ever heard of common courtesy?? I guess it's non-exsistant these days??? | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:37:14 AM | Happened to me yesterday. I waited for 1/2 hour then left. No call, no email, noticed that he's removed his profile from POF. And he sounded so respectable. The times we'd spoken on the phone, he was interesting and seemed very nice. No second chance from me for him and the other guys who contact me will have that extra grain of salt thrown in just because of this guy.
My friends tell me that he's the one who really missed out on meeting a great person, and that I lucked out in NOT meeting some jerk without a shred of integrity. Karma will take care of him--I don't have to. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:48:23 AM | It could be a number of things. It could be some LMR (last-minute resistance) and he had a few things to work out in his mind before meeting up with you. Something could've happened like car trouble or some other emergency. Or maybe he just flaked on you out of some insecurity with himself.
Whenever I am not totally sure someone will show up to a planned outing, I ask them if I should put them in my schedule book in pen or pencil. If they say "pencil" or they aren't at least 90% sure they will show up, I wish them well and move on to the next girl in my book. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:59:20 AM | it could be any number of reasons; three, five, nine and a half... etc..
really though, it's not you - it's him; his decision and his responsibility for nixing the date for whatever reason
therefore, it's up to him to call and explain or to apologize (if he can escape from the alien mothership long enough to phone)
like i said, could be anything
but it's not You
it was him - his choice
don't take it personally... if he gets abducted on a date with you, he'll potentially do it again, on someone else's time - certain personalities are like that - attracting all sorts of excuses... and do you really want to be around someone like that any way? | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 12:51:36 PM | This may sound blunt but if someone has problems and can't make it at the last minute that's understandable if they don't call and let you know that it's done.
Everyone has cell phones these days unless they were in an accident they could have called even if they chickened out he could have called to say sorry.
Someone who doesnt call on the first date is not going to call on the 10th either.
Consider yourself forewarned that you have dodged a huge drama bullet that you don't need. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:25:19 PM | I think you are really naive; I'm so sick of women saying,"I met this really cool guy and then he....." No he's not really cool; you were fooled.
Women talk themselves into having a guy be 10000 times better than he is. You first have to get to know someone to see if they are cool and good.
He wasn't into it and just told you what you wanted to hear, then someone else that he wanted more came along; happens daily on dating sites.
choose wisely my friend. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/19/2009 7:14:57 PM | OP, just an educated guess looking from your profile:
"because he got high, because he got high, because he got high...dada dada dada lala...."
i keed, i keed! | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/20/2009 6:34:17 AM | I dont think it was you OP.
I have this mental image in my head. A guy sitting shirtless, 450 pounds, pimples all over his back and protruding stomach. In his 40's or 50's. Hasnt been on a date in years. Has a fake pic up on his profile and all kinds of lies listed. Its how he gets his kicks. He knows he cant get a date, let alone a decent one. He tries to contact women, get them to agree to meet, knowing he can never show up. He feeds his ego, probably prints their pics off and takes them to work, and brags about how he could've gone with this girl or that girl. Lots of loser like that on in net. I have had a few guys, chatting , wanting to meet. Then , when i agree, after emails of begging me to, they come up with a reason why they cant. Kind of like the "almost" noch on the bedpost. They couldve gone out with me, just didnt want to, feeding the low egos. They are just playing games, cause that's all they can do. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/20/2009 7:42:00 AM | | Unless there is some type of emergency, there is no excuse not to tell the other person that you need to cancel / postpone a date. I don't like people cancelling dates at the last minute either. But at least that isn't as bad as not showing up to a date without any notice. | |
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| Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??!
Posted: 4/20/2009 6:28:02 PM | I've never been stood up and I've been on more dates than I can count (being 46, it's really added up over the years, lol), but there have been two similar occasions in recent months where two different guys seemed completely into me, we spoke on the phone, everything was going well, and we made plans to get together in a day or two. Then POOF! I never heard from them again. I've only experienced this sort of thing on Plenty of Fish (never on Match .com, My Space, or any other dating website). It makes me wonder about the integrity of the members here.
But back to the point you're trying to make: Why do men act totally into a woman (e.g., "You're the only woman I want," or "I can't wait to see you," or "I've found what I'm looking for in you," etc.) to only vanish into thin air? It doesn't make sense. I have many theories, but it's impossible to know for certain what these guys are thinking and doing. I guess in this age of "catalog dating" it's too easy for something younger, more attractive, or more dynamic to come along (even if they think you're The One initially). | |
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