Dru
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Msg: 326 | |
| | Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladiesPage 14 of 19 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19) | | Being over weight is acceptable. Thinking you are over weight because of something other than your own habits is not. Unless you have been to a doctor and he has diagnosed you with something.. Thinking that its the guys fault he is not interested in you is not acceptable. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 9:21:59 AM | Ok....Granted, there are people who are "blame-happy" and some to the point where they enjoy poor health....you know the ones that you don't ask how they are because you never know where it will lead or when it will end...lol. On the other hand, for some women (me included), I didn't have weight issues until after my surgery and some thyroid problems; I eat no more than I ever have and at times, eat much less. Am I as active as I once was? No...and that's due to some arthritis/joint issues. But I am also NOT a couch potato; I work full time and am on the go most of the time.
My issue is hearing that big or large women are easy and are only good for sex. That is just not a fair statement. YOUR preference may be to be involved with slender, slim, petite women...and that's fine, but it really is not kind to save the best of yourself for those women and only designate the large women for when you just need sex. Please understand, I'm not trying to be argumentative....it's just a discussion and an expression of thoughts. We all have preferences; eventhough I'm only 5'2, I prefer to "date" tall men, but that's not to say that I haven't dated or had relationships with men that were "short". They too had their good qualities. | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 328 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/5/2006 9:50:11 AM | I'm sure that large women are wonderful. I however am not interested in a dating relationship with them. Friends is no problem, if at some point we both found ourselves in the mood for physical attention I would not have a problem with that. I can find the same qualities that a big friend of mine would have in someone I am much more attracted to.
I'm sorry if this upsets someone but I am not all that attracted to large women. They don't necessarily have to be fat either, I am not all that attracted to women that are a lot taller than me either. But as I have stated earlier, I do not need to be attracted To someone to have sex with them, I only need to be in the mood. And that is why I can have sex, but not date larger women and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 10:33:39 AM | I'm sure that large women are wonderful. I however am not interested in a dating relationship with them. Friends is no problem, if at some point we both found ourselves in the mood for physical attention I would not have a problem with that. I can find the same qualities that a big friend of mine would have in someone I am much more attracted to.
I'm sorry if this upsets someone but I am not all that attracted to large women. They don't necessarily have to be fat either, I am not all that attracted to women that are a lot taller than me either. But as I have stated earlier, I do not need to be attracted To someone to have sex with them, I only need to be in the mood. And that is why I can have sex, but not date larger women and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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Boy, you ain't right.
You date the hotties and boink secretly the BBW's.
I am of average build and gradually on my way to my goal of 170 lbs (I am currently 200 lbs @ 5'10"), but I still date the BBWs. When I say date, I drag 'em out of their hiding placing to provide me company for catching a film and then to dinner. Or if I want to go someplace like the festivals or museums. This may not include sex. This could be simply bonding and keeping my freindships strong. If there is sex, that is if the girl suggests it. Otherwise we simply chill out and bond. The same goes if I meet and hang out with a hottie.
May fave women are the BBWs that are taller than me or about the same height (+/- 2 in.)
When I say shorter, I was refering to someone on the order of 5 ft tall. I mean I have dimunitive friends I adore, I dance with them and buy them drinks & small talk, but I have the preference for the GODDESSES...the larger than life statuesque women. I love getting the bone crushing bear hugs, and the sloppy sweaty sex that goes with them. I guess the key word here would be voluptuous or stocky (maybe big boned)..ie wide hips, big butt, relatively small around the waist.., muscular legs & thighs...the hour glass figure or the pear shape.
These girls would be my pals, companions, LOVERS....
Then there are some women that are a little on the too uhealthy side. Morbidly obese.
These are what I call the BALLOON people. The ones with large oversized bellies.
They look like they scarfed down 4 to 8 kids and the remains are in the tummy.
All belly and no @ss.....
I mean that looks a little grotesque.
But would I be mean to them? NO.
I would be polite and just do small talk and respect them. YES.
Would I go out with them (date)?....Maybe, but as PLATONIC friends.
Basically be a gentleman.
It is better to have freinds every where, never know when anyones influence may come in
handy. | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 331 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:58:22 AM | well fine i appear to be wrong about everything according to everyone else's opinion, so I have come up with a comprimise. I won't have anything to do with bigger ladies at all, I will not have sex with them, I will not be friends with them, I will not say Hi to them, I will not make eye contact with them. I will live my life ignoring them and pretending they don't exsist. These appears to be what you people are telling me. I'm not going to change my position on dating a bigger girl, so I have to change something else to conform to others opinion.
Is that better?
And who said anything about me only dating hotties? Skinny girls can be ugly average homely whatever. I just don't like the fat. | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 333 | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 11:13:49 AM | | I feel bad for my hubby, but I don't really feel bad for her. She was a really mean person due to being unhappy about her size. She was always gawking and staring at my waste. I know it sounds bad but she knew she had it coming. She eats fast food all the time. It's comon-sense. | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 336 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/5/2006 11:19:38 AM | well i'm glade she was looking at your waist and not your waste lol
That makes sense about her being mean to you. Pretty much everyone who is unhappy with themselves for whatever reason, usually start to direct that unhappyness outwards as anger and jealousy. That creates stress on the body, and that might of had more to do with her heart attack than all the big mac's in the world. But probably not. | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 338 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/5/2006 11:26:18 AM | so the only thing that would make you happy is if I dated bigger women. Even though that would make me unhappy.
Or maybe you want me to see everyone women in the world for what they are like on the inside regardless of what they look like on the outside. Well sorry to burst your bubble but I already do that. I never judge someone until i've gotten to know them a bit and can decide if they are right for me or not. But I will never see a bbw as right for me because i am not physically attracted to a bbw. Without physical attraction what is the point of dating?
and for Mystic, your wrong. I do not just date hotties, I date healthy people. I also do not boink bbw's secretly, everyone that knows me knows i have someone that I boink(and likes to boink me) that is a bbw.
One thing I never do is hide from myself, or hide myself from others. You may not agree with me, but at least you'll know where I stand. (oh my god I can't believe I just used a quote from George W. Bush, I hate that guy a lot) | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 11:37:57 AM | It almost sounds like you're determined to make this ugly and I don't wanna go there. I'm happy regardless of what you do; it's your life...do with it what you will. I don't think anybody responding here cares what I think...lol.
To answer you: What makes me unhappy is to see people used for whatever purpose, and that's exactly what you're doing by having sex with large women who aren't good enough for you to date. To do that, you're actually giving them the impression that you think "something" of them when you really don't; they basically just serve a carnal need. For a lot of women/ladies, there are emotions involved with sex. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 11:40:47 AM | THEN DON'T HAVE SEX IF YOU ARE BEING USED.
Dru has already stated like 100 times (if you could read) that he is honest about his intentions with the BBW woman and if someone thinks they are being used, then perhaps they should tell the user to get lost, but they don't.... so...?? What is it that causes people to stick around if they know there is no hope of a relationship? Not caring? Poor self esteem? Can't do any better? WHAT? | |
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Dru
| | Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 343 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/5/2006 11:46:46 AM | I am not trying to turn this ugly but if you had read my earlier posts I am not using someone without their permission. and they are using me as much as I am using them. I don't lead women on for any reason. If I come across someone that I only want a physical relationship, i tell them that straight up before anything happens whether they be bbw or not.
See all of you are generalizing me as a user and jerk because I won't date bigger girls, but will sleep with them.
I dont' care if every women in the world has an emotional attachement with who they have sex with. I tell them before we have sex that sex is all we got, i will not date them. If they choose to still have sex with me after that, that is there choice, and it is not my fault that I don't find them attractive enough to date. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 11:54:53 AM | | I wasn't turning it ugly at all and to be honest, conversation isn't interesting to me when others insult me by saying I can't read. I do have a higher level of education, but interpretation is up to the reader. I thought we were all adults and could have a conversation, but...I will bow out of this and hopefully find people who can have civil conversations without accusations or insults. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 11:56:03 AM | ^^^
Oi veh!!
Girls, quit picking on Dru.
If he wants to be a cad, let him.
If he wants to sleep here and there or date here and there...
I am pretty sure he is tired of having to apologize.
Lad, now you know what I mean by stirring the hornets nest.
As for the lass whose in-law had a heart attack,
I am glad it was the waist and not the waste she was looking at.
Otherwise I would have said EWWWWWWW!!! besides WTF!!!
Lessons learned..no more MAC attack!! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 12:02:59 PM | | I don't really think she's going to learn her lesson, she has angina and all kinds of other problems for not taking care of her weight. She joined an excersise course just so every week she can call and make up an excuse not to show up. And then she eats A&W and McDonalds all the fricken time. She's always complaining about being sore and not able to walk etc... Unfortunately I think this heart attack didn't help anything at all...if anything she's munching down on big macs as we speak. And rudely ordering the nurses around. Honestly if she died I think she would be doing us all a favor...(I know thats wrong but I can't help hating her, since she has given me nothing to love...there really is too much of her to love) | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 12:06:43 PM | Honestly if she died I think she would be doing us all a favor...(I know thats wrong but I can't help hating her, since she has given me nothing to love...there really is too much of her to love)
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Oh the irony.........
Or is it: the horror, the horror (Quote from Apocalypse Now, Marlon Brando's Col. Kurtz character). | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 12:09:18 PM | | Honestly I just don't understand why large people just stop eating for small periods of time. It's been proven that your body with start utilizing the fat storages to keep you from dying of hunger. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2006 12:17:52 PM | | I think it's quite obvious why men don't want to date fat...err I mean "Bigger ladies", first of all thats not the image they want when it comes to getting married and having children. They want the healthy family. Do you really blame them? Do you have any idea how many problems an obese child can have? Being made fun of his entire life, getting depressed and then in turn being fat like his mother. | |
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