blaira
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Joined: 3/25/2006
Msg: 376 | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 378 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:33:45 PM | I thought you were directing that previous post at me. The acceptable/unacceptable and die in 20 years thing were part of my posts so I thought you were directing your post towards me. However I have to admit you are right let people be ….. period.
Yes Blair I did notice that you are not a bigger girl, not all of my post was directed at you specifically. But regardless of size here are some things people should consider.
If you get emotionally attached to people easily, or if you are hanging out with someone you really really like and are having feelings for, DON’T SLEEP WITH THEM RIGHT AWAY. Find out how they feel about you as a person. If the person who had started this thread had done that we wouldn’t be here right now.
Most guys will take a piece of ass, tubby or not, if it’s offered up to them. You people know the world we live in, it’s not a fairy tale. I believe a woman has just as much responsibility to inform a guy that she has feelings for him before sleeping with him, as the man has a responsibility to say this is just sex and nothing more. You can no longer assume that somebody loves you or is interested in a relationship because they had sex with you. | |
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blaira
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Joined: 3/25/2006
Msg: 379 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:58:48 PM | Dru says:>>>>>>>>>> My point is do not blame me for not wanting to date you. Thats my choice, let me have my own choice. And do not label me an ass, a jerk or a pig because of my choice. Perhaps you can see the double standard that is arising out of this thread. I'm not allowed to label bigger girls as lazy or over eaters (even though a good percentage of them are), so why are you allowed to label me an ass and pig?
Well I don’t know… I think most people would take that remark the same way as I did... but who’s cares the thing is, is this post has gotten way out of hand... what was a simple question has turned out to be people ripping at each others throats because this is a sensitive subject for probably a lot of people... regardless of your preference there is such a thing as taking peoples feelings into consideration before you say something... and I might have flipped out because what most people say on here I get pissed and I think how can people be so insensitive so I retaliated... and no Dru this is not directed at you... people are ganna sleep with who ever they want, you cant change people and you cant change standards... but whatever people are ganna have there own opinions and do as they please so I don’t know why this is an issue... grrrr | |
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Posted: 5/10/2006 8:14:31 PM | I think you should be able to feel any way about anyone, "without" being disrespectful! But for you "closet" thick girl lovers, keep your comments to yourself and you know who you are. I don't think it's right you feel you can USE bigger woman just because YOU think they are either A:Easy or B: just trying to get attention (because they're bigger and YOU think they all feel they have to compete). You can't lablel women easy because they're fat or thin, it's impossible. Women are easy no matter what realm of the world you're on, Big OR Small.....but that doesn't make it ok for you to sleep with a so called "Big" girl that You yourself say you're attracted to, and then tell her later you can't have a relationship with her because she's overweight in everyone else's eyes! THAT'S where the PIG and ASS comments are Fair Game! You can't sit on here and make these types of comments when you yourself are guilty of sleeping with what "YOU" consider to be bigger women......
*This is obviously directed at one person on here (that I know) but I think everyone needs to see how screwed up this topic really is because some of the people commenting have no right to be when they portray themselves as the so called "non fat lovers" ya know! I also think a lot of people have NO CLUE what the line is between being thick vs. a little overweight vs. being down right Obese! I see men call women who wear a size 10 BIG, so who's to judge at this point?
Other than that, chill people....No need for all the name calling and being down right RUDE to eachother.....Yes it's the Internet, it's fair game, be who you are but damn have some respect and try to be nice! FAT OR SKINNY! WHO CARES! Can't we all just get long?  | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 381 | |
| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 5/11/2006 4:24:51 AM | I told her well before any clothes came off that there was no relationship possible. She said that was okay. Recently though I've realised that it isn't okay with her. It became apparent that she had some deep and strong feelings for me. Now that I know she can't keep her emotions seperate from sex, I have cut off everything to do with sex with her. However I still go over and just hang out with her and be her friend like I always said I would.
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Posted: 5/11/2006 1:03:48 PM |
I hate how guys always get blamed for using..... it takes 2 people to have sex.
no kidding.
unless a guy is telling you "i want to be with you" the entire...4 hours before you get nasty....sleeping with him on the first night is not likely to secure you a relationship.
if you don't want to be used, close your legs. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2006 3:00:28 PM | holy crap this is so true. i learnt my lesson a while back. i just don't put out and men are hating this about me. i am such a awsome chick but i am not looking to get a 'pounding' as they would put it. so women shouldn't put out to anyone unless there are looking for a booty call. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2006 3:13:41 PM | I told her well before any clothes came off that there was no relationship possible. She said that was okay. Recently though I've realised that it isn't okay with her. It became apparent that she had some deep and strong feelings for me. Now that I know she can't keep her emotions seperate from sex, I have cut off everything to do with sex with her. However I still go over and just hang out with her and be her friend like I always said I would.
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Well that's fine, but this guy didn't! OH AND Ok just so everyone knows, that comment I posted has nothingto do with what this guy is talking about, I don't know who he is, but it's funny he's been in the situation I mention...lmao! The situation I'm talking about had nothing to do with her putting out overnight....so read it again before you're so quick to turn it into a ho bashing fest! If you don't like "bigger" girls, all I'm saying is tell them that BEFORE you try and sleep with them MULTIPLE times......Don't give them the impression they have a real chance when you know from the get they don't! That's just wrong...THAT"S what my post was about.....If it's just gonna be a booty call, that's fine, just give HER the choice to make that decision! GET IT! Geez people, I'm done on here, people are WAY too quick to judge and not understand shit first! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2006 3:17:21 PM | To add to that............ xxtemptationxx
You're one to talk, yeah "You don't look like you're on here just to bang guys, dressed in lingerie......NOOOOOOOO!" Yeah ok! Hey here's some advice...... "If you don't want to be used, put some clothes on" Sorry I just had to do it! Don't try to preach if you're not a member of the church babygirl! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 5:12:41 AM |
I'm done on here, people are WAY too quick to judge and not understand shit first!
^^^ funny how you just judged xxtemptationxx without even talking to her.... wow.... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 6:15:56 AM | Why do they call themselves "BBW" anyway.... I mean hugely obese women are never really that beautiful....
there is a group who does warrant the term.... who are just bigger girls, but not morbidly obese...
But the ones who always use it are the morbidly obese people. Trying to be all "I'm still beautiful even though I will eat you and your baby."
And another thing I've been wondering, how do you get to be 50-110lbs overweight??? I Mean once the jeans start getting tight, doesn't one sit back and go "Hmm, I should really do something about this." ?? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 1:57:14 PM | "Why do they call themselves "BBW" anyway.... I mean hugely obese women are never really that beautiful....
there is a group who does warrant the term.... who are just bigger girls, but not morbidly obese...
But the ones who always use it are the morbidly obese people. Trying to be all "I'm still beautiful even though I will eat you and your baby."
And another thing I've been wondering, how do you get to be 50-110lbs overweight??? I Mean once the jeans start getting tight, doesn't one sit back and go "Hmm, I should really do something about this." ??"
I don't really understand the cliche of saying BBW either, to be honest I don't think it's a nice way of saying anyone is beautiful, I don't care if you're skinny OR big, beautiful is beautiful Either way! So as far as classifying it as BBW I'm not sure but I guess they feel that way so let them....I don't consider myself BBW, I really don't even consider myself Big...! But to touch on what you said Jazz.....I know you're only on here for shits and giggles but to say MOST Obese women aren't beautiful is plain out Wrong.....It doesn't matter if you're big OR small, You can be beautiful OR Ugly no matter wHAT your size so that judgement is just all off......BIG PRETTY women are not FEW and Or Far between but people who have any idea of what beautiful really is ....IS Few and Far between! So I don't believe you're justified in saying that.....You can't judge a book by it's cover it IS true....If you don't want to read the book because it's too thick or long, that's fine you're entitled to that! But don't classify ANYONE because YOU don't think it's acceptable....That's not fair to anyone, especially yourself for letting yourself be so ignorant to think so...... As far as how do you get to be that big, I've often asked how do you get to be 100 lbs overweight, and to a skinny person you'd never know, but I've lived with some big people in my family and all I have to say is You have No CLue and you never will......so you might as well stop wondering now, because it's not your concern. Shit happens! Why do people become adddicted to crack? Why do people become addicted to cigarettes....It JUST HAPPENS! People gain weight, some care some don't! Get over it!
As far as judging that xxx girl, I wasn't judging her.....I just thought it was funny how she talked about not acting like a ho, but then all her pics on her page were of her in lingerie! To be honest, I thought it was amusing and wanted to make a crack at it!
Like you we're ALL entitled to our own opinions, so that's that! But I'll tell you what, the way she's dressed wouldn't make me want to ever get to know her any less.....it's all bullshit really~ I said it, it was funny, it pertained to her comment, so don't worry about it!
PEACE! lol | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 4:44:50 PM | | Well for me personally, the weight gain wasnt something that happened overnight. It comes for 1) low self esteem, 2) eating through problems and even in happy times, 3) 3 years of being on steroids for arthritis. The idea isnt so much of the person being large, but their ability to find the reason behind it and fix it. However, there are some cases where the weight, no matter what the individual does is going to be there. Me personally, I have found my "triggers" and have learned to accept them and to change them. I do feel that some of the larger individuals who are BBW are generally inactive or couch potatoes. Me personally, I walk several miles each day and when I am upset, I journal, walk, work out or clean. Since finding my triggers, I have dropped 140 pounds in 5 years. It does not seem like a lot when you divide it up, but it is a goal that I am very proud of. I have 108 more pounds to loose to become what most people label as "average" or "normal". For most people, changing their exercise level or style and their eating habits is the start to reaching a normal weight. I know that the weight is not my only issue, but I continue to strive to fix myself and my flaws. I know I will never be perfect or even beautiful, but I am happy to be an average plus size american woman and knowing that I can change, if I choose to. As far as the pictures posted here, I feel in the individual feels good enough about themselves to post that type, that is their choice, but for me personally, I want to leave my appearance up to the man's imagination, it can be much more exciting lol. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 5:18:29 PM | That is great that you have lost so much weight and are going to keep going. That's what I'm trying to do at the moment. I'm at 216 lbs right now, down from 231 and I want to get to 165 so......51 lbs. I'm working out four days a week at the gym, I'm eating healthier, and when I get upset I go out and walk. I feel so much better than I used to. I'm not binging and eating junk food and pop has been eliminated.
Good luck and keep going with it hon!! Your doing awesome.
~ Sara Maria ~ | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 6:17:08 PM | I would gladly date larger women... Not sure what you would call the size...chubby? Voluptuous?? Well rounded??... LOL I am not particularly into what I have heard called "Grossly Obese" but there are guys who like huge women. My ideal woman would be one who is a bit larger between the navel and knees and almost flat on top...
I am a larger size guy and have lost 11 inches around the waist so far... Don't you wish you lost it as fast as it came on? Glad the docs finally got my health problems under a semblance of control...
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Posted: 5/17/2006 8:35:58 AM | I just love my gals to have rather slim around the waist, wide hips (broad beamed?)
and a big protruding booty! Oh wait! Long meaty muscular thighs and broad shoulders.
Just the way Robert Crumb drew them. The thick gals! Just like chocolate bars rich and thick.
I spoil these gals and take them out...then after wards at night..dessert!  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 10:46:03 AM | | Personally i don't really like bigger women but i also don't like really skinny women. A few extra pounds is fine. One thing I do look very is a woman with a cute face, great personality and someone that is very openminded and kinky.... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 7:38:43 PM | Hmmmm Halfevl..... well I've been called "pleasingly plump"... I used to have really little boobies but when I gained weight.. they got bigger so you would just have to make an exception I'm afraid.
Oh.. and I got the booty!!! LOL | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 11:48:39 AM | Yes. I blame them. They are shallow. First of all, all larger ladies are not unhealthy. I happen to be a size 18, and I'm in perfect health at age 44.
For most of my life I was skinny. I was trained as a classical ballerina. I danced tap, jazz and everything else until I had my son at 24 and being a mom took over.
When, at 5'6, I weighed 102 lbs. I was not as healthy as I am now.
Yes, I was a stunner. I still am. I have beautiful hair, sexy lips, the most gorgeous eyes on the planet and still manage to get my share of dates.
Also, my son is not obese. He's 6'2 and weighs about 155. He's an actor and musician and his quite happy.
I also happen to be a Rhodes Scholar, if you even know what that is, and an executive of a Fortune 500 company.
So, please don't be so narrow minded. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 11:53:45 AM | You are totally correct. I eat hardly anything. That's the problem. My doc is a team doc for a top ten NCAA football team. He constantly tells me that I need to eat MORE if I expect to loose weight.
I sit at a desk most of the day and work long hours. He says to eat six meals a day and to get moving at least four days a week.
Some of you people really don't have a clue. | |
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