| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 6/30/2005 10:26:37 AM | Can you please be more descriptive for the perv fringe. lol
I'm just saying that us BBW have more to move with, more to shake, etc...
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Posted: 6/30/2005 12:11:45 PM | HaHa ok well, I dont know why all the women, not just the BBW's arent approaching you, you are FINE! But I have ot agree, BBW girls tend to throw themselves out there but a lot of times it is for a lack of self confidence. They spend half their life bieng shy and upset about their weight, but then they go out and take it to the extremes to get noticed. Having a few extra pounds myself, I have to give you ladies some advice. Just be yourself, take out the big and you are still a beautiful woman, let someone see that. Even the easiest guys get turned off by easy girls throwing themselves around.
Besides its not classy, think about it! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2005 1:23:27 PM | Okay, listen up. If you are haing sex with someone and they ONLY want sex without a relationship, you need to think of why that is!
Yes, he is attracted to you. You know that because he enjoys sex with you. But is he attracted to you in a way that will lead to a meaningful relationship? Why not let your experience tell you? Why do people tortured themselves by becoming involved with a man who is apparently incapable of appreciating them? If women act like a convenience store, they will be treated like one.
Don't sleep with every guy who says they are attracted to you. Choose a partner wisely!
People are allowed to be picky about their dates and relationships. After all, it will limit the people that you do not want around.
Although i like plain m&m's , it doesn't mean i will eat them everytime instead of peanut m&m's! | |
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 6/30/2005 3:35:12 PM | ky_jello
you asked about the demensions of a BBW... obviously I speak only for me, but I would say the following is MY idea of BBW.
a lady who is larger than size 18.
between 12 - 18 I consider veluptuous. ( I hate the term 'curvy' all women have curves... OK, not some of the supermodels, thay are built like 12 year old boys. lol but normal women should have curves, that's why I think they're cuddly)
hope this doesn;t offend anyone, I like women based on the contents not the packaging, this is just how I would define the term. | |
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 6/30/2005 6:01:10 PM | My ex-wife, and the two g/fs before her were all heavier set women, I'd like to state one thing; All of them had great charisma, looks, and confidence.
For the bbw who find that guys are taking advantage of you in some way; screw-em.
Confidence sells, if you exhude enough of it, and keep looking, you'll find that there are plenty of us guys out there who look past the extra sizes, and come back for more. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2005 6:49:45 PM | I thought maybe after reading this board I'd gain some new insight on this situation. After all, I am a BBW...not SO big, but just enough...and I've yet to have a serious boyfriend even in my 'old' age. *Chuckles*
However, what I've just read pretty much states what I've always believed anyway:
1. Guys who WILL date BBW never live near me.
2. Guys prefer eye candy over BBW because of peer pressure.
What I didn't know was that men assume a BBW is only on the hunt for sex to begin with. I find that amusing, since I've never had sex before and I've always been big. 
However, I still cling to belief that one day, there WILL be a shift in the tides, and BBW will be the desirable ones...and the skinny broads will be shipped to the cancer wards & Ethiopia where they belong. *L* Just kidding. Maybe. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2005 8:56:45 PM | Insecure women let themselves get drawn into that more easily than a confident girl, so I personally think that is why it APPEARS that men use bigger ladies only for sexual favors.
THIS is dead on.
I'm in the size range you mentioned red....and will be the first to admit that my physique is nowhere near the modern standard of perfect...but I've NEVER had problems in attracting men who are happy to be seen with me.....but then I'm confidant as hell....and I wouldn't give a man who didn't appreciate me fully the time of day...let alone sleep with him to try to sway his opinion of me.
I don't knwo that I agree with speed of sexuality comment, tho'. I have sex when I want to....PERIOD.
I don't do silly high school crap like count dates, or play hard to get. My answer is in dating men who have the same mindset that I do. If he thinks that sexuality makes someone a slut, then he's not the man for me in the first place.
I'm a lady , I KNOW I'm a lady ....and my sexuality/libido has nothing at all to do with that.
I know that there are people out there that aren't attracted to thicker women, but there are also people out there who aren't attracted to brunettes....big frikkin' deal....doesn't make ME any less sexy because they prefer the way someone else looks. There are men out there who find me hot as hell.....I prefer to concentrate on those.
Larger ladies....stop obsessing about your fat.....forget your tummies and your thighs and whatever else you see in the mirror that holds you back. Concentrate on the parts that you love. Get your shoulders back and your chin up and start walking like you own the frikken' world. In attrraction CONFIDANCE is 50 percent of the game!!!! People who are plain, chubby and secure in their own worth are much more likely to attract other people than "pretty" people who second guess their own value on a regular basis.
OWN who you are....BE who you are. Don't hide your weight under baggy clothes hoping no one will notice, or post last decade's pictures on your profile. Embrace who you are, love yourself....THEN allow that same opportunity for someone else. It'll happen.
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Posted: 7/1/2005 9:06:56 AM | | My ex-fiance was like that........he wouldnt show his affection to me outside the bedroom....but he would inside the bedroom...hince the EX part....I admit in my past I have let guys use me sexually b/c i felt like i didnt deserve any better b/c im a fat girl....well no more ladies.........we need to stand up for ourselves......dont let ANY man use you for sex....just b/c your larger does not mean you deserve anything less...same goes for ladies of all sizes...never let a man use you for sex....At 25 and loss of 25 lbs ive finally realized ya know what im a lil bit sexy...i flaunt what looks good...i dont what dosent...but i am not going to inhibit my sexualness b/c im not the size i want to be...I have confidence in who I am...I love me.......allllllllllllllllll of me..and one day a guy will love all of me too....but he will want to be with me in and out of the bedroom.....i had a guy friend after i gave him head once tell me "fat girls are like mopeds, they are fun to ride but you dont want your friends to see you with one" i was so hurt...it was then i decided ya know what no more!!! Just b/c im a big gal does NOT mean I don't deserve respect in and out of the bedroom...I know I'm a big gal...I show pics of me on my profile...and you know what IM NOT ASHAMED OF IT...why??? whats the point of being ashamed of youself...Life is way to damn short to go around hating youself and subjecting yourself to standards and morals which you know are lower then what you want....dont let anyone use you b/c of your size...if a man only wants to be with you to sleep with you...move on....just my 2 cents :) embrace and love the body you are in...not the one you want to be in... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 10:49:48 AM | OWN who you are....BE who you are. Don't hide your weight under baggy clothes hoping no one will notice, or post last decade's pictures on your profile. Embrace who you are, love yourself....THEN allow that same opportunity for someone else. It'll happen.
okay...so...new life plan. i'm stashing pandy in my closet...as my own personal yoda..minus the ear hair. i'll go get advice from her....occasionally slipping her jelly beans and kad's snow peas. in time she will realize she's too good for earth...return to her nymph worshipping, walking on liquid fire, multi-syllabillic word using, larger than life planet...and the rest of us will get some freakin' action.
oh...i'm so clever on saturdays.
um...OT? i like my ass | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 10:58:03 AM |
occasionally slipping her jelly beans and kad's snow peas.
make 'em jelly bellies and we might be able to strike some kind of deal ,LOL
in time she will realize she's too good for earth...return to her nymph worshipping, walking on liquid fire, multi-syllabillic word using, larger than life planet...and the rest of us will get some freakin' action.
LMAO....you gotta be kidding? The whole goddess persona that Pandy has built up just kinda cracks me up. AMY carrries her shoes more than she wears them, has a chubby booty,.....wears lunch on her clothes most of the time and snores like a freight train. LMAO....and I have POF references! I get through life bullsh*tting people into believing that I'm cooler than I really am
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Posted: 7/2/2005 11:02:57 AM | lmao no, seriously...i just snorted. i think i may have even peed a little. sounds like me. except i don't have anyone convinced otherwise. mustard is my downfall. if mustard is involved...it's inevitably going to be right on the front of my shirt...probably in the vicinity of a nipple. getting excited about anything causes stomach aches. my brain and mouth rarely correspond. and i tend to ramble....
still laughing my favorite feature off over here...... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 11:04:37 AM | I am far more interested in a girls brain than their butt but butts can be nice too... lol
KY -- can I live with pandy in your closet.. though I prefer nerds and no snow-peas, thank you.
And, as a Pandy POF reference, I can honestly say she does indeed walk on various forms of liquid and is in fact the second cumming...... lmao
OT: I like my butt too! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 11:08:01 AM | ^^^^^sure....but couldja arrange my shoes....alphabetically? but snow-peas are very good for you.....you a growing boy.
OT: i like your butt, too....wait...is that the topic? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 11:25:36 AM |
And, as a Pandy POF reference, I can honestly say she does indeed walk on various forms of liquid and is in fact the second cumming...... lmao
smartass,
On topic: can't you do both? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 11:31:39 AM | lol....we're getting a tad lame at even pretending to be on topic. someone needs to moderate the moderator!!! citizen arrest! citizen arrest!
OT: i date me...*and i do me.... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 12:03:17 PM | LOL....we have fulfilled our OT requirements :)
On Topic: Men who'd hurt a BBW by sleeping with her and letting her know she's not good enough to date are scum. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 7:36:00 PM | | Larger ladies do throw it out there... at the club they alwyas the first one to pop a tity out and dance on a stage or whatever...I think that has a lot to do wit how they get treated. Yeah u have your shy ones but, I think there are more wild big ladies do'n whatever for attention... I know quite a few big girls and only one is shy... All the other ones are always fucckk'n who ever smiles and notice them. Maybe the fact that I live in Tampa, FL where probabaly 80% of the women look like modles and have fake boobies play a role in it. So bigger women do whatever the can to get noticed. So I would guess where you live plays a role... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 8:17:41 PM | | i say who cares if there fat or skinny pretty or ugly our looks and body will fade so someone should just be who they are and if a man wants them to be something different then there not worth you're time .. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 9:04:24 PM | Can't bigger girls be eye candy as well?
I mean...did you know the HIGHEST paid model in the world is a plus size model? I am an average girl...never lie, I got meat in some places that it shouldn't be but I'm working on it but I look in the mirror and feel great about myself (except on bad hair days) body size and all.
Nope...don't jump into bed with men and have a personality to match me so I just don't understand why everyone on this board is saying men prefer eye candy.
Umm...big girls can be eye candy as well y'know!
Geez, this board sickens me. And yes, size 15 is actually the average size in North America. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 9:06:35 PM |
So bigger women do whatever the can to get noticed. So I would guess where you live plays a role...
I agree with that...when I vacation down the east coast I notice all the model type girls and get a little insecure and then I think HEY! Don't like me? Don't look at me...stare at them because most of the time, they're personalities stink. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2005 9:12:25 PM | *grabs Matt and hugs him so tight that he can't breathe*
let's get married! oh wait, you're only 18! Well...you can marry my younger cousin then! | |
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