| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 7/5/2005 10:03:15 PM | Ladies, it all has to do with your self image... If you feel you deserve more than just sex, then by god, go for it!
If you put yourself out there sexually then those are the response you will get. Even if you put yourslef out there as a human being who needs more than a dildo in the form of a breting male, then you will still get solicitations from guys who think of nothing more...
The fact is that the guys are going after all of us for that kind of thing, even the skinny chicks get their fair share of dogs at their door...
Though not all guys are dogs, you just have to be able to look past the ones who are in order to find the real men who want more.
I'm sorry this isn't more eloquent tonight. It's a bit late for me.
You guys have fun... Maybe you'll hear from me again.
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 7/5/2005 10:26:15 PM | Ottawarubygirl ... i have the same problem
I may not look very big in my pics ( i am more then a size 15 lol)... but i do keep them recient... this one here was taken on july 1st ... i have abit of a belly and an booty to match .. but most guys i meet only want sex from me ... i will admit i have had a few one time things ... not by my choice though ... these guys i actualy thought were interested in me but after they never called me back again so i knew thats all they wanted.... So i will not sleep with a guy the first time i meet them anymore...
Its weird cuz the guys i have dated say they dont see any problems with my weight but yet i have trouble finding a guy who wants me for me not just for sex... I get offers all the time for sex but i know thats all they want and it gets depressing at times. When you see a big girl with this hot guy you wonder why the hell cant i that....and it goes the opposite as well with big guys with hot girls .. i dont get it lol
And the comment about heavier girls not having the energy or whatever that was is so wrong.... my last bf and i had sex on average 10 times in one weekend so i will throw that comment out the window lol | |
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:07:36 AM | Hey QuebecThunder, sexy from mtl here, a few extra lbs, why dont you send me a message in pvt, I can show you a good time, but not be easy!
i think that a big problem with bigger girls is the self esteem issue. Be comfortable with yourself and let others appreciate what you have to offer! | |
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 7/6/2005 8:11:11 AM | | I have found that a lot of men do think that larger women are easy. One man told me he knew that I had a difficult time finding sex so he was sure that I would do anything he wanted in bed, since his girlfriend hated sex but she was thin and gorgeous so he would marry her. Took me about one half of a second to kick that moron to the curb. A bbw is larger than a size 12 or 14. I am a 16 or 18, which is a 1x. I am 5 feet tall and have the DDs. Most men I have met who prefer larger women like tall ones who have long red hair and huge butts and are at least a size 22. Or at least that is what they tell me when they say I am too small, too short and have brunette hair. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 10:47:22 AM | OKay lets' bring this thread back to life, it's about the same topic but a different twist....
So you've gone a handful of dates, nice ones, dinner, dessert, just hanging out, things seem going in the right direction, you are moving things slowly which seems to be just hunky dory, but say after about three weeks of dating, it comes the time where the passion just takes you both and you either fool around or just give in and do the deed.... then you never here from him again......
It just doesnt' make sense, I mean you would've been better off banging him the first date, cause then you wouldn't have wasted your time...or his for that matter.
Any input on this gentlemen...or ladies?
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| Dating VS sleeping with Bigger ladies
Posted: 7/12/2005 10:50:56 AM | | if you need to know this is happening to someone else too...it happens to me constantly...id also like to know, what is with you guys? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 11:00:18 AM | | That is why I am not going to get intimate with someone unless I know we are seriously dating, both of us are not dating others, and we are both looking to get married...I am a lot older than most of the people on POF, but hey I have been there and done that too, so makes me think he the men who do that are just jerks, or Not into wanting anything but sex. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:35:43 AM | | None live near you and they only do it because of peer pressure? wow youve really deluded yourself but maybe for a good reason. you seem to have a relatively healthy attitude when it comes to expressing yourself but really come on. Most people view obesity as being unattractive because its unhealthy and doesnt exactly indicate good diet or character. I dont find exceptionally thin women all that attractive either and have no problem with women who are large but fit, as I believe most men would tend to aggree. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:40:50 AM | | not very many honest responses here, most are the politically correct and lets all just feel good about ourselfs crap. but youve managed to be honest and straight to the point. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 10:09:20 PM | | gotta do what makes you happy. some men love bigger women some dont just as some women love certain things and some dont. im a bbw...but i dont understand why most bbw have such low self esteem. everyone has something beautiful about them...use it! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 10:28:48 PM | | My personal view is....I don't give a crap what others think. As long as I like a woman. Sex or dating a larger woman goes hand in hand to me. The only stipulation I have is that the skin is smooth (a few but not many cellulite dimples), and a face I consider nice looking. Sure we like smaller women, but personality and looks in a larger woman doesn't matter so much once a person has matured......usually. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 10:56:54 PM | | ugly girls/fatgirls if you dont wanna do'em you pretend youre passed out, like women will fake an orgasm--everyone needs a place to rest | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 11:15:24 PM |
well big women don't really move that well in bed.... so I prefer a thin one
Thus spoken by a man who OBVIOUSLY has never had a "big woman" in bed. *laughing out loud at the naivety of some men* Heck, I always said I didn't like cheesecake too. Until I tasted it. That very shallow statement is as stupid as saying that all bald men are impotent. A bald man can be incredibly sexy, and some big women can outmove anyone you've ever shared a bed with! In both cases, it depends on the mind that rules that body.
Personally, I wanna know why a woman who has some curves and soft spots has to wear the demeaning label of BBW (the word 'beautiful' forever overshadowed by that damned 'big' that precedes it). I'll allow someone to refer to me that way only when these starving-Ethiopian-child looking women are all labeled ABW (anorexic beautiful woman)!
I'm simply a woman. A woman with a not-model-thin body. A body that knows how to give love, and to receive it. But, most importantly, I'm intelligent, faithful, funny, witty, sensitive and caring. And any man that isn't more interested in all the latter, will never get a chance to learn the former.
Yeah, we all have body type preferences. Personally, I really really love big and tall men. The bigger and taller the better! But, my last good relationship was with a guy only an inch taller than me, that I probably outweighed (it never mattered enough to either of us to ask). Don't knock it 'til you've tried it, boys!
Sexy-at-any-size-Sapphire! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 11:27:59 PM | to,mostguys larger women are like mopeds fun to ride till your friends see you with them then they all turn into mutts looking for the next step up!
unfortunately most of these guys never get to know the real woman that they are trading in if they waffle around the dating issue becauseof size its block delete sayornara just my thoughts | |
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Posted: 1/3/2006 12:05:33 AM | Hey.. well I've come to this thought.. The guys that do like us.. Want one of two things.
1) just to fill the fansty of having a big girl in bed.
2) to have a relationship with us, but not show or tell anyone..
I think if you like someone then go for it, you shouldn't care about what others think. its your life.. is everyone else running your life for you?
huh huh huh. think about it..
Its really sad to know that guys work like that..
I know this because i just had one of these moments. and im waiting on a call that i'll never get.. but oh well thats life right.. and its funny who everyone tells you to suck it up.. someone will love you for you, and come all "one day"... | |
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Posted: 1/3/2006 12:11:27 AM | | Alot of us have low self esteem, because we arent what the real world wants.. Almost all guys are looking for the thin pin girl.. so its like we have to work 3 times harder and you still dont turn up with anything in the end.. its hurts your self esteem.. and makes you think at times.. "am I always gonna be by myself.. " i know i feel like that alot lately.. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2006 12:22:55 AM | i used to be a little bigger than i am today...but i decided that i didn't want to be "the guy with the gut", and so i've slowly been losing pounds.
i date more often now, and i get called back.
don't get me wrong, i've dated big girls too...but there's a few different kinds of "big girls". there's the ones who are chubby, but solidly built...there's the ones who have a large frame, and there's the flabby ones.
i know from experience, after i've seen a "flabby" girl (i know it's not PC, but it's the only term i can come up with) naked, the sight is a turn off for me. some guys like it...and that's a good thing...with any luck there's something for everyone.
bear in mind, that the reason thin girls are on the cover of magazines isn't because those mags are trying to tell us what's attractive, but because that is what's attractive. i said it in a post before, and i'll repeat myself here...if Maxim or FHM or any other men's mag were to put out two identical copies of their mag, one with a fat girl on the front, and one with a fit girl, which do you think would sell quicker?
bottom line? if you're not happy with the way you look, and you want to attract people, work out, walk, swim, anything...be active. not only will your body improve, but so will your mind and attitude. endorphins are wonderful little things. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2006 2:02:20 AM | have to agree with saphire blue on this one! Big girls can often out move a skinny mini in bed. I like women more for the largest and most powerful sex organ the one between their ears! If you get with skinny dumb chick with no imagination things get real boring after the "Good looks" wear off and forget about conversation afterwards lol. I will take a SEXY fat girl any day over a skinny dumb chick. So just like the color of her skin means nothing on how good she will be in bed so too one must say fat or skinny means jack shit unless it is against your preference. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 6:07:26 AM | Got a joke I sent to a special someone who knows who she is I thought I should share for the MANY guys who say they dont like fat chicks and are sleeping with one.
What do fat girls and mopeds have in common????
They are both fun to ride until your friends see you riding them!!
PS Dont be ashamed sport them on your arm proudly like you would that skinny mini besides she will keep you a whole lot warmer when its cold!
If someone else has something to say about it.... Tell them no one does it for you like she does and maybe we will be writing on a forum Dating vs sleeping with skinny minis!!
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Posted: 1/10/2006 7:19:27 PM | one more thing to add:
Guys who do NOT ever like to date BIG SEXY women: Is it because you have a small WEE WEE and dont want to make it look smaller? OOOPS hehehe
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Posted: 1/10/2006 7:42:00 PM | | I cannot believe this is still a "big" issue.... Ladies... wth is the problem if you are big then you are big, if you are happy with you then be happy with you and stop making an issue out of it. No matter how heavy i have gotten I have never had to be alone... Men are men.. if they don't like what they see.. their loss....Love thyself.. not that fake bullshit that many of you spout. but truly find all the wonderful things about you and remind yourself what an incredible person you are...Please for the love of GAWD stop with the bullshit though.. both men and women can be azzes... Que Sera sera | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 7:50:27 PM |
You mean the kind that you have to role around in flower and aim for the wetspot?
That wasnt nice.
And I think you meant FLOUR. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 7:53:23 PM |
You mean the kind that you have to role around in flower and aim for the wetspot? I could never respect if I did that.
Now, with what you posted -- not many will respect you on here either with that ignorant statement.
I am also just *guessing* that you meant FLOUR not FLOWER  Best of luck to you little man, you are going to need it.
OT --- people like what they like, I personally don't dig the whole "short man with no hair and excessive muscles" look, but I am sure there is someone out there who does...to each their own! | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 8:00:21 PM | | My kids mom is very petite whereas my last gf was almost my height and about 50 or more ponds heavier than me. I was with each of them for over 4 years so not all of us have issues with body size. In the end its all personality and compatibility no matter what first attracts your eye! | |
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