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Posted: 4/6/2009 10:38:57 PM | I prefer to have 'him' finish on himself. I don't want the stuff in my mouth. So I'll go until he's about to explode and let him just cum on his own stomach.
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Posted: 4/7/2009 5:10:14 AM | This is one topic of discussion that has arisen for me personally. I met someone who was joking around (so I thought), and I learned that if he meets (and subsequently dates) a girl who won't agree to swallow, he would stop dating her. He thinks that spitting the cum out anyplace is not acceptable. He also said that while he wouldn't demand that type of satisfaction, he at least wants the option. He also claimed that he has never dated a woman who wouldn't do that for him.
I think the mentality here is that when the guy is told it will never happen, that makes him want it even more. That's just like telling him not to do something, and he'll do it just to show he isn't being controlled in any way.
It would seem that the only way to keep a relationship like this going is to leave the option open to do what he wants. But I am left wondering if I'm wrong to think that a man who would dump a girl just because she won't swallow is shallow. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2009 7:50:06 AM |
I want to be a man just for one day so I can see if a blow job really is all that.
LOL. There's an old joke about this- a woman having a dyk for a day would repeat the blow job experience several times, and the guy with the poossy woul spend hours squatting over a mirrow just lookin' at it. 
It seems to me that it shouldn't really matter if I spit, swallow, or put it in my purse, but as a penis-less person, what do I know?
LOL. I sometimes wonder what all a woman carries in those mystery bags, but a dollop of semen has never occurred to me.  I married a woman who treated sex like the Republicans react to everything Obama proposes: an arms-folded-over-chest "NO". Swallowing was just out of the question. She's the only lover I've ever had who didn't, on her own initiative. Guess I should just count my lucky stars.  "Should and shouldn't" suggests that somewhere there are predetermined rules for the sexual behavior of two willing humans; I don't need any more rules in my life, certainly not in that part of it, and even if there are "rules", I'm not playin' by 'em. So ban me. Lol.
I don't understand why it matters. I don't. You just came. Seriously...
That's kinda like saying that if your guy gets off with his hand, but you're in the vicinity, not otherwise involved, good job on you and everything is well with the world. I've read a number of posts by women who say that the quality and intensity of their orgasms fluctuates. The same is true of men (at least this man). There have been times when I came hard, really hard, left in all on the field- when I had absolutely nothng left. More often than not, it's something less than that, and masturbation makes the smallest peaks on my richter scale. It's engaging the brain that makes the difference. It just impresses the chit outta me if my lover swallows my sperm. And it's a lasting impression. Yeah, I take it personally. Kinda like that old song - Unforgettable.
The deep throat thing? Not a requirement, or even so much as a request. Only one lover ever tried, every time we made love, and she almost (less than an inch remained) got it. I was saucer-eyed, brain was fully engaged, but I don't think there were any special or unique physical sensations. She just loved sucking a dyk, and looked for ways to do it.
Swallowing, just trying to deep-throat, are all about the impression you make on his mind. imho. One way (and there are several) to show him there's not much you would not do for your lover, and that's kinda irresistible. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2009 8:33:00 AM | Yeah, I think swallowing and deep-throating are both more psychological. It's like dominating the other person and making them your vessel to empty into without stopping. It's the same as pulling out during regular sex -- breaks the mood.
Now if someone is deep-throating you and the guy urinates without mentioning it, the person may not know it right away (until they started getting full), but that wouldn't be right, I don't think at least. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 5:23:44 AM | You so right its all in the toungue as you say. You sound like you know how to give perfect oral.  | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 5:36:13 AM | | You know, I don't really even like blow jobs, perhaps its just the ones I got but I don't like them all that much. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 5:42:04 AM | I have only ever received ONE , and that was a Very Poor One, the girl only got the head into her mouth, I'm not saying im BIG ! just above average , but was Very Dissapointed to say the least !!! and that was only for One minute !!! she did not bring me to Orgasm either, I don't think she had much experience ? I was expecting a lot more, so I guess I really can't answer you question, just wanted to put my point of view across, thats all. As for swallowing i just think from a guys point of view that if she does just showing how much she actually loves giving by swallowing, as for deepthroat, just every guys dream to see a girl who can take it all, as many guys have seen in porn films I guess ? why is it called a Blow Job ? when the woman is supposed to suck rather than Blow ?
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Posted: 4/16/2009 5:56:41 AM | these are good questions.
in terms of swallowing, i must agree that its not so much how it "feels" as it is the psychological aspect of it. i love to make my girl happy. that means that ill do things that i might not normally enjoy - and ill enjoy it. i enjoy it because its her body, her fluids, i know SHE enjoys it, and i like making her feel as good as possible. i would never tell a girl that she MUST swallow; i would only request. but between you and me, its so much better when she does, that its almost a deal breaker if she doesnt. and not only should she do it, but she should either like to do it or she should learn to like to do it - because she knows i love it.
as far as the deep throat goes, its not as important for me as swallowing but i understand why people like it. sure the tongue and suction can cause more "detailed" pleasure. but sometimes you just want to feel completely"enveloped" - throughout the whole "length". u wanna go in and out of a (warm, wet) tunnel. not a small whole. u know what i mean? (oh man, im turning myself on here). also, when you hit the back of her throat with each thrust, that causes a nice sensation too. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 6:18:47 AM | I dunno OP
But if you love your man, then you please your man, right? | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 6:26:09 AM | Mikerdw said many things I agree with except one comment;
"i love to make my girl happy. that means that ill do things that i might not normally enjoy - and ill enjoy it. i enjoy it because its her body, her fluids, i know SHE enjoys it, and i like making her feel as good as possible."
My partner and I have yet to find anything we do for, to, with one another that we don't both enjoy. We have talked about new things to try and agreed or disageed about what we want, but by the time we do, we enjoy it all.
Personally, I love oral. It comes third on my list.......maybe second. Second. And I swallow because I love the taste, and because he gets so much pleasure from it.
Experiencing my partner's pleasure gives me great pleasure. And gets me hot.  | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 6:46:06 AM | First of all, no man (and no woman) is entitled to oral sex. However, like hugs and freshly-baked cookies, it is a tangible demonstration to how we feel about our partner.
Secondly, there is the issue of swallowing. As a man, I like whenever my lady deals with a mess in a quick and efficient manner. But its also the icing on the cake. Who wants kissing but no tongue? Who wants cupcakes with no icing? Sure, I'll accept them with a smile, but I know something's missing.
That being said, I would rather no oral at all than oral with someone who does it out of a sense of duty or treats it like a chore.
Why would a man dump someone who doesn't swallow? Same reason a woman would dump a man who doesn't remember her birthday... because SO MANY OTHERS WILL. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 7:13:40 AM | Love Me Love my Music Wrote, as I Forgot how to put her words in Context 
" It would seem that the only way to keep a relationship like this going is to leave the option open to do what he wants. But I am left wondering if I'm wrong to think that a man who would dump a girl just because she won't swallow is shallow."
Well I for One, have told my Partner, that she does Not have to do anything, she does not Want to do as far as Sex is Concerned !!! I gave her that Option, she did not ask for it !!!
I am not that Shallow to Dump any Woman !!! just because she would not give me Oral !!! Please Don't Tarnish all us Guys with the same Brush. . . . . .
Some of us Guys !!! Do respect our Partners Wishes
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Posted: 4/16/2009 7:18:22 AM | | I feel like adding more, I don't care if she swallows. I never did get off from oral but I have gone off in a lover's mouth several times, whatever they choose to do with it usually ended up being amazingly sexy to me. I won't go into detail though... | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 7:54:51 AM | | Seems like a man would be so caught up in the moment that he would not pay attention weather she would spit or swallow. I have done both and there has been no attitude eighter way. They have just been happy that I am so wonderful at what I do. Tongue, through, teeth, or hand I think it is the talent that the person has. If a man chooses to get his self off I think that he is not satisfied with what he is getting from his partner. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 8:36:44 AM | | I've never been a huge fan of BJs - I much prefer to give oral pleasure - but when getting one I really do like being swallowed. I dont see it as a dominance thing, its just accepting everything about your lovers body. As has been mentioned, attitude is key and most women that love giving oral and pleasing their partner love it enough to swallow. At least thats my experience. I'm also pretty kinky and if they think there's something gross or yucky about my cum, then there's no way we'd be sexually compatible, and hence we wouldnt be dating nor having sex. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 9:06:41 AM | | Don't care if she swallows or not just as long she aint cheating hahaha. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 10:33:00 AM | | I swallow my boyfriend and he's the only one I ever have. I think it's an emotional relationship type of thing. He was totally taken off guard that I swallowed at first, but now he's just used to it. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 11:42:24 AM | Let all be honest guys ...!
If a man is lucky enough to be with a woman that will care enough to take him to completion, it really doesn't matter if it ends up in the flower pot (had that happen to me once).
As for deep throat t to be honest again it's quite disturbing the gaging and extra vile that comes out just doesn't work for me. be yourself and do what you like your man will love you for it
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Posted: 4/16/2009 11:58:03 AM | | wtf....man you out there ..havn't had one in 18yrws ...and trust me they are the shit now that i get um ...if you can get to laugh while doin it , its the best! quit bein a homo dude,, | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 12:38:12 PM | To answer you're first question yes there is a different feeling between both.
As for deepthroating it's just a porn fantasy.
Enjoying it and your technique is all that matters.
And no a woman is not going to get tossed aside because she doesn't. I mean who would do that..... Eating crisps in bed maybe but not that. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 5:55:43 PM | If a man is lucky enough to be with a woman that will care enough to take him to completion, it really doesn't matter if it ends up in the flower pot (had that happen to me once).
Funny and thanks for your input. I personally have never been told I had to do both acts but wanted to know the dealio here. Of course I don't make a big deal of his cum when I dispose of it. Geeze I have tact and now I know your reasons for wanting it. Giving him a b.j. is a total turn on for me, in fact I have to have his c@ck every time sometime within the lovemaking session as I actually crave it. It's hard to explain but other women will understand what I mean. I can swallow only if it is a small load. It doesn't mean I love a man less because of it. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2009 6:19:24 PM | I think for me, swallowing and showing my enjoyment is part and parcel of giving a bj. It's almost like I am "loving" his c0ck, worshipping it. To spit or show disgust after he cums is very anti-loving. But to swallow and smile and say yum or Mmmmmm is showing my appreciation for what his c0ck does...it's raison d'etre...reason for being. Kind of like kissing but only closed mouth - it just isn't the same thing.
I think that's also part of the psychology for me behind having him cum on my face (lower half) - all over my open mouth, cheeks, chin, etc...and then smiling, licking what I can reach, adn then swallowing... adn then kind of giggling when he hands me a towel or wipes me off with the towel.
It's a very loving act, when I do it to completion. With a particular past partner, very often oral sex would be part of our foreplay or during play or end play...and that was fine. But sometimes, I just wanted to give him a bj and not include sex in the mix, because the bj was a "gift"...it was something for him, a way to give of myself as a "treat". Those were the times especially when I would really make happy noises and whatnot. LOL I'm not saying I wasn't sincere because I was... Let's just say I was hamming it up for his benefit.
And *That* is why I think letting him cum in a girl's mouth and her swallowing is important... If for some reason I couldn't do that (like texture issues), I think I would find a way to dispose of it discreetly, like turning away for a second and spitting into a tissue.
This particular guy, his ex-wife didn't like to have sex with him, didn't like his c0ck, and the one time he came in her mouth, she threw a royal fit, ran out of the room to spit it out, and told him he'd better not dare ever do that again. So I think much of what I developed with him sexually was done with helping him to feel wanted and desireable, to undo the damage that she did to him. Sometimes I'd sit next to him and just kind of idly play with him...one of the first times I did it he remarked that that was somethign she would have never ever done...no way in hell she would have touched him just for her own pleasure. SO...of course I took every opportunity offered to idly play with him, to reinforce that he was desireable.
We are no longer to gether but I'd like to think that my being with him helped him to be ready for a serious relationship, that he will be ready to let someone into his heart.
And I walk away from it learning just how much power we females have over a guy's sexual ego. That I have the power to make him feel like the biggest best man in the universe - just by loving his c0ck and showing it. And that a woman also has the power to make him feel small and worthless by hating his c0ck - and showing it. ALL men benefit by having their ego stroked when we give them loving bjs...and yes, swallow.
No different than how good I feel when I am nekkid with a guy for the first time and he sings praises about my body or parts. LOL We all get a little insecure and all benefit from someone taking a little extra effort to make the partner feel good, right? If swallowing does it, then why wouldn't you? | |
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