| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 12:46:27 PM | I would have not dated alot of these guys, but then, my sons would not be here.
I would have handled situations better back then, as now I am learning how to be more social. My present job is showing me alot of how to better cope with situatons, what to say, what not to say.
I was never allowed to date, so I never learned until now how to socialize well with guys. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 1:01:02 PM | @2equallyyoked
I'll bet everyone here would love that option! LOL | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:40:08 PM | I would change the fact that in a long ago relationship I constantly picked on my partner for his very poor use of the English language. Each time he said, more better, or goink (instead of going), and so many more glaring misprononciations and wordings, I would toss it in his face. He told me every time that he felt degraded when I did it. At first I used to ask him how he managed to get through high school without a teacher trying to put him on the right track.
I know I was mean, and if I could go back and simply ignore the errors, he could muddle through on his own, without being corrected. No one else seemed to be bothered by his way of speaking, so I truly wish that I hadn't been so hard on him.
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:41:54 PM | | I would have to second this as well. You learn from your stupid mistakes in life. If you didn't make those mistakes you wouldn't learn the hard way I suppose. There's no looking back for me anyway. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:47:00 PM | | hummmmm 26 yrs ago I would of looked him in the eye and told him how I really felt.....but then again....everything happens for a reason.......and my life turned out just fine not having told him so no regrets!..... | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:50:30 PM | | If I could rewind to 2005 I would have stopped myself from getting into a relationship with a man that was clearly on the rebound... | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:57:23 PM | Borrowed this from another POFer's profile. Thought it was appropriate considering the topic of discussion.
“When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
” - ©Hugh White. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:01:08 PM | Regrets, I’ve had a few; but then again, too few to mention. I often use to think that if I could turn back time, if I could find a way, I’d take back those words that hurt him and he’d stay…stay, just a little bit longer. However, I ultimately came to the conclusion that my life is better left to chance. I could have missed the pain, but I’d have had to miss the dance.
Until next time, keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars.  | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:07:04 PM | Duh Dah.....Duh Dah........
OT........Rewinding would only count and matter, if you could remember what and why you were doing it in the first place.
If we went back in time, who is to say that our minds and experiences would not also rewind, and we would be back at the same place that we were before, with the same experiences, not knowing what to do, or which way to go, just like before.
Just my opinion........   | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:38:56 PM | if it was possible I'd like to find a way to change who my dad was. If that's not possible, I'd go back to the day my date raped me and just avoid that situation at all costs.
There's a lot I'd go and change if we were allowed/able to do that.
Ah hell....just let me either redo my entire life with family, location, and stuff, or just make it to where I wasn't here. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:39:14 PM | I'm a chicken. I'm convinced that if I went back and re-did anything in my life, I'd be dead right now, or I'd set off a chain of reactions that would cause the apocalypse.
I'll count it all as lessons learned! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 4:50:14 PM | I only have one thing.
I wish I was as wise as I am now 20 years go. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2009 5:05:06 PM | Well said Archangel......Elvis put it this way " Regrets, I've had a few, yet to few to mention". And so forth! Heck, if I could rewind I'd do it in a heart beat!
Everyone has regrets, and most have said something they wish they wouldn't have, or emailed something they wish they wouldn't have...but that's life!
What do we do? LEARN! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:18:46 PM |
If you could somehow change one thing you've said,
First thing that came to mind was "I do". | |
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Posted: 4/11/2009 6:13:37 PM | | To be honest if I could live my life again the only thing I'd change is I wouldn't take up smoking. Every mistake I've made and every pain I've suffered in life has led me to be the person I am today and I like that person. Smoking is the only mistake I've made that has had zero positive benefit. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 6:36:54 PM | I think, there are a lot of times, when I did the wrong thing, but for the right reasons. Would I change them after wards?
I learned a lot from those mistakes, so would look at it that I would have just made them again, until I learned my ' lesson". I learn from my mistakes, sometimes over and over and over again!
Lifes a blast eh? | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 6:44:38 PM | is this confessional hour??.. cause i think i would need at least 2 (or 3.. alright.. 5!) days..  .. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:32:32 PM | November 1985... my junior year of college.
A 12-ounce bag of nacho cheese Doritos and a slightly-warm 2-liter bottle of birch beer... essentially consumed in one sitting. That set off a 4 month chain of health events that I'm still paying for in 2009. It didn't cause the health issue, but certainly kicked it to redline at a time when I could have taken care of it while it was still very mild and sporadic. It actually knocked me out of college, and I'm sure I would have been on a very different path of life than what actually came to pass. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:42:50 PM | there is absolutely nothing i would change. I'll admit ive made a lot of bad mistakes and choices in the past but its those mistakes/choices that we learn from to become a better person (stronger/wiser). If i went back and fixed all the mistakes/choices i made in the past i wouldnt be the person i am today. The past is the past, the future is tomorrow and the present is today.
Let sleeping dogs lie....  | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:44:05 PM |
If you could somehow change one thing you've said, done or didn't
say or do in a past relationship, what would that ONE thing be?
Maybe it was not even a past relationship, maybe it was a party
or a social event where you failed to say "hi" to a person you found attractive?
In retrospect, I believe we all have one thing we might change if
"Rewind" were possible. What's yours?
OP -- Even though I am "one of them" that believes that everything happens for a reason (as one poster so eloquently lost his mind over lol), there are several things I could do over...but why? Everything I've done, and all the things I did or didn't do led me to where I am today. The concept of rewinding our lives is a topic that everyone talks about frequently, but really would it be worth it? Just to say you can zig instead of zag? Just to say you can go left instead of right? I've seen enough shows, read enough books, and heard enough concepts about the ideal to rewind things that may actually put us in a far worse spot than we're in...and thinking that we'd be so much better off if we could do it all over again would actually ruin us, or in some cases end our lives.
The most common one I heard for the longest time was about Hitler and how so many would go back in time to undo what he did. Erase the atrocities. Ok and if we really could, and we did manage to prevent that particular thread in time from forming...what then? Who's to say that there wouldn't be someone right behind him immediately or just a while later that would commit such atrocities as to make what Hitler did seem so utterly pale in comparison?
Yet no one really contemplates that possibility.
I have.
This is why I've learned to accept things the way they are and the way they unfolded, good or bad. You have just as much chance to be dead right and your life could be exponentially better if you could undo or change something in your past...but those are long odds indeed. Admittedly, I'll just use one example personally...being able to go back and undo something, I know exactly what I'd undo (of the many many things) but then would I be where I am today? Better off? Worse off? Just delaying the inevitable perhaps? Maybe the result would still be the same just taking place a little while later...so now I've really just managed to get a brief respite from the sins of my past and sacrificed all else just for that brief moment of lucidity?
Not worth it.
Those odds are just too great a risk for me to even think about. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:46:47 PM | I'd like to rewind to Dec. 2005. Met a guy on another site; we clicked wonderfully online, e-mail and on the phone. Agreed to meet for dinner. I wish we'd met for lunch instead. I was so blown away by him when he came to pick me up that I somehow lost the ability to speak. You'd think by this age that wouldn't have happened, but hey - curly black hair, hazel eyes and a cute face, well, I'm only human.
I feel that if we'd met for lunch, starting by meeting at my office, I'd have handled the whole thing better. Just a gut feeling, but I've learned to go with my gut. This is the BIG reason I just meet for coffee. Dinner for a first meeting is too fraught with too many potential obstacles for me. More laid-back, casual seems to work better.
And I didn't get the ride on the Harley, either.  | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 8:47:37 PM | Those odds are just too great for me to even think about."BigDaddyJinx "
Respect your opinion. However, you are the last person on this site I would ever
Challenge verbally. You use words like ALI used his left JAB.
However, even though I was slightly too young to witness perhaps the
greatest thinker of my time here on earth, his words are my inspiration:
“There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why... I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?”
Robert Francis Kennedy ~)
I'll take those odds as not such a great risk , and ask why not?
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 9:43:09 PM | I'm with allinkedup when he says,
None of it, I would have missed the lesson in the mistake....
but as for this part...
No regrets, no resentment...
Well, I have plenty of regrets and resentments. I just try not to let then rule me. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/11/2009 10:14:42 PM | | I Would have never dated my ex...because then I wouldnt have been so vulnerable to my present boyfriend..who seemed like he was super man saving me from a torn relationship...but now i find out im in that situation again!!!! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 9:01:15 AM | @2-fives
Beware of the Superman coming to "save you" types,
they hold an invisable "Red Flag." | |
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