| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:07:40 AM | rewinding isnt an option, all we can do is learn from our experiences both positive and negative.
I guess if i rewinding was a posibility though i wouldnt have ever moved to Wales, pretty place but omg the discrimination, i guess iv learnt something from it though and now understand how others feel who have to deal with it on a day to day basis due to the colour of their skin, accent, religion etc. I always used to stand up for human rights, those who suffered racism in the uk, never realised being English in the UK would be so difficult for me personaly, its really increased my awareness of how people with different colour skin or cultural dress must feel in this place we call the United Kingdom. Im white, look like everyone else but omg the Welsh really let me know once they hear my accent how im so not wanted here. Really makes me feel for those how are refugees, they must have hell of a time in the uk with all the narrow minded folk here.
Ok im waffling on here but if there really was a rewind button id go back in history to prevent racist discrimination cause its such a horrible thing, maybe id go back as far as when boarderlines for countries were drawn up and prevent that happening creating one perfect world, even better going back to the time when man invented weapons of destruction and stop that too.
Ah all this sunshine has gone to my head, but maybe if there was a rewind button id consider the history of humanity rather than just my self. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:09:06 AM | | saw the title to this thread and i just have to say " re-wind..and the crowd say Bo-selecta!", i love my life and i wouldn't change anything about it.. otherwise i wouldn't be the man i am today :) | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:17:13 AM | **In retrospect, I believe we all have one thing we might change if
"Rewind" were possible. What's yours?**
When I was in grief group therapy for the newly shell-shocked widows and widowers, the older gentleman sitting next to me, turned to me and said "You're awfully young, aren't you?" I replied, "I have lived long enough to have regrets." The closest one within my age range was 27 years older than me. To this day, if I see one of our group grievers, they will still buy my coffee, or surreptitiously pay for my dinner if I encounter them while eating out. (I have tried to return the favor, but they are older and wilier...)
On the night before my husband's surgery, he wanted me to sleep in the hospital bed with him. I had a plethora of reasons why I didn't want to. The bed was waaay too small for the both us, it was uncomfortable, I didn't want to pull his IV out, etc,etc. And so I didn't. I did not know that would be the last time that I saw him, undrugged and breathing on his own.
That would be the moment I would wish to rewind. Even though, inside that one moment, that huge selfish act, began the greatest of changes within myself. I can definitely say, that I would not be the person who I am today, if I had not experienced such gut-wrenching guilt and regret. I would not be as open, more accepting of who people are and where they are at, more accepting of who I am and where I am at, a better friend and mother, grateful for the "little moments of pure real life", etc,etc.
I don't think that if I would have climbed in that bed, the world would have changed, or even have altered the outcome of the situation. But it is what it is. And I have to yet find that particular rewind button on the mythological remote control of life.
I bet when the OP posed this question he didn't expect to open a philosophizing can of worms. Methinks he should look at the coffee threads...
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:27:06 AM | Wow, divagreen, that is a moving post.
I had a chance to hug my Dad goodbye when he left for a trip to Britain...his first ever overseas.....he was so excited ......but there were so many people around it felt awkward..........I wished him well of course but no hug......
He passed from a heart attack in London on the first day.
That is the biggest single regret of my life.
Oh, to have that moment back. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:33:47 AM |
I wouldn't have slept with his younger brother.
GoneSailinBabe, you kinkster!!!!
Did you really?
Kinda strange, but on a much lighter note than my post above.....back in 1982, a very sexy co-worker came on to me...we got as far as my place when I decided I could not do it because she was married with a daughter.......and I missed out on a night of passion with the sexiest, best looking woman I ever would have been with!!!
I don't regret my marriage....I would not be a Dad without it and my there is nothing I could have done to keep my ex. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 12:02:28 PM | "I bet when the OP posed this question he didn't expect to open a philosophizing can of worms. Methinks he should look at the coffee threads..."
@divagreen,
Your post is inspiriation. I have no regrets starting this thread!
This is one of the choices where I wouldn't "Rewind" | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/12/2009 1:51:46 PM | I have more than one thing I'd like a Do Over on. For every moment that I have opened up my big fat mouth and unintentionally (or intentionally because I was mad) hurt someone with my words....yes, I'd love to be able to rewind those words.
Yes, those moments were an important growing opportunity for me; to learn to keep my hurtful words in check and to think with my heart before I open up my mouth. BUT do I really need to learn these lessons at the expense of someone else's feelings? | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 5:00:38 PM | Another poster quoted one of my favorite sayings that Robert Kennedy used. Actually, he got it from George Bernard Shaw. I always attributed it to RFK until recently.
I nearly wrote him in this past November when voting for president. RFK, not Shaw!  | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 5:54:17 PM | Regrets... yes, I have some regrets. Most of them involve my failure to be kind or compassionate in the moment. Or my failing to understand what was up for someone else and I lost that opportunity with them.
Yes, there was a girl I met at a high school reunion, who I never really knew when I was in high school but she said hello to me at the reunion. I said hello but my automatic reaction was remembering how she was never popular and made fun of. I wish now I was more kind and inquisitive about her and her life now. I did and still do regret that.
If we could rewind... I'd like to rewind to the date who exposed his penis in all its' glory to me, sitting back with a look of "isn't it awesome?' on his face. I was speechless at the time, but have thought of LOTS of witty things I ought to have said. Yeah, I'd like to rewind that moment.
Funny that happened to me too.... fortunately for me, I did have the opportunity to tell him how "cocky" he was!
there is nothing, not one person, who is more important than one's children, it was my job to teach them and protect them, and I failed
Dayna, I don't think there's one parent who's perfect in this world, and I'm sorry for what happened in your case but you didn't know, I hope your children and yourself can find forgiveness. Intentional harm and abuse is not the same as unintentional.
Regrets, I’ve had a few; but then again, too few to mention. I often use to think that if I could turn back time, if I could find a way, I’d take back those words that hurt him and he’d stay…
Worry, why do I let myself worry? Wonderin, what in the world did I do?
I don't think that if I would have climbed in that bed, the world would have changed, or even have altered the outcome of the situation. But it is what it is. And I have to yet find that particular rewind button on the mythological remote control of life.
So sorry for your loss... but your concerns were valid, if you somehow compromised his situation by doing that, you would regret that as well. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 8:26:19 PM | If I could rewind...I wish my birth had never happened.
 ...JMO | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 8:48:21 PM | Regret is a strong word. Do I have any? Sure... I wish I hadn't skipped graduation to work, I wish I hadn't thought the frilly dress would have been a waste of money, I wish I had traveled after high school instead of moving out the next day and jumping head first into the real world. I wish I'd have kicked that jerk to the curb a LOT faster and had never ever ever ever ever gotten that joint account!! I wish I had taken my Grandma on that last drive when she'd asked me to instead of worrying it would tire her out.
But... would I ever go back and CHANGE any of it? Maybe the Grandma bit, but for the rest... Naw. When I think about how far I've come, how hard I've worked, and all the life lesson's I've learned... I can't help but think I'm that much further ahead. Even though I never really got to just be irresponsible and reckless, I like who I've become, and I can't say I'd be me if I hadn't made those choices. Besides, I'm kinda glad I did it all early... kinda makes me think, *whew! That's over and done with!* Even though I'm sure there's much, much more to come! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 8:50:18 PM | shipoker, I don't think you're alone, there were times when I was growing up that I felt that way. But I read your profile and you sound like a nice person to know as a friend. I don't drink coffee but if I did I'd meet you at Dunkin Donuts to discuss further! I myself prefer wine. 
If you truly feel that way I'm sorry for why. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/13/2009 8:59:37 PM | | I would have never bought a woman I only knew 4 months, an expensive piece of jewerly. I would have gone straight to college right after high school, not stayed with someone for 6 years when i knew deep down that i wasn't in love, and getting more education so that I could have left NE Ohio a long time ago. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:38:08 AM | I have nothing that is as deep, sad or touching to replay as Divagreen...
But if I could replay certain things, this is what I would have replayed:
-Insisted on living with my Ex before marrying her... that alone may have resulted in us not getting married
-be much more forceful with some of the advice I gave to a friend with legal problems recently
-Last summer so I could have moved ALL of my investments into money market funds before the financial storm hit. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 7:59:09 AM | | I do believe there is a lesson in everything, however, the one thing I regret is not listening to my instincts on that first phone call last fall, when the writings didn't match the words and things didn't add up and I didn't listen to my instincts. But you know what they say, coulda, woulda, shoulda. At least now, I know better, even if I learned the hard way. At least I know now. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:32:17 AM | | I guess of all the screwed up things ive done in the past I'm ok with most of it cause its all panned out. aside from one thing which lingers, I took some silly advice on about how if you really want to meet your perfect mate you should make a list of what you want in a woman. down to the t, and leave it to the stars to deliver it. so in combining every feature i could ask for and by reflecting on my past to gain an understanding of who i am I did just that with very stringent details. ive found only one girl who meets all of that. and i dont meet her list. telling her i felt she was it, made her think im creepy, and desperate. which im not bad looking and im far from being the worst person alive. Ive never been one to say that sort of thing to a girl. typically i find every excuse in the book as to why someone isnt right. and trust me ive been a real jerk to some woman. so i took a long time off from women, to get more focused and to rationalize what i really did want. Ive went through every rule book for love, and tried all sorts of happy crap, and basically i think the best thing i can say is yea maybe the best advice is just to roll with it. and dont look back, cause looking back can hold you back, | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:34:47 AM | I have made a lot of mistakes, but I would only change one thing.
On March 19, last year- I would have kept my temper- not said mean things, and maybe he would still be alive. I have learned from that mistake. But the pain that so many have felt, and knowing that I contributed to that--I regret, and I would pay dearly to change. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:43:00 AM | | Ohhh this is a good one... just yesterday I managed to piss off a friend.. with one phrase which I said in sarcasm (sarcasm we BOTH know and feed off with for fun). I still don't understand what hidden meaning that phrase apparently has, that I'm even disliked by her roomy now! Grr... | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:02:18 PM | If you could somehow change one thing you've said, done or didn't
say or do in a past relationship, what would that ONE thing be?
I'd return to October 14, 2005 at about noon EST and rewind from there (about two years.) I'd relive and memorize every single moment. On 10/14/05? I'd re-do that day. Exact opposite of how I did it the first time around.  | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:49:59 PM | Life never hands you a problem without also a gift for you...you seek the problems because you need the gifts...
No way I'm gonna change anything...it would mean I wouldn't be the "me" I am today if I did! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:31:12 PM | | Thank you readyornot57, Stormwolf, Me Leona and my darling Zeke. You guys are awesome! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 3:14:43 PM | I personally believe that there are some things that are just meant to be.
But if I "could" ride that great machine back in time knowing what I know now....
1. I probably would not have placed Sister Mary's obituary in the Columbus Dispatch
when she unjustly gave me a "C" in track ..I was the school's star runner.
( she had issues and I was a smart ass...bad mix )
2. I would have listened more intently to my Father's words in his living years...
Great Creator, I do hear them now and in such detail.
3. I would have stayed in Manhattan and not returned to Florida.
4. I would have chosen a different DoJo for my daughter.
With all of the above? It 's called life experience ... we make choices, we're fallible and
we make the best of it and....
smile.
Enjoy this short ride. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 3:16:03 PM |
Regrets, I’ve had a few; but then again, too few to mention.
Frank Sinatra could not have said it better, "That's Life" people.
My life has been blessed after making all those mistakes in life and learning from them for the better!
Thank you life for giving me a that! | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 3:31:26 PM | This reminds me of those movies or books where someone has done time-travel and changed the course of events because they have knowledge after the fact. However, changing the course of events as they once were, also brings another chain reaction along with them. For instance, as just one example, had anyone changed their attitude about an ex g/f or b/f and stayed with them, you wouldn't have the exact same children you have now that you love to pieces....
I'm quite satisfied with letting my life play out as it has and will continue to do, based on what I've learned along the way and what I expect to continue to learn and experience. | |
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| If we could Rewind?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:17:43 PM | Chameleonf :
Your words ring so true when you mention the children...nothing there I would change
in that path, however hard it was and as young as I was I see it as the "best" experience,
then...and now. What a gift. | |
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