| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 4/13/2009 9:53:20 PM | Yes l think they do....l have stopped posting in the sex forums because it got me a lot of attention l didn't want and realized that some things were just best left unsaid. I also love to read the forums on others profiles, it provides a great insight to how they think and can lead to some great potential forum posting  .....it also can help weed out the liars as well. You read a profile that is looking for long term and reads beautifully in terms of things you are looking for but then the five posts on his profile are all about sex, entitlement issues, or raging about how no oneeee sees what a great guy they are and all women are biatches. So yeah it does but not all necessarily in a bad way | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 1:23:39 AM | I am able to write better than I'm able to describe a situation verbally and this has been evidenced on dates -- particularly with one person who said he admired me because I was a prolific writer.
I often do a user search to see if guy posts to the forums before I reply to an email. And although I don't read each and every one if he too is prolific, I will read a few to see where we stand on issues. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:56:48 AM | I know that I don't come across as I am, because some people don't believe what I say. Had a thread recently and a group of people insisted in that I was a jealous liar... Oh well...
If people choose to define me by what I can have written on a forum, without asking any further, it's their loss and I suppose it wasn't meant to be... | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:00:23 AM | | My profile and forum me are about the same as the other in person me, so that could be the explanation for ...Dating life? What's dating? | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:49:27 AM | | Anyone who use their real profile to post on forum are either: inexperienced and kind of dumb or has completely given up on fishing. I created this forum profile just for forum. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 12:16:35 PM |
Anyone who use their real profile to post on forum are either: inexperienced and kind of dumb or has completely given up on fishing. I created this forum profile just for forum.
Hence why so few people trust whom they are talking to.
I like that I talk the same way I post in real life, that my profile also speaks to who I am in real life and that when I meet someone, I don’t have to wonder what I need to keep under wraps. It’s very freeing not to have to hide and make up a persona a minute to cover lies. I guess I have a different definition of “dumb”. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 12:43:40 PM |
I created this forum profile just for forum.
And I reported you for it. There's a reason that's against POF rules.
I am totally okay with prospective dates seeing this on my posting history should they care to look. Shocking, isn't it?
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 2:21:30 PM | Helen you go girl!!!!
Why would someone, create a fake profile, just to be on the forums. I'm not scared!
I can use my real profile to say my peace! I don't think we're the dumb ones!
Get a life, buster !
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 2:46:16 PM | I try to type exactly how I talk in real life. According to others, I achieve this.
Also to note is the reason why I use so many emoticons; I'm pretty animated, according to those who know me, and I want to convey as much personality/emotion through the screen as possible.
Lastly, there is also nothing I say online that I wouldn't say in real life. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:05:20 PM |
And I reported you for it. There's a reason that's against POF rules.
How about reporting the guy that said i looked like a convict. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:39:26 PM | A POF forum is all about writing. I write what's on my mind, women write me off.
A real date is about verbal communication. I tell the ladies what's on my mind, they tell me to fvck off.
So I guess it's about the same. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:51:30 PM | Yes.... I am sarcastic and very dry witted in person.
Often on the forums I come across as a b*tch. Often in real life I come across as a b*tch. In other words most people don't get me in real life and I find that here as well. *shrug* | |
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Posted: 10/19/2009 4:57:03 PM |
kind of dumb
Admitting that you created a fake profile was pretty smart.
Helen is my hero..
I wish my forum post would still be under my profile... | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:05:52 PM |
A POF forum is all about writing. I write what's on my mind, women write me off.
A real date is about verbal communication. I tell the ladies what's on my mind, they tell me to fvck off.
So I guess it's about the same.
Haha! Awwww | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:25:54 PM | Well - I guess this explains why I cant get a date.
Huge impact on my dating life. My dating life does not
exist.
I guess Im a piranha here- LOL!! | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:33:28 PM | I actually liked when the last 5 forum posts showed on people's profiles ...
... you could tell more from the forum posts than the testimonials, that's for sure!
I'm posting as myself, so I'm not too worried about what I write ... it is really ME.
However, I do try to keep my dirty mind in check just a wee bit.
No need to revel toooooo much.
Doesn't always work, but I try.
 
Edit: I miss those "SEX and DATING" threads ... that was some fun lurking!!!
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:12:01 PM | I like read men's posts and understand why they don't talk nice and analyze what makes them angry to women but still look for women. Anyone who sent me a message acted in the similar way, I would block him... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 7:29:01 PM | I will have my say THEN go back and read other posters' say...I do that a lot on the forums.
FarmExe: Fantastic thread! I have pondered this question Also discussed it with friends (and my grown kids!). Mixed reviews...
This is how I see it. I don't put on pretenses for anyone anywhere in my life...what you get is what you get with me. And that could change at any minute. So I am not for the faint hearted (Gents take note). I reserve my right to be who I am in any given moment and that is how it is with me across all pof contacts.
I realize that this is not a good positioning for everyone on pof to adopt. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 4:26:45 AM | Can you say "living in integrity?"
Popeye really said it most succinctly...
"I yam what I yam..."
What you see is what you get no matter where it may be...don't need to "hide" behind assumed identities, say what I mean, mean what I say...
Get the picture?!?!  | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/24/2009 4:43:53 AM |
Hence why so few people trust whom they are talking to.
I like that I talk the same way I post in real life, that my profile also speaks to who I am in real life and that when I meet someone, I don’t have to wonder what I need to keep under wraps. It’s very freeing not to have to hide and make up a persona a minute to cover lies. I guess I have a different definition of “dumb”.
I just can't sleep and probably shouldn't be posting when I'm tired but this seems to me to address the topic without defensiveness - it seems people are reacting quite defensively to what seemed to me to be a simple question.
If I were looking for a relationship I'd definitely give more weight to postings than to profiles. Articulation is important to me and if someone is obviously inarticulate, narrow minded, hostile.....anything I did not find attractive, then it's good for both parties that it's out there and we can make a decision on how we feel.
I fully agree that putting forth a false persona (or hiding who you really are) is rather pointless and will only cost you time spent with people who are looking for the false you not the real you. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/24/2009 5:33:21 AM | | I do not consider the forum such an addition to my profile. The forum gives us the opportunity to express our thoughts and suggestive help to others in situations they request help and advice from. Its something we ourselves may or may not have been through. Where as the profile section is designed as a self interpretation and future goal of yourself. Most people on the forum are not near or within your dating range location so for the most part it is irrelavent and the forum can be very helpful for what its purpose is. The forum isnt meant to be an extension of or dating profile unless someone whos intrested in your profile does a searh of your forum life. | |
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