| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/24/2009 7:04:55 AM | | ^^^^^^^^I agree Serenity up until the “forum isn’t meant to be and extension” line, it is an extension for those who seek to know the person they are contacting or talking with. I have used it and have been amazed at what their forum persona is compared to what their profile says, I have seen vicious, rude and judgmental posters and then checked their profiles and it seems like they are the sweetest things on earth looking for everlasting peace along with walks on the beach! Or others who show endless self confidence in their profiles only to see a never ending run of pity forum posts about how life did them wrong. Those an extreme differences that I want no part of. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:50:20 AM |
say what I mean, mean what I say...
About communications, many American studies show American cultural value of "say what I mean, mean what I say". In reality, many guys lie about everything for their egos. The American communication theory is fake and has never been generalized from the reality but these fake researchers' mindset. However, I appreciate everyone's posts as I have learned a lot. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:17:17 PM | I suppose whatever you post in the forums could work for or against you as far as what someones opinion is of you after they read some of your recent post.
Sometimes I'm in a strange mood and I'll just be sarcastic or alittle warped with what I write,but if that ends up turning someone off,well that's just a version of me that comes out somtimes,sorry in advance,but I don't get nasty or mean though. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:45:26 PM | [Have you ever stopped to think about how your forum personality compares to how you come across in person? Do you feel or have you been told that the way you come across on the forums accurately represents you in real life meeting or dating situation?]
Not even close. never seen this happen yet.. These forums merely bring out the inner personality. AKA. The person they want to be...
In first posting on this site, I was straight up, honest.never a negative thought. Bingo, I get warning ! ?? why used to many smiley faces, damn unhappy people /
next step .. after beinng Hammered, step on, pushed to the curb ..
post in the manner accepted on this site, damn .. ban for 3 days why, I said some about an Ex , same type wording I've seen time after time in print on this site.
Ok, I'm a bad boy now, Sooo where's the babes ??
take some time look up a music video by the name marty and willie | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:13:38 PM | I type in the forums, as I would speak in person.
I am always respectful, but I do reserve the right to have and offer an opinion in some circumstances.
Unless you have a side to you that you are not proud of, there is no need to concern yourself with this. If you do have a side you aren't happy with, deal with it, it only causes you harm in the long run. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:21:25 PM | | Can someone find our forum posts now that they aren't on the bottom of our profiles anymore? If you search and come across a profile you like, how can you find out if they post in the forums? The history is not there on the profile that you see when you do the search. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:56:43 PM | | My forum posts are a reflection of my heart and mind, so ...probably a good thing if someone read my posts and wanted to meetup. Can't see why I would want to separate one from the other | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:11:26 AM | Cripes, I wish people would read my forum posts. I have not absolutely a gotdam thing to ashamed about - and if they did I'm sure it would only bring about the people I wanted to communicate with and not those I'm not interested in. I'm pretty dam sure I come across pretty dam straight and pretty dam well. I reflect everything I say in my profile. If people can get with that, bring it on and we can converse. If not, then keep a-steppin. I am not like a lotta people on her or at myspace - want my inbox blowing up with bullshit messages or trying to get as many 'friends' as I can for quantity and not quality. I'd rather have a few good friends or a few good potential emails that I can relate too - and the forums are just an extension of what I posts in the profile. I wouldn't change a thing or have a different profile for dating and a different one for posting. If what I posts limits the amount of responses I get - that's fine with me. In this - it's quality over quantity.
Being on messageboards has helped bring out my my opinionated personality in real life. Sometimes I didn't know where I stood on an issue or how exactly I felt until I commented and it was all too clear. My mind can be changed in instant from what I write or what someone else writes. Or something can be confirmed in my mind. It's very insightful.
At that has come out in real life. I fear not making the same comments in real life as I do on here. My opinions are too heavy-handed for some people to grasp but I think I bring them across in a way that mostly non-offensive and relate-able. I said 'mostly' because it depends on the person. I can't please everybody with everything I say and I am not trying to. And everyone can't please me with everything I say and they shouldn't try. Sometimes that difference of opinion make for a good insightful discussion or even an insightful argument.
As it stands, I post whatever I want to say without hesitation and without regard to what others may think. But only on the forums do you feel this way because you say you had a different profile for dating and were apprehensive about how or what your posts would represent you. So one of these - either yourself in person or what you posts on these forums - is not a complete representation of who you are.
Not saying that I care or that is bad, I'm just saying that is what it appears to be. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:29:01 AM |
Can someone find our forum posts now that they aren't on the bottom of our profiles anymore? If you search and come across a profile you like, how can you find out if they post in the forums?
Great question..I think you have to actually find someones forum posts, than you can click on history, to find more of it.
Wonder why the posts no longer on the bottom of your profile?
I prefer whoever wants to contact me, to read my posts. And prefer to read some of hers. Give me more inside about her. Course there isn't many posters from Albuquerque. I representing this city..LOL..That's a lot of pressure on me..LOL | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:17:27 AM | | click the search button on the forum page and select "username" from the drop down and type their name, you will get everything. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:44:47 AM |
If you search and come across a profile you like, how can you find out if they post in the forums?
Go to the main page of the forum main and enter their username in the thread search function - select Username from the Thread Title drop-down menu (3rd one down) and press Search. This will take you to a page that shows l the recent threads they posted in - find the shortest one so that it's easier to come across their post and when you do, just click on their posting history.
Also, we're allowed to include a link to our posting history on our profile which makes it easier for those who may be interested in knowing a little more about us than our profile allows:).
As far as my forum personality impacting my dating life...well, I'm not dating at the moment so that takes care of that. But if I was looking to date, I would strongly encourage a person who might be interested in getting to know me better to view my posting history. And if there was a mutual interest to take things further (but before we do), there is one thread in particular that I posted in a couple of years ago (under my first profile/username) that I would direct them to...it saves me a lot of typing and even though a few words on a page can't come close to telling the whole story, it opens a window for discussion - it also gives them the opportunity to bail out early if they need to.
Anyway, my posts are a mishmash of some of the views and opinions I have on various topics that come mostly from my own observations and/or personal experiences.
And I can't see the point in wanting to get to know someone under false pretences - who and what I am today is a sum of all my experiences so far - some good, some bad, some ugly. And while I can understand that the past is in the past, the past is also what helped shape the person I am/have become today -  ,  or just plain  is (mostly) a matter of opinion;).
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:39:17 PM |
Go to the main page of the forum main and enter their username in the thread search function - select Username from the Thread Title drop-down menu (3rd one down) and press Search. This will take you to a page that shows l the recent threads they posted in - find the shortest one so that it's easier to come across their post and when you do, just click on their posting history.
When I put someone's name in the thread search, the drop down menu goes to the names of all the forums. It does not give me an option of username. What am I doing wrong? | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:08:03 PM | | I don't care what effect my forum posts have on my prospects. I have decided I no longer care to "impress". If a viewpoint/ sentence/word triggers the off switch on somebody who might be in to me otherwise if I had "said all the right things" I don't want that person anyway because they aren't compatible with me and possibly too damn unrealistic/judgmental/un-pleaseable if they are attracted to certain things but not others about me. You want the cake? Eat it. Or throw the whole thing out because some orange sprinkles are on it that you don't care for. I'm not concerned anymore. | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:41:17 PM |
I don't care what effect my forum posts have on my prospects..
true that. Besides - now that our forum posts are no longer attached to our profiles it doesn't really matter.
Funny thing is that 99% of the guys that contacted me from here never even knew about the forums until I told them... | |
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| Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:11:19 PM |
When I put someone's name in the thread search, the drop down menu goes to the names of all the forums. It does not give me an option of username. What am I doing wrong?
It's at the very top of the list - try to scroll your screen/mouse all the way up and see if that works.
I wish I could copy and paste or take a screen shot to show you but it won't let me copy and hell will surely freeze over before I know how to take a screen shot of anything...anyway, good luck:)
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