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Posted: 4/12/2009 2:38:56 PM | ....Means someone has bought into the syrupy smarm in those Harlequin romance novels.. ugh
It's comes off rather pretentious...someone who expects to be catered to/ rather delusional...
A man needs only to be himself , genuine and sincere... no smarm needed..
it's kind of like a woman telling me i have to work real hard, give her all my attention, think ultra creatively and spend quite a bit of dough, buying flowers, dinner, chocolates, an oaktree of hallmark cards, vacations to Vegas, little late nite calls saying "i'm thinking of you" and the willingness to donate one of my kidneys in the event she needs one. in other words the dreaded "HIGH MAINTENANCE WOMAN!!!!"
ROFL !! damn skippy!!! hahahaha
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Posted: 4/12/2009 2:40:11 PM | | If I were you, I'd consider sweeping her off her feet...if she were to do the same thing for you...Personally, I just think it is a meaningless thing that women say who have been read too many fairy tales as children!! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 2:41:36 PM | "HA, funny, however, in answer to the OP's query"
@SamuraiPixie,
Grape Koolaid & Cheddar popcorn????? Are you serious?
I can't email you because of your restrictions, however, I'd
love to hear more about that! LMAO | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 3:06:07 PM | | Generic, subjective statements like "sweep me off my feet" are going to mean different things to different people. I think the thing to do is to look at it within the whole context of the person'r profile. Odds are, a high-maintenance type is going to have in their profile several other clues that give away their nature. | |
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| sweep me off my feet?
Posted: 4/12/2009 3:33:42 PM | OP, you sound like a bitter guy. Plus, you don't get it. Men are the first to tell you they think differently from women and you're not really impressing the women here trying to think like us or interpret what being swept off one's feet is. It costs nothing to do so. The attitude you're attaching to being swept off the feet is being confused with "wine and dine" - that would be your high maintenance girl. Watch Princess Bride for swept off the feet.
I have two grown sons and I have seen them both sweep. Quality number one: this isn't performed on just any girl you go out with. Real feet-sweeping is done when the guy actually is head over heels. One of them was in love for the first time. He was broke. He was a musician and had no money to buy his girl something for her birthday. He made a bracelet, a ring, and earrings out of guitar strings for her. I told him the solder might be a problem because of the lead, so I bought some silver solder for him and he made them again using the right material.
My youngest has done the same. Made chicken soup for her when she was sick. Sweeping has the benefit of causing the woman to fall deeper and deeper with every sweep. It's not about having your way with her. It is an expression of genuine love and effort to express your feelings to a woman. It requires someone who isn't a player and is able to fall in love. Doing this sweeping without actual love involved is seduction. You can't be bitter to do this. Men who are sweeping you off your feet are really NOT aware they are doing it.
It flows naturally from them.
It sounds like some of the guys who posted actually get it. Like I said, you do this when you really feel something, otherwise it is manipulating. Yes, it does take some effort. There's a recent thread about that topic. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 3:40:28 PM | Whoever states something as off the wall as that is stupid and considers themselves a "princess". I recently met a woman who is in her 30's who really does think she is a "princess" and perfect in every way.
She thinks she deserves the best treatment from her man to include manicures, pedicures, clothes, new furniture, jewelry, shoes, vacations and she has stated that she would kill him if he ever cheated on her because the vows say, "til death do us part."
Now, I think I'm pretty fine and because I'm a good woman, deserve respect and to be treated kindly and with adoration and love that is unconditional, but sheesh!!!
Who ever told this woman that she was all that? She is deluding herself if she thinks she is deserving of all those things.
I don't expect someone to sweep me off my feet. If and when I meet that special someone, I will be light hearted and have that giddy feeling but he doesn't have to do anything special, just be himself.
IF he is himself and he is just right for me, I will be swept off my feet so to speak and will fall into that zone I know so well, where the birds sing just for you, everything smells so wonderful and feels so great and the smile is always there warming you from the inside out. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 3:51:22 PM | ^^^^I agree with Zephyr. I don't usually get a along with women who think they deserve to be treated like a "princess." Give me a break! Hey, this reminds me of a new country song "White Horse" by Taylor Swift. If you like country music, you'll probably know which line I'm referring to.
Men and women deserved to be treated well in a relationship. If I'm into someone, I'm going to do nice things for him. I would expect the same. I certainly don't expect to be impressed, wined and dined or anything along those lines. Romance is great, but would I love a romantic weekend away or something? Yes, of course. But I'd be cautious of any woman with "sweep me off my feet" in her profile. She may read way too many of those romance novels. Life just isn't a romance novel! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 4:07:16 PM | If you are searching profiles around your age, I would scream and run the other way because it is indicative of the person that wants, even more than a relationship, that giddy totally hormonal insanity that we sometimes experience when in the throes of a new romance.
Egotistical? Not really, just someone that remains hung up on the stuff of romance novels and romantic comedies. I would think it also implies that they expect you to jump through some hoops to impress them but it does not necessarily correlate that they expect you to do all the jumping, perhaps she intends to sweep you off yours as well.
Most of us have at least a part of us that would like a guy or gal to be so wowed by us that they want to spend all of their time with us, want to do the flowers, home-cooked meals, or whatever we all do to impress a potential significan other and yet, if you are a grown-up, someone that is actually willing to blow off their entire life to sweep you off your feet, not so much. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 4:14:59 PM | Well, I think it goes with the term Head over Heels!
It's an idea of romantic achievement. It's the fairytale. And I think anybody would be lying if they said they DIDN'T want to fall in love... head first (or head then heels...).
Here's the thing... romantic gestures and fairytale dates aren't always sincere. Sure it's nice when a guy acts chilverous, but I much prefer the comfortableness that comes after several months of getting to know somebody. It's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind at the beginning... but being swept off your feet means nothing if the guy won't be there to catch you and keep you from slamming your head on the concrete. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 4:55:55 PM | "Come on Suz, you know you want to meet that one, that know he can back you up against the door and have you melting out of your clothes before the zippers have been undone......
Oh wait.... I think that was my imagination running amok.... Sorry.... will reing the hormones back in...... spring is in the air.... little buggers are trying to make an escape....... LOL"
LMAO, in my book that isn't being swept off your feet that's being ravaged ala Henry the VIII and The Tudors, and that's a whole other story, with it's own set of merits and benefits... God I love that show, good grief, Jonathan Rhys Myers is perfection... mean as a snake, but then again that was Henry the VIII, but none the less, Jonathan is in great form... in any event, back to ravaged, whole other story and like I said not without it's very own set of merits... 
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Posted: 4/12/2009 5:00:09 PM | "Family Dollar stores, have a greeaaatttttttt brand of that, and it's just a buck a bag... just as good as the expensive brands.
^^ awesome, spontaneous, frugal tip of the day... brought to you by CheapPopcornLuvrs-R-Us..."
I'm not kidding, I might be the odd duck, and that's entirely a possibility, but to me sweeping me off my feet is about the little things, and that gesture of not only remembering that something as innocuous as grape koolaid and white cheddar popcorn were my favorites, was not only charming but endearing on every level, going so far as to remember it enough to go out his way to buy them, and stock the pantry with them, that to me, was amazing. And clearly there is nothing inherently romantic about grape koolaid or white cheddar popcorn, it was just more about the entire gesture. Anyone can remember what your favorite color is or what your favorite flower is, that's actually pretty typical in most relationships, but to remember grape koolaid and white cheddar popcorn, not so much.
STORM - uh, restrictions, I'll have to see what that's about, I tried to be as open as possible on my profile so that pretty much anyone got the chance to email me. As for the grape koolaid and white cheddar popcorn, there's not much to tell, that was pretty much the long and the short of it. Like I said I can't recall the manner in which the whole conversation came into play, but somehow it did, and I remember that thereafter, every time I went over to his house there were my two favorite snacks in the pantry, and given that the week before I had laid waste to the previous batch, it would stand to reason that he went out of his way to go to the market, find the items and restock. THAT to me is probably the best example of what I consider being swept off my feet. Again, I'll reiterate I'm probably an odd duck, and everything the OP states that he reads into the statement being swept off one's feet, notwithstanding, to me it's just the simple gestures. It has nothing to do with anything inherently romantic, although that's indeed, always nice, but it has more to do with the little things, i.e., a stocked pantry, cooking me dinner even if dinner is nothing more than fish sticks & a nice bottle of wine because that's all he can cook without setting off the fire alarms in the entire neighborhood, filling up my car's gas tank because he knows I hate to do that & checking the air in my tires (not really sure why but I just despise having to do these chores). To me it's really the little things. Again, not to say that those grand gestures are not appreciated in their own right, but it's not something I'd necessarily expect to be an everyday thing, more out of practicality than anything else. I'm also not going to blow sunshine up your hoo-hoo and tell you I don't appreciate and love getting the roses, and the rest of it, but I will tell you this much, that I would prefer a single rose, you chose yourself and well thought out love note, than I would a dozen store bought roses and a forest of Hallmark cards, because in my opinion that's the easy way out. ANYONE can throw a $100 at a florist and say pick me 12 of the best, it takes a certain kind of detail & attention for a guy to remember the rose that I personally favor, find the only store in the city that carries them, drive out of his way to get me one, and bring it to me with a sweetly written note attached to it. THAT rose will go in my scrapbook along with the note, the Hallmark card & the dozen that were left to the florist to chose, might get dried out and be made potpourri, but it won't hold any particular sentiment beyond what I would feel in that circumstance.
That's just me.
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Posted: 4/12/2009 5:35:42 PM | i see on several female profiles the rather egotistical challenge for the male reader to "sweep me off my feet." this implies several things to me but what does it mean to you.?
It means I write to them and inform them "Your every command is my deepest and only wish".
That jams their gears sufficiently that I can be sure to never hear back from them.
Problem solved. 
BTW - there's a whole book on this topic from 25 years ago which is quite excellent; it was written by Carol Cassell when she was President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists:
"In Swept Away: Why Women Confuse Love and Sex, Dr. Cassell's straight forward approach helps you see why women need to be "swept off their feet" in order to love; how guilt plays a role in a woman’s inability to stay emotionally detached; and where the myths of Mr. Right and "good" and "bad" girls come from… and more." (from her website)
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Posted: 4/12/2009 5:40:03 PM |
sweep me off my feet?
That simply means that she wants you to buy her lots of shiny new things. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:24:10 PM | we're getting all kinds of responses here.
to PARAPHRASE some:
she wants a fairy tale.
she wants little things done for her.
she wants expensive jewelry.
she's living a life as a princess wannabe.
she's high maintenance.
she wants you at her beck and call.
she wants you to correct the mistakes of past lovers. (my favorite)
it's all over the board. but i'm getting the impression from most women that it means the little things and not just at the beginning but onward. a note here and there. her favorite beveridge stocked in the fridge. a flower on the bed or maybe some rose petals. a phonecall or text message at bedtime saying "thinking of you".
do you have anymore? | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:29:23 PM | | I believe it means she wants to be mowed over by a man in a street cleaner. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:32:53 PM | Sweep me off my feet
Grooms do it to their wife just b4 he enters the new house with the picket fence lol
Means just that i reckon .
So when i see that on a profile..... mmmm serious member lol | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:34:23 PM | | To me it means, they expect the guy to do all the work, and they don't want to put in as much effort. To me, it sounds "lazy". And if I was a guy, those are women I'd avoid if they put that in their ad. They sound "high maintenance" to me. These women don't seem to realize, that guys want to be swept off their feet too. It has to go both ways. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:35:37 PM | Do you want or need more?
Bottom line, it means that you will do things to show that you care but you cannot do them without knowing the woman. Some women like flowers, some would rather stick a needle in their eye.
What we want is someone that will take the time on a regular basis to show that they care. If your normal routine is not doing these things then for God's sake, stop shining it on in the beginning and then not following through with it later.
And that's exactly why I don't want to be swept off my feet. I want a nice normal man that cares enough to show it and appreciates the fact that I do, shouldn't be that hard to find and yet it seems to be.
As I wrote this I was trying to remember if my X stopped doing the things he did in the begining. I think he still did some of them but the nature of things, they were not done freely or from kindness so it is not the doing alone, it is whether you really mean it or are just going through the motions. When you are ripping someone a new one for whatever, bringing home that bag of popcorn doesn't mean much. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:37:36 PM | Yeah, I thought that was a great idea, sweeping a girl off her feet.
Boy was I wrong. Dropped down and sweeped her legs right out from under her.
One assault charge later........
In all seriousness, until they make cars with auto-door opening, I'd say a girl has to pick one or the other, otherwise that's dangerous.
But really, this time seriously, as much as I am inclined to follow through with my hopeless romanticism, try and be a gentleman and as chivalrous as I can be.... It's also a two way street. If I'm going to try and 'sweep a girl off her feet,' she better jump up a little bit so I'm not lifting her completely off the ground.
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Posted: 4/12/2009 6:38:00 PM | "it's all over the board. but i'm getting the impression from most women that it means the little things and not just at the beginning but onward. a note here and there. her favorite beveridge stocked in the fridge. a flower on the bed or maybe some rose petals. a phonecall or text message at bedtime saying "thinking of you"."
I think the foregoing is a pretty accurate assessment of what it potentially means for some of us, but then again you can't pigeonhole an entire gender. It's gonna mean different things to different people, your best bet is to find out what it means for your particular SO and go with that if your SO floats your boat enough that your inclined to do those things for him or her. It goes both ways. If I love someone, I'm going to find out what those little special things are and try to accommodate him in any way I can. It might be stocking his favorite kind of beer, even though I may not particularly care for it, or his favorite blend of coffee, brand of OJ, and cereal, or finding out what his favorite book is and tracking down a first edition as a just because I was thinking of you gift; none are inherently romantic in their own right by any stretch, but they all do express the sentiment that I was thinking of you and considering your tastes and likes and I was observant enough to wanna do something about it because you're the cream filling in my twinkie and the toy surprise in my cracker jack box.
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:01:17 PM | I've stated it before.... But the sweetest thing ever done for me, was when I was dating this one man......Turned out to be a jackass, but damn he was sweet in the beginning.
EVERYTIME he opened my car door, he would help me into the car, reach across me for the seatbelt and while snapping it in place would give me a little kiss. I just thought it had a very nice touch to it..... | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:19:47 PM | ^^^^^^^^^some of the glamour girls i've been out with didn't want to be kissed before or during the date because it messed up their lipstick! COMMENT? | |
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Posted: 4/12/2009 7:20:45 PM | But there it is, an example of something, a small, tender, loving gesture, that is enough to sweep most of us off our feet... for me personally, some other things that have gone over big, that guy that took care of me when I had food poisoning and was begging to be put out of my misery, who was also the one who actually befriended my one dog at the time, called him his, "little buddy" and took him for road trips to the McDonald's Drive thru, or the one who took dancing lessons because of my love for dancing and his desire to take me dancing... two exceptional guys in their own right, but we wanted different things in our lives at that time. So again, another vote for the little things, and the little gestures that are actually extraordinarily telling...
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Posted: 11/11/2009 6:59:20 AM | when you see this in a woman's profile,
what does it mean.......sweep me off my feet? a woman's version of a guy's favorite porn flick. the things that happen to trip your trigger.
i get the impression that from the profile stating that they want you to sweep them off their feet that you are to do this RIGHT AWAY. not down the road but in the first 3 dates!
am i wrong ladies???? | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 7:14:47 AM | | Depending on the profile, I don’t see it as a negative; I guess its all in the asking. When I react to it as a positive it means, can you “melt me” on a deeper level. I don’t however see it as a challenge, I either will or I won’t. When it’s a negative, its said out of what can you do for me. To me, there is a difference. | |
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